True Colors provides a clear, fundamental and universal way of translating complicated individual perspectives to help overcome the barriers to progress.
11/10/2017
RAINN works tirelessly to improve our judicial system's handling of s*x crimes. Please help them continue their work by making a donation. This is my birthday wish! https://www.facebook.com/donate/379173649186622/379173652519955/
11/09/2017
Over 300,00 Americans (over the age of 12) were s*xually assaulted or r***d last year. LAST YEAR! RAINN doesn't just offer victims and survivors of abuse help, they also work hard to improve the way perpetrators are prosecuted.
Please help me celebrate my birthday by donating to RAINN
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11/08/2017
As every survivor knows, the trauma of abuse impacts your mental and physical well-being. My health has always been a yo-yo. My immune system never seemed to function properly. About 5 years ago, I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. A year ago, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's disease and Fibromyalgia. In 5 years I went from weighing 130lbs to 170lbs. The weight packed on slowly. [ 222 more words ]
Getting Healthy As every survivor knows, the trauma of abuse impacts your mental and physical well-being.
11/06/2017
Please help me celebrate my birthday by making the difference in someone else's life.
Celebrate my birthday This year I would like to celebrate my birthday by making a difference in the lives of others.
11/02/2017
Don't let your past define or confine you
Another Win As I walked across the stage, it hit me. Everything in my life had changed.
10/12/2017
Last night as I was journaling about my day, my struggles, and my accomplishments, I had an epiphany of sorts. This past month I've been struggling emotionally and I couldn't figure out why. Suddenly it hit me. Things are going well. I'm on my own for the first time in my entire life. I'm the one making decisions, paying all the bills, etc. [ 524 more words ]
The Thing No One Talks About What if… That hateful phrase runs through our brains. What if I’m really not smart enough to get my degree? What if I really am that ugly? What if I’m really not worthy? What…
Today is the 12th day of Domestic Awareness month. One thing that continually makes me shake my head in disbelief is when I hear someone say "you don't look/act like you've been abused."
Most of my life has been filled with one form of abuse or another. Childhood s*xual, physical, and emotional abuse to adulthood domestic abuse. I've had black eyes, split and swollen lips, bruised ribs, and numerous other bruises and injuries.
"yeah but you are so strong now...why can't you just let it go and move on?"
I've almost jumped out of moving cars because someone moved their arm too quickly and my instinct was to keep from getting hit. I've run away from arguments because I was afraid of what would happen. All because I've spent almost three decades of my life being s*xually abused, hit, kicked, spit on, told I was stupid, ugly, and not worthy of love or even kindness. I've been called a w***e, a slut, and trash. Now you have the audacity to tell me to "just get over it?"
"ok, but you've been through therapy. why aren't you fixed yet?" You mean you think I should be treated like a car or a piece of plumbing?
"well no, but..."
I have moved forward. I have a good job, I have a BA in psychology, I'm getting ready to graduate with my PRMA. I have two beautiful, strong, intelligent children who are becoming amazing young adults. I am slowly finding my voice, my purpose, and my passion. I'm accepting my past and choosing to make my present and future a much better place to be.
However, my past will always be there. It will creep up in secret and try to steal my present. It is an ever present darkness lurking in the corners of my world. It takes all the strength I have to keep it there instead of allowing it to overtake me EVERY DAY I make a conscious effort to shine brightly so I make overtake the darkness.
If you are struggling as well, if you need to get out, there is help. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224. And as always, you can PM me.
10/03/2017
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Personally, I don't know that I like the "awareness" term as the world is aware of domestic violence. I think it needs to be called domestic violence survivors celebration month. The reason is two-fold. Any time we share our stories, we bring awareness. Domestic violence stories are in the news on a daily basis. The awareness is there. [ 424 more words ]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Personally, I don’t know that I like the “awareness” term as the world is aware of domestic violence. I think it needs to be called…
09/15/2017
Recently, I had a complete meltdown and almost ruined a relationship. I had to do some major reflection and I came to the following conclusion. There are three types of people when discussing abuse; victim, survivor, or thriver. VICTIM: noun. [vik-tim] A person who suffers in some way, who complains about his or her given circumstances and does not attempt to alter them. [ 271 more words ]
Victim, Survivor, or Thriver There are three types of people when discussing abuse; victim, survivor, or thriver.
08/04/2017
I recently received a message from a friend of mine. He told me about a young lady he met on a flight. He said she was obviously addicted the m**h and was "tweeking" on the flight. She would not stop talking to him and during the short four hour flight, had told him her life story. He said, "it was very similar to yours, minus the addiction." She told him about her abuse, multiple husbands, homelessness, etc. [ 344 more words ]
http://healingsoulblog.com/2017/08/04/strong-brave-smart/
Strong, Brave, Smart I recently received a message from a friend of mine. He told me about a young lady he met on a flight. He said she was obviously addicted the m**h and was “tweeking” on the flight. …
07/20/2017
So often we seem to be tied to our past. We either bind ourselves or others restrain our forward movement with reminders of yesterday. We continue to limp along, broken wings and all, until we either give up or learn to break free. It isn't easy, in fact it could be the hardest thing you ever do. It requires cutting the ties that bind, leaving behind the known and embracing the unknown. [ 357 more words ]
http://healingsoulblog.com/2017/07/20/broken-wings/
Broken Wings So often we seem to be tied to our past. We either bind ourselves or others restrain our forward movement with reminders of yesterday. We continue to limp along, broken wings and all, until we e…
11/01/2017