Becoming Boundaried

Becoming Boundaried Hi there. I'm Molly -- therapist, author, leader -- and I'm here to empower compassionate people. I'm here to change that. There is hope. Boundaries are real.

❤️ Therapist-turned-boundaries cartoonist
🦋 www.boundaried.com
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🎨 My hand-illustrated book, "The Great All: A Parable of Hope, New Beginnings, and You” is here!!!! Because when compassionate people come into their power, everything changes. Not just for ourselves and the people we love, but also for our hurting world. For many of us, boundaries are the crucial missing piece on our healing journey. As such, we get trapped in toxic dynamics of people-pleasing, codependency, emotional misery, and eventual burn-out. And change is possible. I'm living proof. 🦋

To experience my radically different approach to boundaries for yourself, my Boundaries Breakthrough Mini-Course is a beautiful place to begin. Priced at only $19 to make it easy and accessible for you, you'll get 5 video trainings and a beautiful journaling companion to help you on your journey. Because you are worthy -- and you matter. ❤️

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An abusive relationship has a lot in common with… (click the first hand-drawn image to see them all). Toxic relationship...
09/23/2026

An abusive relationship has a lot in common with… (click the first hand-drawn image to see them all).

Toxic relationships are terrible…in the micro and in the macro. 💔

But we, as a collective, are NOT powerless.

That’s a boundary.

❤️
Molly

Compassionate people (conscientious of others around them) often don’t want to rock the boat — or make anyone feel uncom...
09/17/2026

Compassionate people (conscientious of others around them) often don’t want to rock the boat — or make anyone feel uncomfortable.

And to speak up about a problem feels EXTRA hard to do when the other person says there ISN’T a problem, right? 😵‍💫

Plus, many of us are ALREADY trained to walk on eggshells, minimize our own feelings, or push down our own needs.

We know how to self-reflect…but that self-reflection is easily turned into self-doubt:

“Maybe I’m being too negative.”
“Maybe I can’t trust my own perceptions.”
“Maybe I’m not being kind enough, loving enough, patient enough…”

People who behave abusively take advantage of this — and capitalize on it.

As in, the abuser seeks to INCREASE your self-doubt.

Why?

Because self-doubt causes inaction and indecision.

Which allows their abusive behavior freedom to grow.

You can’t set firm boundaries if you aren’t even sure what’s happening.

Thus, self-doubt is encouraged in abusive relationships, workplaces, churches, and groups.

It can even happen on a national and global level.

Have you ever been in a personal situation where you thought, “Maybe I’m overreacting,” only to realize later that you weren’t acting strongly enough?

On a larger scale, can you think of an example in history where this occurred? What happens when an entire group falls prey to self-doubt?

Use the comments below to share your reflections musings (with kindness and respect for all).

❤️
Molly
Therapist-cartooning-the-boundaries

Healthy boundaries protect us from the frozen inaction of self-doubt.

Abuse is abuse — and it is healthy and good to speak up about it (when safe enough to do so).

For yourself as well as for others.

Remaining silent allows abuse to flourish.

Visit my website for boundaries help. No more self-doubt. Just firm clear knowing. (website link in my page bio) ❤️🦋

09/09/2026

What term below do you think best describes the symptoms of being a compassionate person who is NOT boundaried?

A. Codependency
B. Fawning
C. People-pleasing
D. Burnout
E. All of the above.
F. None of the above. I prefer to describe it as ______________.

Use the comments section to share the term you most resonate with (and why)

Love says, You know.You know the truth. It’s in your bones.It’s in the drum of your feet when they walk upon the earth. ...
09/08/2026

Love says,
You know.
You know the truth.
It’s in your bones.
It’s in the drum of your feet when they walk upon the earth.
It’s in the beat of your heart when
You see a sunrise
Or kiss a baby
Or hug a friend.

Follow Love.

Not a side.
Not a team.
Not a person.

Love.

You can’t go wrong.

Love is how we change the world.

