Girls Mentorship

Girls Mentorship Girls Mentorship empowers tween and teen girls through personal development, leadership training, and life skills education.

We offer summer camps, after-school programs, and 1:1 mentorship to build confidence, resilience, and lifelong connection.

10/07/2026

You can hurt someone’s feelings AND still not regret the choice you made.

Yep. We said it.

After our last ownership video, one question showed up over and over again:

“But what would you have done differently?”

FAIR. We gave you approximately zero context, so let’s add some.

Maybe the choice wasn’t what you’d change.

Maybe it was how you handled it.

You can stand by your decision AND recognize that you could’ve communicated differently, been more thoughtful, or handled someone’s hurt with more care.

That’s ownership, too.

Buttttt…what if you look back, own your piece, and genuinely wouldn’t have done anything differently?

Oh, we’re going there next.

📌 SAVE this one for the next friendship mess.
↗️ SHARE it with someone who needs the reminder that ownership ≠ taking all the blame.
💗 FOLLOW along because this ownership conversation has become a whole damn series.

10/07/2026

🚨Being nice and being passive are NOT the same thing🚨

And we see girls confuse the two all the time so just to set the tone…

👉Going along with something you don’t want to do isn’t kindness.
👉Pretending you’re not upset isn’t keeping the peace.
👉Changing your opinion because someone questions it isn’t being easygoing.
👉And saying yes because you’re uncomfortable saying no isn’t being a good friend.

Assertiveness is being able to say what you think, what you need and what you mean—without needing to be mean about it which doesn’t happen very easily. It takes practice.

The little “no thanks.”
The “I actually like it.”
The “I don’t agree.”
The “that bothered me.”
The “who’s everyone?”

Those little opportunities to assert her voice are the reps that prepare her for the conversations where using her voice really matters.

Assertiveness is a skill.
Skills take reps.

Save this for your girl + share it with someone raising one. And sound off in the comments, how has being assertive helped you in your confidence? ⬇️⬇️

10/07/2026

One thing we wish someone would have told us earlier in life is, the storms you avoid don’t just disappear. They usually just come back wearing a different outfit.

We teach our girls that when something feels hard, uncomfortable, embarrassing, sad or scary, our instinct is often to find a way around it by distracting ourselves, ignoring it, numbing it, pretending we don’t care or hoping or praying it just goes away.

And that might work… temporarily.

But typically what we resist tends to persist.

So instead, we want girls learning how to go through the storm.

Feel the feeling, get curious about what it’s telling you, address what needs to be addressed & take the next step even when it’s uncomfortable.

Because feelings aren’t always facts but they ARE feedback.

And every storm she works her way through gives her something avoidance never can:

Evidence.

I’ve felt this before.
I’ve handled something like this before.
I made it through.

And suddenly the next storm doesn’t feel quite as big.

We don’t build confident girls by helping them avoid every storm. We build confidence by helping them realize they can walk through one. ⛈️💗

It’s already in her.Our job? Help her see it, trust it & learn how to use it.That’s the work. That’s the POWER. ⚡️
10/07/2026

It’s already in her.

Our job? Help her see it, trust it &
learn how to use it.

That’s the work. That’s the POWER. ⚡️

10/06/2026

Kids are constantly collecting information about who they are—from us, their friends, coaches, teachers, siblings, the internet…and yes, even all the ‘little’ jokes.

We’re NOT saying stop teasing your kids... Stop laughing… Stop being funny. Please, God, be funny.

But what we ARE saying: remember who’s on the receiving end because the comment you forget five minutes later might become the thing she notices about herself for the next 20 years.

Intent matters. Impact does too.

And sometimes a little more intentionality is all it takes to make sure the joke stays a joke.

SAVE this one. SHARE it with someone raising kids. And FOLLOW for more conversations about the things girls are making meaning out of every single day.

Okay we struck a chord talking about OWNERSHIP this week.Our DMs have been DM-ing since we posted a reel talking about w...
10/06/2026

Okay we struck a chord talking about OWNERSHIP this week.

