Pete Ophoven - Coach

YEAR OF YOU - A year to dig into your creative self -

YEAR OF YOU - A year to dig into your creative self

Like all of us, I’ve been through the ringer a time or two: losing all my money, divorce, getting a cancer diagnosis, someone very close dying, feeling self-critical about my parenting.

The thoughts about ourselves and about life when things go “wrong” can be devastating.

They hurt me, I can’t do this, I’m lost, they criticized me, I’m a failure, I need more money, this shouldn’t have happened, life is hard.

As I’ve done The Work on my fears, they began to change and shift. I began to see turnarounds inviting me forward into a new way of being, of acting.

Sometimes the turnarounds I found scared me.

They looked like this: They didn’t hurt me, I CAN do this, I’m found, they accept me, I’m a success, I do not need more money (money needs more of me), this SHOULD have happened, life is easy.

How could these be just as true, or truer, than my original stressful thought?

Wow.

It might have felt shaky and not very confident, but I would get a different feeling inside my body, at a very deep level, as I found the turnarounds.

Why not?

Then I would consider, as I felt the new, alive, excited, fearless, thrilled, relaxed or more stable awareness within….

….how would I live this?

What could I do, say, be, think, feel, in order to actually truly LIVE this turnaround?

What would it look like?

How would I go through my day, with the new awareness, the new feeling, living a turnaround that I was safe, creative, and able? That maybe this was an exciting changing time of wonder and joy? That I could earn enough to support myself on my own?

People began asking me to facilitate them in The Work. I sat with them in inquiry.

My life began to blossom, to become more relaxed and sweet that it had ever been without the four questions. I began to hear in my own head “is it true?” when I started to feel shaky or disturbed.

The Work is a remarkable way to contemplate barriers to living the life you want, your immunity to change, the inner reasons you don’t “act” or “think” the way you think would bring you peace.

“When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.” ~ Byron Katie

March 18th another Living Turnarounds Half-Day Retreat from 2-6 pm in northeast Seattle in Goldilocks Cottage (my house). Sign up below. Fee is $50.

We’ll do The Work on what stands between you and living a simple, fluid, kind and fearless life, in any area you truly desire.

Please sign up here: https://workwithgrace.com/the-work-of-byron-katie-monthly-in-person-group/

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“When we create art we cultivate meaning” -Brene Brown.

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