Parent in Love by Bonnie and Thomas Liotta

Parent in Love by Bonnie and Thomas Liotta They have more than 60 years of combined experience in studying and applying personal development and human potential. He holds two child development degrees.

Raising Champions God's way 🙏 | A Biblical case for parenting through love, not fear | ODD DMDD ADHD to Champions | No meds or labels | 300+ families | New book coming soon Bonnie and Thomas Liotta are the authors of two renowned books, Learn to Speak Kid (2015) and Raising Healthy, Happy, Cooperative Kids (2018), and creators of Creating Champions For Life's Rapid Growth Parenting coaching progra

m. Their work has earned them many awards, including Bonnie Liotta being the top performing female in two multi-million companies and the induction of Thomas Liotta into the Martial Arts Hall of fame for the most creative after-school program. Bonnie is a business leader and transformational coach with nearly 30 years of personal experience in human development. Her motivation in studying human development was to find a way to empower all children to know their greatness before the age of 12. Even so, 18 years into her development journey, her four children were diagnosed with ODD and ADHD and experiencing anxiety and depression. She was at the top of her game in business, but her children were heading down a dark and horrific life path. Thomas Liotta was the owner and chief instructor at Modoo Hana TKD Academy in Seatac, Washington. Thomas developed a strategy that engaged and motivated his students to complete tasks and happily cooperate with him. His methods worked so beautifully that he ended up helping thousands of children transform chaotic and disobedient behaviors into healthy, happy, cooperative kids. When Bonnie saw Thomas engage with her children, she saw the answer she'd been praying for 18 years before! She saw a way to empower all children by the age of 12...it's never too late! After doing nearly six months of research looking for anything close to Thomas' methods, she found nothing! The two decided to duplicate the methods Thomas developed in his school for parents. THE LIFE GOAL…

Parenting a child with an emotional or behavior disorder can be extremely frustrating without the right parenting tools. Because of this, Bonnie and Thomas are here to teach and demonstrate how you can effectively communicate with your children. Whether your children are diagnosed with a behavior disorder like Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder ( ) or Oppositional Defiant Disorder ( )...
..or suffering from emotional issues like anxiety, depression, or autism...
.. or you want better communication and relationships with your children, Bonnie and Thomas will help you parent your children the right way, parenting with empowerment! Creating Champions For Life has the child-rearing philosophy that effectively empowers children to choose to engage and cooperate harmoniously. When you know the right things to say and do, you will be able to empower your children to do their chores, go to school, or complete tasks on time without forcing or yelling at them! FOLLOW US for tips, inspiration, and empowering advice on creating more cooperation, harmony, and respect in your home. You can also download our ebook, Raising Healthy, Happy, Cooperative Kids, audiobook and study guide HERE: https://www.learntospeakkid.com

This isn't for the parent looking for one more technique to fix him. This is for the parent ready to lead differently he...
08/12/2026

This isn't for the parent looking for one more technique to fix him. This is for the parent ready to lead differently herself. If that's you, keep reading.

If you've put a lock on your own bedroom door because your child has beaten on it screaming — you already know something in the advice was wrong, not something in him.

You've read every book. Sat through years of therapy. Followed every expert's plan to the letter. And here's what nobody in that chain ever told you: most of them have never actually raised a child like yours. That 25-year-old therapist with the degree on the wall doesn't know how to guide a genius-level, intense kid into his greatness — or he'd already be doing it for his own. You're not failing. You were handed a system built by people managing a symptom, not people who've ever led a child like yours out of one.

Here's what's actually been happening, underneath the label. Every correction you've delivered — fifty times a day, for five years, for ten — told him one thing: you got it wrong. Again. A kid can only absorb that so many times before he stops hearing it as guidance and starts hearing it as a verdict. Correcting a behavior after it happens was never training. It was just proof, repeated daily, that he's broken. And a kid who believes he's broken doesn't get quieter. Eventually he explodes.

You cannot demand a skill nobody ever actually showed him. That's not a parenting failure. That's a training gap — his and the whole industry's — and it starts closing the moment you decide to lead differently, no matter how many years it's been.

