Coaching with Ewelina

🇺🇸 Here is English version, translated by me.

This happened many years ago:

I moved out of our house.

I was staying with a friend of mine.

The rest of the world didn't know anything about it.

It was too embarrassing.

Only a few close friends were aware of what was really going on in my life.

So now that you have this "background" imagine:

It's Saturday evening.

I'm sitting on the floor in the living room of the house where I am temporarily living.

I am writing in my journal, crying.

I am filled with fear, despair.

I am terrified of what could happen next.

But I am determined to “sit with my pain”.

Why?

Because I know this is supposed to be "healthy".

I shouldn't be avoiding myself.

I should give myself space to feel what’s been brewing inside for a while.

So I am sitting, writing in my journal and since I am writing my thoughts and thoughts create feelings... I am suffering.

( FYI I had no clue that my thoughts created my feelings back then. NO CLUE)

So I'm looking for a solution...

Maybe I will find it in this pain.

It’s not an easy task.

I am trying to find something I’ve never been able to find before.

I don’t know how to do it…
I am searching but I don’t have a map.
I don’t have directions.
I don’t have a clue.

I spent that whole evening suffering and crying.

Have you ever had this happen to you?
Have you ever been in this spot?
Where you are so desperate for a solution to your problem, you are willing to go through the dark night of the soul?

Drop into heavy emotion for a long period of time, searching for wisdom?

Solution to a problem that seems to be 100% outside of your control?

Isn’t this what you're supposed to do, when you're stuck?

Feel the pain?

Feel the depth of suffering?

Yes. Yes that is healthy... but not for that long.

There is no need…

It's good to connect with the pain you are feeling.

It is good to witness it.

Absolutely, but staying in that spot ALL EVENING? Not neccessary! Not for 4 hours!

The only benefit to this suffering is that today I feel inspired to write to you about it.

It was so heavy, it's easy for me to go back into it... I remember the depth of this pain well.

Today this experience gives a great contrast to what I do when heavy emotions emerge within me.

Today I would never treat myself to such a "ride".

Why? I know it's not needed.

I’ve learned tools that help me address it in a very effective way.

The art of transmutation.

When dealing with difficult emotions you need to use your prefrontal cortex.

Feel the pain, but also analyze it.

Ask questions.

Get as much info as possible.

Find out how the mental body creates this emotion within the emotional body.

How the energy of the emotional body affects the physical body. Where exactly?

So is suffering necessary? Yes, for a bit…
It’s really beneficial if you use it:
- to understand yourself,
- to feel the contrast and find the depth of experience,
- and then give yourself exactly what you need after going through something this heavy.

This is the value of personal development.
The value of knowing how to transmute pain.

When you know what to do with your emotions, when you find yourself in a really difficult situation, You don't have to suffer like I did that evening. All You need is a moment. Just a moment.

So the next time you feel:
- despair,
- frustration,
- sadness,
- terrified,
- nervous,
- longing,
- fear,
- or any other "heavy feeling"
Thanks to the previous analysis, you will already have a lot of information about it,
it will be so much easier for you to recognize it.

You will know how to handle it well.

How to experience it consciously and how to take care of yourself after.

You won’t be sweeping your pain under the carpet.

You won’t be pretending you are not suffering.

You are going to be important enough to yourself to do something about it.

This is self love in action.

This is being kind to yourself.

This is knowing how to be your best friend.
Yes friends, there are tools available that help us create that incredible relationship with ourselves.

I teach those tools during sessions to my 1/1 clients.

You’ve got everything you need.

I will just teach you how to access it and utilize it.

Do you find yourself on a rollercoaster?

You have great days and then you have many, many very bad days.

You feel like you are not fully in control.

But you are ready to change it.

You realize that unless You do something about it, nothing will change.

Reach out.

I will help.

Send me a Direct Message with 3 possible times you could meet with me for a 30 minute online talk. Give me 3 options, and I will choose the one that works best with my schedule.

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Do you ever feel like your life is completely out of your control? Like there is always something going wrong.
You solve one problem and another pops up...
I know the feeling.
To get a grip and stop the constant up and downs, we have to find steadiness. Where? Within.
How? By taking time to introspect, to observe, to process, to plan.
Can’t manage life if you don’t know what you are managing, right?
We can’t process the painful emotion if we keep on avoiding it.
We won’t find peace if we are not looking for it.
We can be in charge of our emotions.
How? By managing our mind.
This is what I help my clients do. Want to know more?
Let’s talk.

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Imagine: you at the lowest point of your life.

You go back to her and talk to her about your life now.

You say: this is what I am dealing with…. These are my problems today…

And she says back: I would do anything to have problems like these!

👉🏼 You are in the reality she dreamed of.

👉🏼 You are further ahead than you give yourself credit for.

And if you are stuck, talk to me.

It’s not complicated. You can get out.

I help with that.

Do you feel lonely often?

Do you feel disconnected, misunderstood?

Over one in five people worldwide reported feeling loneliness “a lot of the day yesterday,” according to a recent Gallup survey.
Look for link to the article in the comments.

Many of us experience loneliness.
What helps? Self-belonging.

❤️ Developing a deep loving relationship with yourself so that no matter what's going on, you have your best friend on your side... yourself.

When the inner dialog shifts, you start allowing yourself to be who you truly are.

Not who you think others expect you to be.

Building connections from that point feels much better.

You feel inner freedom to be who you are, so others get to see the real you, not some "perfected, people pleasing version of you."

You know how to take care of yourself so you can contribute to relationship from a healthier place. You are no longer "needy".

People are naturally drawn to you.

You don't have to look for friends.

Others want to be in your company.

Need help creating this new relationship with yourself? Reach out.

I specialize in supporting American and European immigrant women.

I am here to educate and empower you to embrace your authentic self, to thrive, and to find a true sense of belonging, even when you feel alone, alienated, or disconnected.

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