Present In Parenting

Someone asked me what ways I practice grounding. I love grounding. It brings safety to my system.

Benefits of Grounding:

👌 Grounding may help reduce inflammation in the body.

👌 People often report better sleep quality after grounding.

👌 Grounding can lead to reduced stress and improved emotional well-being.

👌 Some feel more energized after grounding (because of increased sense of safety and balance)

There is a deeper knowledge to this all and it has to do with our protection patterns.

In order for us to protect ourselves emotionally as a child we use 5 different patterns.

Grounding is a way to bring safety back to our bodies in all these patterns.

Steven Kessler talks about this in his book 5 Personality Patterns. This book has helped me to understand myself, my children and others.

Tomorrow I will be talking about this a bit more in my Facebook group

”Successful New Era Marketing”

if you are interested.

In the meanwhile

Here are some ways to ground.

Do you intentionally ground yourself?

Suddenly I had a nail salon in my back yard. ♥️

Do we reflect our child’s uniqueness back to them, or our own childhood with programs?

Do you have children? Grandchildren? Interested in parenting?

If yes! I wanted to let you know that I will be talking about PLAYING and JOY all next week in my instagram account

(presentinparenting).

During the week I will also have a 'live' where I am playing with my grand daughters (2 and 8) and embodying our play and joy moments, that, yes, can very much be interrupted by …. Let’s just say little storms. I am hoping I can present some answers to some that have been asking about sibling rivalries. Let's see how it goes. . .

What live? This is a 15 minute live of our life, just as it is. Unfiltered from my kitchen where we play and learn. Work and play.

In today's fast-paced societies, the intrinsic value of play is being overshadowed by the constant emphasis on overwork for parents and an increasingly demanding academic schedule for children. And demands for serious hobbies (at least in many European countries). We rush the children to school, back home, to the hobbies and to bed. Really?

All of this is quietly eroding the sacred space once reserved for play. Schools, in their well-intentioned quest for excellence, are inadvertently stifling children's natural inclination towards play—their most critical task for holistic development.

This shift towards longer hours of structured learning and homework, coupled with the reduction of recess and free play time, is not just robbing children of their joy but is also impeding their emotional, social, and cognitive growth.

Meanwhile, parents, caught in the whirlwind of societal expectations and work demands, often overlook the diminishing role of play in their children's lives, as well as their own. This mutual disenchantment with play is not a mere oversight but a profound loss, as both generations drift away from the very experiences that nurture creativity, resilience, and deep human connections. The irony is stark; in striving for a better future, we're neglecting the present moment's joys and lessons, leaving a legacy of stress rather than the intended success.

There is a huge importance in play and our transformation.

the Bible testifies : Unless you become like a child, you are not born again. Become like a child and enter into the Kingdom of God.

Maybe there is something to this?

I am diving deeper into joy and play. Play with our children, and the scientific findings, reasons for our resistance and how to overcome it. Join me in my instagram (presentinparenting) next this coming week while I talk about play and joy.

We got this!

Kirsi

We can only give our children what we give ourselves. Empathy and self compassion is not over rated.

We live in the world of expectations, often unrealistic

We ourselves tend to set unrealistic expectations to ourselves based on our conditioning from the society and that of our parents. We get to break the unhealthy cycle of rushed and overwhelming demands, that do not consider our own needs, energy level or timing.

Consider the energy behind Expectations: It is often the power over, not the collaboration that we communicate.

This week I will be talking more about this pitfall. Stay tuned.

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As a parenting life coach, I specialize in helping parents learn how to communicate with their children, particularly when dealing with meltdowns. My approach is centered around teaching parents how to respond to their children instead of reacting in the moment. I focus on mindfulness, awareness, and present moment practices to help parents understand their child’s emotions and how to better respond in a constructive way.