Becoming Boundaried

Trust was never supposed to be used as a weapon…❤️‍🩹❤️
But for many of us, it was.

As we discover our boundaries, we learn how to navigate what trust means — aaaand what it does not.

🦋
Molly
Cartooning the Boundaries

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Reverse-engineer healthy boundaries and this is what you’ll find. Because why would we want to participate in anything that is not love?

There are many Toxic Traps that try to tell us otherwise.

😢 But keeping-the-people-pleased is not love.

People-pleasing ensures you live a life never fully engaging in your hopes, your dreams, your wants, or your needs.

😵‍💫 Walking on eggshells around someone’s mood is not love.

That may keep you safe (so, yes, do it for as long as you need to) but it isn’t otherwise good for you or them.

Because they never learn how to be responsible for their own emotions … and you never get the space to have your own.

🫥 Pouring yourself out unsustainably is not love.

That may feel like it’s “helping,” but all it’s doing is draining you dry, limiting how much you can help (because soon you’ll be too burned out to help anyone).

Self-abandonment ends up helping no one in the end. Least of all, you. 💔

Compassionate humans have been tricked into participating in aaall sorts of unboundaried things (Toxic Traps) that are terrible for us.

How about we stop?

Because you and I (and everybody else) are worthy of living lives rooted in kindness, honor and love.

You and I are worthy of being free. 🦋

Becoming boundaried shows us how — lovingly, unapologetically, and with joy.

❤️
Molly
Therapist-turned-boundaries-guide

Want to find out which toxic trap may have you tricked (and see exactly how to get free)?

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The way to survive was to keep-the-people-pleased. This was not romantic or healthy.

But in a world where power was terribly unbalanced, keeping-the-people-pleased (fawning) became romanticized, glorified, spiritualized, and turned into cultural and legal expectations.

Example: a woman’s place is to be submissive?

My friends, that was propoganda.

But not obeying it was deadly. 💔

Understanding where people pleasing comes from changes…everything.

Because your chronic urge to people-please (fawn) isn’t a random personal flaw.

It’s an inherited means of survival, passed down by ancestors who survived (in a world where those who consolidated power decided the fate of everybody else).

This is what inherited trauma looks like.

So there is no need to shame or pathologize yourself for having inherited trauma responses.

Honor your ancestors for doing what they had to do to survive.

Grieve for what they could not have.

And then open your eyes.

The world is different now.

It’s safe enough. And we need you.

It’s time to heal this.

❤️
Molly
Therapist-turned-boundaries-guide

Becoming boundaried is how compassionate people come into their power. Beautifully, lovingly, and unapologetically. 🌱🌿🌳

If you would love practical tools, powerful trainings, and real-time help with this, my Minicourse is a wonderful place to begin (totally free):

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It’s time to be free. 🦋

Under pressure to keep-the-people-pleased, we compassionate folks have been taught NOT to trust our intuition.

Trained to jump through the hoops (to make everybody happy), it can be hard to find the courage to stop.

To pause and listen to our intuition.

To wait until a decision feels right.

And some people (red flag) exploit this further by pushing aggressively to get their way — making demands on you, appealing to your love and compassion as a means to extract more energy from you.

You’ve given so much, right?

Why not give a little more?

Yet your intuition tells you to wait.

You feel hesitant, unsure.

It takes inner strength to say,

“No, not yet. I don’t feel comfortable making a decision at this time.”

It takes self-respect to say,

“I will honor my intuition by taking the time I need to decide which decision is right for me.”

But this is what becoming boundaried looks like.

We are growing in the art of honoring our own inner process, respecting our needs and our timing.

There is great wisdom inside of you.

And I would love to help you know that.

If you’d like to begin hearing from and honoring your intuition more clearly, I have something really special for you.

I’d like to invite you to join me for my live online workshop, Uncaging Your Intuition, this Saturday, August 1st.

Get workshop details and time-zone help right here:
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Join our global compassionate community of empaths, healers, lovers, and leaders as we dive into our own inner wisdom – and see our way forward with clarity and love.

Your intuition has so much boundaried wisdom, depth, and joy to share with you.

I can’t wait to show you how to begin accessing and following its wise guidance. 🥰✨

❤️
Molly

The lie taught to compassionate people is this: you must honor others AT THE COST OF YOUR OWN SELF.