Here's the shift. Stop waiting for the wrong moment to correct it. Show him what right looks like BEFORE it's ever required — calm, ahead of time, not mid-scream, not mid-meltdown. Role-play it. Let him practice it with you watching, before the moment he's expected to do it alone.

That's the difference between building a skill and breaking a spirit.

Pick one thing you keep correcting mid-moment. Tonight, when everything's calm, show him exactly what it looks like — before it's ever expected of him again.

08/07/2026

When you’ve done everything to get cooperation from your kids and feel like everything is failing, I want you to know, there is another way! If you’re at a breaking point with your child’s defiant behaviour, drop “Breaking Point” and I will get you a copy of a top five key phrases we teach our private clients to gain cooperation instantly.

You've given your kids everything. Clothes, food, phone, wifi, rides, activities — freely, no strings, because that's wh...
08/03/2026

You've given your kids everything. Clothes, food, phone, wifi, rides, activities — freely, no strings, because that's what a loving parent does. Isn't it?

And now you're walking on eggshells in your own kitchen, negotiating with a nine-year-old over pajamas, wondering where every ounce of your leverage went.

You didn't lose it. You gave it away. Piece by piece, "yes" by "yes," until there was nothing left to offer that would actually move him. And when a kid has nothing left to earn, he doesn't get grateful. He gets entitled — and when entitled meets defiant, that's when you get the Jekyll and Hyde flip nobody warned you about.

Here's the system that gets your leverage back. It has a name: the Star Chart.

Not a chore chart. Not a punishment system. A written bridge between two lists.

List one is yours — the life skills you want your child to have by his age. Tying his shoes. Making his lunch. Clearing his plate. Whatever's true for your house.

List two is his — the things he's been reaching for and asking for all along. More screen time. A later bedtime. That thing he keeps bringing up.

You merge them. Every item on his list gets tied to something earned off yours. Start with one to three things, max — simple enough that he can win in week one.

That's the whole mechanism. He's not complying for your benefit anymore. He's earning his own future, through skills that build his own capability. Julie's eighteen-year-old wanted into a fraternity — $650. The old Julie would have written the check. Instead they built the plan, and now he's working weekends to earn it himself. Kay's two-year-old has a broom, and he knows exactly when to use it.

Proverbs 22:6 doesn't say train up a child in the way that keeps the peace for the next ten minutes. It says train him up in the way HE should go — the way that builds who he's actually capable of becoming.

Tonight, make two lists. One for you. One for him. Tomorrow, merge them.

If you want the exact Star Chart template, the one 300+ families have used to hand their kids ownership of their own outcomes, book a call this week and we'll build yours together. The link is in the comments below.

08/01/2026

Parent in Love. A Biblical case for raising children the way God actually intended. Get on the waitlist today.

I wanted to be a great mom. So I did what every parenting book told me to do.Rules. Boundaries. Timeouts when he broke t...
07/31/2026

I wanted to be a great mom. So I did what every parenting book told me to do.

Rules. Boundaries. Timeouts when he broke them. Takeaways when timeouts didn't work. A firm tone, held consistently, because consistency was supposed to be the whole secret. I read the books. I followed the advice. By the time my fourth child, Zac, came along, that system was fully in place, reinforced not just by me, but by his three older siblings too. Everyone in that house had learned the same playbook: correct what's wrong, hold the boundary, stay firm.

Zac masked first. Then the mask cracked. He screamed for hours. He was defiant in ways that exhausted every adult around him. When he threw his desk across the classroom, his school psychologist told me flat out: this was the worst case of ODD she had ever seen.

I believed her. The label became the whole story, because I genuinely didn't know there was another way to parent than the one I'd been taught.

That's when I was shown what my role really was, not rule enforcer, not timeouts, not takeaways, not holding a firm tone consistently enough. My role was to teach. And here's what floored me: this wasn't some brand new invention. It was the same success principles I'd already learned in personal development, the same ones woven through scripture my whole life, cause and effect, sowing and reaping, training instead of managing. Turns out those principles don't stop at business or faith. They work in parenting too. Nobody had ever pointed that out to me before.

So we started with a blanket. Not a lecture. A blanket.