And Love stands firm
And uses its voice
And corrects injustice.

And also,
Love remembers
The humanity of your neighbor,
Even when others try to make you forget.

So Love crosses the street
Brings them homemade banana bread
Asks about their kids
And treats them with genuine respect.

Because we are all in this together.
You know this.

How many more cycles
Shall the humans stay ruled
By fear,
By greed,
By might-makes-right?

We get to decide.
We get to choose.

When we are asleep,
We have little choice.
We are easily fooled,
Led along by whatever propoganda
Tickles our ears most.

But we are waking up.
Waking up to who we really are
And what we can create together.

Because Love is the way.
Love is the boundary.
Love is the point.

❤️
Molly
Therapist Cartooning the Boundaries for Compassionate People

Visit my website for powerful resources to support your boundaries journey 🦋

A toxic or difficult relationship can happen to anybody, but when you are empathic, caring, or compassionate, signs like...
09/06/2026

A toxic or difficult relationship can happen to anybody, but when you are empathic, caring, or compassionate, signs like these can be easy to overlook.

That’s why I drew this cartoon.

Because there is never a good reason for mocking or contempt.

You deserve better.

Have you experienced this?

How did it make you feel?

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.

❤️
Molly
Therapist cartooning the boundaries

If you’d like help with boundaries, I’ve just opened up the doors to my amazing self-paced course.

Start for free (only stay if you love it).

Details on my website - visit my page bio to get the link. 🦋

An abusive relationship erodes our self-trust. Because the abusive person works hard to make you doubt yourself.Why do t...
09/04/2026

An abusive relationship erodes our self-trust. Because the abusive person works hard to make you doubt yourself.

Why do they want to do that?

Well, if they can cause your self-trust to be shaky, then it will be easier to mistreat you. 😣

And when your self-trust is eroded, you won’t believe yourself when you think you are being treated badly.

So now they can get away with it.

You’ll defer to their interpretation of events, their emotions, their judgments.

And that allows them to keep you “in your place.”

It’s terrible, isn’t it? 😭💔

No, the abuse was NOT your fault.

But they’ll try to make you believe it is.

So it’s no surprise that later, when we finally get free from the abusive situation, the internal lack of self-trust often continues.

Which makes sense. After all, abuse causes deep wounding.

But how can we heal when we are too busy believing it was all our fault? 😭

This lack of self-trust can show up as self-blame, poor self-esteem or self-doubt.

You may feel highly critical of yourself, struggle to feel confident, or get bogged down with depression or anxiety whenever you need to make decisions.

My compassionate friend, know this:

There is nothing wrong with you for having perfectly normal reactions and responses following an abusive relationship.

Abuse causes harm. ❤️‍🩹

And there is no shame in needing time to heal.

Healing is possible.

You can learn to trust yourself again.

And you are worthy of getting the help that you need.

❤️
Molly
Therapist cartooning the boundaries

If you would like to see how boundaries lovingly nourish self-trust, I am currently giving away a set of powerful boundaries trainings for free.

Right now, inside my beautiful self-paced course, you can get 7-days of membership for free. (This includes a boundaries workbook you can download and keep for life).

Come for the free trial. Stay if you love it.
I would love to help you. 🦋

Details here:
Https://boundaried.com/course

09/01/2026

My cartooning this morning (sharing the video I posted on my Instagram) was inspired by the concept of trauma bonding and how it plays into our confusion and misplaced positivity. 😭💔

Sending love to anyone going through this. It’s so miserable. Get help (safely — as able, when able). You are worth it.

PS - My free minicourse is in the link in my bio 💕




We think we’re being positive, when in actuality, we might be making excuses for their hurtful behavior... But it’s all ...
09/01/2026

We think we’re being positive, when in actuality, we might be making excuses for their hurtful behavior...

But it’s all so confusing, isn’t it?

How can we tell when a relationship is toxic, versus when we’re just experiencing a bump in the road? 🥺

After all, sometimes things feel good (even wonderful)!