Our DMs have been DM-ing since we posted a reel talking about what it looks like to own your piece without taking responsibility for the whole pie.

And the questions have been GOOD:
❓What if I don’t regret my decision?
❓What if I knew she’d be hurt and did it anyway?
❓Can I empathize without apologizing?
❓If someone is upset with my boundary, does that mean I did something wrong?

And don’t worry, we hear you. The follow-up reels are coming because one 60-second conversation about ownership opened up approximately 47 more conversations we need to have WHICH WE LOVE & is exactly why we need to be having these conversations with our girls. They need to know that taking ownership isn’t the same as taking the blame.

We want our girls to learn:
💕I can own my choices.
💕I can care about your feelings.
💕I can apologize when I’ve caused harm.
💕I can hold my boundary.
💕And I don’t have to make myself wrong every time someone is disappointed with my choices.

That kind of discernment takes practice so instead of giving her another lecture about “taking responsibility,” get curious about how she actually thinks about it.

These 8 questions are a pretty good place to start.

📌 SAVE these for your next car ride.
💬 ASK her one—not all eight at once. Nobody wants to be interrogated on the way to Target.
↗️ SHARE with another girl mom who wants to raise a girl who can own her part without carrying everyone else’s.

10/04/2026

You are allowed to do something and still recognize that the way you did it hurt someone else….Both things can be true.

No, you don’t have to invite every friend to everything or take responsibility for everyone else’s choices and you DEFINITELY don’t have to take all the blame just because someone’s feelings got hurt.

But…

“Someone else planned it.”
“She leaves me out too.”
“Everyone else went.”
“I didn’t do anything.”

…can all become really convenient ways to avoid looking at your piece.

Ownership sounds more like:

What did I know?
What did I choose?
What impact did my choice have?
Is there anything I would do differently next time?

That’s it.

Not: Everything is my fault.
Not: Everyone else gets a free pass.
Just: I’m responsible for my piece of the pie.

And maybe the hardest part? Understanding that someone else’s bad behavior doesn’t cancel out yours.

If she leaves you out too? That matters. And it may absolutely need its own conversation but we don’t have to use someone else’s behavior as permission to avoid examining our own.

That’s the difference between blame and ownership.

📌 SAVE this one for the next friendship blow-up.
↗️ SHARE it with a girl mom raising a kid who’s learning to own her piece without carrying the whole pie.
💗 FOLLOW Jill & Mary | Empowering the Next Gen of Girls for more real-life tools to help girls navigate friendships, communication, confidence + all the messy stuff in between.

Friendship issues are, without question, the #1 thing we deal with in this work.Ages 10–18. Different girls. Different ...
10/03/2026

Friendship issues are, without question, the #1 thing we deal with in this work.

Ages 10–18.
Different girls.
Different schools.

We can count at least seven separate friendship conversations we had THIS WEEK alone!!

Gossip. Exclusion. Jealousy. Hurt feelings. Assumptions. Girls who don’t know how to have the hard conversation or communicate what they’re thinking.

And here’s one of the biggest things we’ve learned through all of this:
Girls need to be TAUGHT how to be good friends, period.

Regina George behavior isn’t innate. Girls watch what gets laughs, attention and social power and they repeat what they see.

Gossip is learned.
Exclusion is learned.
Talking ABOUT someone instead of TO them is learned.

Simply put, if girls don’t know, they will never know better.

Every girl deserves good friends, good friends are the joy of our lives but every girl also needs to learn how to BE one of those good friends, too.

If we created a “How to Be a Good Friend” course for girls (& moms) would you add it to your proverbial toolkit? Because the more of these conversations we have, the more we think we need to make one…

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We tend to think confidence is finally getting to the place where you don’t feel nervous, don’t look stupid, don’t get r...
10/02/2026

We tend to think confidence is finally getting to the place where you don’t feel nervous, don’t look stupid, don’t get rejected, don’t fail, don’t feel awkward & don’t care what people think.

But that’s not confidence.

Confidence is doing all of those things and learning you can handle yourself through them.

There’s no shortcut. Just reps.
Keep putting them in.

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