But that is a lie.

A lie that leads to emotional misery, silenced truth, keeping-the-people-pleased, and self-abandonment.

Boundaries show us a different way: how to love others AND love ourselves.

Because loving others was NEVER supposed to mean you push down your needs, walk on eggshells, or pour yourself out unsustainably.

And as we become boundaried and discover the wellspring of the power within us, the doors of our voice open up.

🦋 The inner voice first: clear communication within our own selves.

We can hear our inner yes.

We can hear our inner no.

We can view our needs with compassion and tenderness, finally caring about our own hearts in the same way we’ve cared for everyone else’s.

🦋 And then the outer voice awakens: because we understand what and where our boundaries are, we know how to speak our truth in love.

And we allow it to come through our voice, honoring those around us as we respectfully share our yes or our no.

How joyful it is to live life this way! ✨

❤️
Molly

The Awaken Your Voice Retreat is happening in 2 months!!!!!

Join myself and Ingrid Clayton, PhD (author of the best-selling Fawning) LIVE for 3-powerful days together in California!

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In order to keep-the-people-pleased, we had to silence the voice of our intuition…

But not any more. 🔥

Are you ready to Uncage Your Intuition?

I’m leading a live (online) art-based
Inner Boundaries Workshop this weekend — and you’re invited!!!

Wanna come?
Get all the details right here:
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It was so good at first, wasn’t it?
Enough to get you hooked — and to feel confused when what you thought were GEMS turned out to just be…BAIT. 🚩

My compassionate friend, how much longer will you sacrifice yourself on the altar of “how good it used to be?”

Yes, it USED to be good.

But those beautiful attributes they were pretending to have are NOT actually their true attributes…

They don’t yet understand what love really is, do they?

They haven’t done the work to start healing and evolving so that they can show up as a loving partner or friend.

In fact, they keep AVOIDING it.

Which hurts you to see, because you know they could change!

And yes, they could change…and one day, perhaps they might choose to do so.

But, also…there’s a lot of gunk in there yet.

I have a boundaries thought that might be worth considering…

Maybe their healing isn’t supposed to come from you staying (ever the brunt of their refusal to heal). 💔

Maybe THEIR healing path involves learning from the life-lessons classroom of YOU (safely) leaving.

Oh. 😳

Right?

Do not feel ashamed for being fooled by the fleeting gems of a toxic relationship.

How were you supposed to know those gems weren’t character traits at first?

That’s not your fault.

(((It can happen to anyone, my friend))).

But, now — now that the truth is becoming more evident — may wisdom surround you as you make decisions from a place of clear knowing. 🕯️

You have one life.

How would you like to live it?

❤️
Molly

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Many things can be up for negotiation and compromise in a healthy relationship.

You being treated with basic kindness and respect is not supposed to be one of them.

❤️
Molly
Therapist-turned-boundaries-cartoonist

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Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is rock the boat. 🌊

In love, from love (and safely — as able, when able), rooted the solid center of our compassionate strength.

…Because if we don’t, who will?

If even the compassionate people can’t stand up, how can we expect others to do so?

My compassionate friend, becoming boundaried isn’t about just healing YOU (though that’s where it begins). 🕯️

It’s bigger than that. 🌏

Consider: have you been feeling the inner tug to deepen into your healing, empowerment, and growth?

Have you been hearing the quiet call to STOP SETTLING for being “mostly healed?”

Many of us have been on a healing journey for years — and, yes, we’ve come a long way (many of us are healers ourselves!) but…

Are you being asked to TO KEEP GOING?

To stop settling?

To stay on the path until you’ve gone ALL THE WAY (even though you don’t yet know what that is, because how can a caterpillar know what being a butterfly feels like until she becomes it)?

This is our birthright.

We are being pulled to come into the FULLNESS of our heart-centered power for a reason.

Because Love is the way — and WE are the change we’ve been looking for.

Become it. 🦋

❤️
Molly
Therapist-turned-boundaries-cartoonist

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❤️Boundaries in Romantic Relationships
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🔥 When Lines are Crossed: Boundaries in Families & Groups
🌼 Inner Boundaries: Permission to Be You
🌈 The Mother of All Boundary Scripts

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Because boundaries are your birthright.

See you inside. 🦋
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