08/18/2026
Tuesdays with Terri ~ There's a new word I've made up (or apologies if someone else made it up) "voluntold" this happens when you find out that instead of volunteering for an assignment or project, you are VOLUN-TOLD that you are doing it. This has happened to me on more than one occasion lately. Most times I laugh and accept the new assignment. The last time this happened I found myself becoming resentful that I wasn't asked if I could do something, but it was assumed that I would. The next time (and I'm sure there will be a next time) this happens, if I really don't want to take on something else, I give myself permission to politely say "thank you for thinking of me but I am unable to take that on at this time". What do you need to give yourself permission to put yourself first and decline the assignment or project?