07/16/2025
Boys can play with dolls…
I’ve been around little ones for as long as I can remember.
I helped care for my baby sister when I was still just a child myself.
By 11 years old, I was babysitting my coaches’ children between practices and games, squeezing in snack times and bedtime stories between sports and school.
Even back then, something in me just knew, this wasn’t a phase.
This was a calling.
So I followed it.
I took college classes as a teenager, studied early childhood development, and poured my whole heart into learning what it meant to nurture young minds and spirits.
I’ll never forget one of my first classroom moments in my late teens, maybe just barely 20.
A group of toddlers,wide eyed, giggly, and full of love, were playing together with baby dolls.
Boys and girls alike, cradling their babies, singing lullabies, rocking them with the most tender hands.
And then a mother walked in.
She saw her son with a doll in his arms, and she exploded.
Yelled at me.
Told me I should be ashamed.
That this wasn’t appropriate. That boys don’t do that.
And I was young. I was stunned. I felt like the air had been knocked out of me.
For a moment, I wondered… was I wrong?
But even in that moment… my heart said no.
No, you’re not.
Because boys grow up to be daddies, big brothers, uncles, teachers, nurses, protectors, comforters.
And what a beautiful world it would be if we encouraged that care to grow early instead of shaming it out of them.
Now, over 20 years later, I still let the children in my care explore freely.
Boys feed baby dolls while girls build rocket ships.
They all learn how to love, how to fix, how to imagine, and how to feel.
And I’m proud, proud that I never lost heart, even when voices around me tried to silence it.
Proud to create a space where children are allowed to grow into who they are, not who the world tells them they should be.
Because at the end of the day, it’s not about raising boys or girls a certain way.
It’s about raising humans; kind, gentle, courageous humans.
And I will always defend the kind of play that teaches our children how to love.