When is our positive mindset helpful, versus when is it just denial in a fancy disguise? 😵‍💫

How can we tell?

Without healthy boundaries, compassionate people like us often stay stuck in confusion, misery, and self-blame. 😮‍💨

Our intentions are good — and our positivity toward relationships can be a beautiful thing (once we know where the boundaries are, that is).

But saying, “everything is fine,” isn’t making anything fine, my friend. ❤️‍🩹

Also, this is not your fault.

You can’t be responsible for their hurtful behavior.

Their behavior is not on you (even if they claim it is).

That’s their responsibility.

But what to do next?

That is where *your* responsibility is found.

Safely (as able, when able), we come to realize something needs to change.

Because unless we do something different, this miserable way of living will just keep-on-keeping-on.

Or get worse. 💔

And you are here for more than this.

❤️
Molly
Therapist-cartoonist here to help compassionate people get boundaried 🦋

Would you like help?

I created my boundaries mini-course to provide a clear pathway toward healthy change.

You can get it right here:

Https://boundaried.com/breakthrough ✨

Take the quiz inside, see where you’re at, and then get practical tools for what to do next based on your results. Totally free. 🕯️

When compassionate people are ready to move out of fawning, people-pleasing, and codependency, we discover our true boun...
08/21/2026

When compassionate people are ready to move out of fawning, people-pleasing, and codependency, we discover our true boundaries.

Because becoming boundaried is how we shake off the chains of disempowerment.

Becoming boundaried is how we move into the expansive truth of who we are (and what we are here to do).

And this is shown first in our own personal lives, as we heal and shift and transform — but then it begins to show up in the wider world.

Because we organically start showing up for our world in a whole new way. ✨

And as we become boundaried, we understand (even more!) how much we are all connected — and now we are empowered.

Survival, scarcity, and suffering are NOT supposed to be how the humans are forced to live.

And it doesn’t have to stay that way. 🔥

WE get to decide what kind of world we want to make, together.

And we all suffer if we continue to agree to a world where only some are allowed to have “rights” (but others don’t), where only some are allowed to thrive (but everyone else must struggle).

We CAN have a loving cooperative world.

We CAN create a world where our collective boundaries support dignity and honor for everyone.

Because that’s what true boundaries are: the structural support for embodied love.

And shouldn’t basic dignity and respect be the birthright of all?

Yes.

But that kind of world will never exist if the compassionate people continue to believe it’s their job to keep-the-people-pleased.

Becoming boundaried is deeply personal work.

But it’s also how we help change the world.

Come into your power, compassionate ones. 🦋

We are waiting for you.

❤️
Molly
Therapist-cartooning-the-boundaries

My free boundaries minicourse is all about your empowerment. Ready to shake off those chains? Link is in my page bio ✨

Becoming boundaried is an act of personal sovereignty…which is terrifying if you were taught to keep the people pleased....
08/16/2026

Becoming boundaried is an act of personal sovereignty…which is terrifying if you were taught to keep the people pleased.

Don’t say no.
Don’t have needs.
Don’t have feelings.
(You know the drill). 🙄😮‍💨

But who benefits when compassionate people do that?

(Not compassion, that’s for sure). ❤️‍🩹

So how do we change this?

Becoming boundaried is how we compassionate people move into our power.

Because, think about it.

All the compassionate people (loving, heart-centered, and empathic) finally stepping into their true boundaries — at last using their voice, taking up space, moving into their gifts, and creating positive change?

Yep.

There are a LOT of compassionate people on this planet.

Can you imagine what could happen in this world as the compassionate people come into their power and purpose?

And how it happens is simple.
As in, it can start today, in your own life.

It’s time for you to discover your boundaries, my compassionate friend.

For you. For me. For all of us.

❤️

Molly
Therapist-turned-boundaries-cartoonist

Ready to discover your boundaries?
My Mini-Course is a great place to start. (Get it FREE on my website—link in my page bio) 🦋

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