I'm a Clinical Psychologist & I help high-achieving, people-pleasing, neurodivergent women stop doing the most and LIVE BIG.
Neurodivergent babes, if this is you, hi 👋🏽
You belong here 🫶🏼
05/18/2026
If you have ADHD and PMDD, that is not a coincidence.
Research shows that people with ADHD are significantly more likely to experience PMDD and the connection comes down to ✨ dopamine ✨
ADHD is a dopamine regulation disorder.
Your brain is already working harder than most to maintain stable dopamine levels.
Then your cycle hits the luteal phase, estrogen drops, and estrogen is one of the primary drivers of dopamine production.
Less estrogen = less dopamine.
For a neurotypical brain, that dip is uncomfortable but for an ADHD brain, it can feel like a complete system crash.
Rage that comes out of nowhere, rejection sensitivity turned all the way up, executive dysfunction that makes even texting back feel impossible, crying without knowing why.
PMDD is a recognized psychiatric condition listed in the DSM-5. It affects an estimated 3–8% of people with menstrual cycles and that number is significantly higher in the ADHD population.
❌ It is not PMS.
If your worst days follow a pattern, track your cycle. if the pattern holds, that data is painting a picture. Bring to a provider who takes it seriously.
You deserve to be believed.
The loneliness of being neurodivergent online (in addition to IRL), isn’t talked about enough.
You’re simultaneously hypersensitive to how things land and more likely to be misread yourself.
It’s an exhausting combination!
In the online space, tone doesn’t translate, context gets flattened.
I know for me that one comment can send my nervous system into a spiral that lasts the rest of the day (RSD work in progress over here)!
So what happened in my comments this week was rare and it really moved me, both as a therapist for neurodivergent folks and a neurodivergent human myself.
Someone commented, another person reacted, and instead of it escalating, there was an apology and forgiveness.
A moment of being seen and accepted as fallible humans.
I think what’s sticking with me the most (days later), is that this is exactly what neurodivergent people are capable of when they feel safe enough to slow down.
We are not lacking in empathy. We’re often drowning in it.
We just need a little more room than the world usually gives us.
If you can relate, send this to someone who gets it, or share it so more people get it 🫶🏼
(My content is exclusively about neurodivergence, for a neurodivergent audience, so I am assuming people in my comment section identify as such)
There once was a cat the turned into a star and it had a bright tail.
I can see it from my bedroom window.
His name is Buttermilk.
My star is very twinkly. I tell my star goodnight at night before I go to bed.
I like Buttermilk very much cause he sings to me at night.
I miss my star when it rains because I can’t see him in the rain.
better go now.
I hope you had a lot of fun with Buttermilk.
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Thanks mom, for keeping this little ditty, and all my baby teeth 😂😂
05/13/2024
My first Mother’s Day.
It has been the sweetest.
What a wild ride. It’s hard & I’m grateful.
Holding space for all the variations of moms and mothers and motherhood experiences today 💜
05/07/2024
I used to believe I could “self-help” my way out of my anxious, high-achieving, perfectionistic mindset.
Just one more book.
One more lesson.
One more little nugget of knowledge.
Eventually I realized I was trying to “high achieve” my way out of my anxiety. The irony!
What actually helped me? Learning skills to regulate my emotions. I’ve worked with a therapist, a coach, and have implemented skills I teach to my own clients, in my own life.
If you’re ready to take the leap out of self-help and into a supportive, structured, skills based group program, get on my email list. You’ll be the first to know about my upcoming launch, with exciting bonuses for waitlisters. Link in bio.
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