To us, folding a blanket is nothing. But for a boy who'd spent years being corrected, timed out, and firmly told what he did wrong, that blanket was everything. Following directions, corner to corner, not however he felt like it. Self-control, staying with it past the first frustration. Focus, four steps, in order. Self-discipline, finishing even when the first fold was messy. Responsibility, a blanket that was his, every morning, whether he felt like it or not.

Five skills. One blanket.

I showed him first. Corner to corner. Lay it flat. Lift it over. Corner to corner again. He watched. Then we did it together. Then I stepped back and let him try alone.

Messy at first. Then it wasn't. Within days he was folding blankets as clean as mine. Some mornings, cleaner.

Here's what most people would assume if I told you that same boy, once labeled the worst case of ODD his psychologist had ever seen, folded a blanket cleaner than I could. That he must not have really had the diagnosis. That's backwards. He had it. What he never had, in a house running entirely on rules and correction, was a single person who'd shown him, step by step, that his own hands were capable of something.

When I finally let him do things on his own, he felt like a winner instead of a failure for the first time. The screaming faded, most of the time. Not perfect. But finally, I had the tools to empower him toward his best self, and the freedom to be his guide instead of his enforcer.

Zac's brain was never broken. He was never taught. Every parenting book I'd read had prepared me for the wrong job.

If you want the exact do-for, do-with, do-alone breakdown I used to teach Zac his first task, and how to pick the right first task for your own kid, drop TRAINED in the comments below.

07/31/2026

Should we s***k children for discipline???

07/30/2026

I used to ask my kids to clean their room 15 times, then just do it myself out of exhaustion. Thomas taught me the thing I'd never connected: the room and the meal are already related. They just don't know it yet.

This Then That. Room clean, THEN dinner happens. Not a threat, a sequence. Said once, out loud. Desire does the reminding after that. You don't have to.

Proverbs 22:6 says train up a child in the way he should go. Not manage him in the moment — train him. That's cause and effect, the way it works everywhere else in life.

If you're looking for a manipulation tool to get your kid to comply like a robot, this isn't it. This is for the mom or dad who genuinely cares enough to make a real change.

Tonight, pick one thing you've been repeating yourself on. Connect it to something already about to happen anyway. Say it once.

07/29/2026

A mom who’s said the same thing forty-seven times today, whose child has an ODD, DMDD or PDA diagnosis, or is heading toward one, and still won’t move, the problem was never the child. It’s the language.

Every command triggers resistance before a child even decides what to do with it. Put shoes on. Stop that. Brush your teeth now. It’s not defiance. It’s neurology, a brain hearing an order and instinctively pushing back. Getting louder, getting stricter, giving up, none of it works, because the problem was never volume. It’s the structure of the sentence.

There’s a mom who knows exactly what it is to walk on eggshells in her own home, waiting for the shoe to drop, watching a child flip like Jekyll and Hyde over the wrong word at the wrong moment.

Proverbs 22:6 speaks to training a child the way he’s actually built to go, not managing him moment to moment, not medicating the moment away. One question in place of one command changes what a child’s brain does with it entirely.

Drop the word SPEAK below and five phrases will be sent over, free, that get cooperation without yelling, threatening, or bribing.

07/29/2026

A faithful mom who’s read every book, taken every course, done everything gentle parenting asked of her, and is still praying to God for an answer after years of pouring everything she has into a child with a diagnosis, or heading toward one, this is for her.

She followed the whole playbook. Validated every feeling. Never yelled, never punished. And she’s still walking on eggshells in her own home, watching a child flip like Jekyll and Hyde no matter how gently she says the words. That’s not because she failed. It’s because gentle parenting is incomplete, it teaches validation but never direction, and a mom can’t lead with feelings alone.

This isn’t a quick fix. A mom looking for that can keep scrolling. This is for the mom who’s already proven she’ll do the work, who cares enough about her child and her family to keep searching long after most people would’ve quit.

Proverbs 29:18 says where there’s no vision, people perish. Her home doesn’t need less love. It needs a plan she’s willing to hold.

Drop the word GENTLE below and five phrases will be sent over, free, the missing piece nobody told her about.

07/29/2026

Defiance isn’t defiance if the child was never shown what to do.

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