Ben Schwarcz - Transformational Coaching

08/11/2026

You're living out someone else's program.

People are always confused about why their relationship patterns ar...

08/01/2026

The 80/20 rule applies to everything in your life.

20% of your efforts produce 80% of your results.
20% of your work, leads to 80% of your satisfaction.
Don't spend 80% (or more) of your time, doing things that are not fun -- this shuts down your heart and soul and creates only stress...

If you want to manifest more of what you want in your life - don't cram in more work in the outer world to get results. Spend 80% of your focus on your inner life, introspective practices, being present, meditating, breathing, Being....
and spend 20% of your time on worldly actions.

Change happens in the present — not the future. Embody and envision the self you wish to be and the feelings you wish to feel, in the now. Altered states of consciousness provide a portal to shift out of our habitual patterns and personality, and align with other potentialities.

Who are you when you feel Powerful? Free? Lovable?
How do you feel when all worry and fear is gone?

How would you move through the world if you knew at your deepest core, that you are completely safe?

08/01/2026

Change happens in the present — not the future. Embody and envision the self you wish to be and the feelings you wish to feel, in the now.

Altered states of consciousness provide a portal to shift out of our habitual patterns and personality, and align with other potentialities.

Who are you when you feel Powerful? Free? Lovable?
How do you feel when all worry and fear is gone?

How would you move through the world when you know at your deepest core, that you are completely safe?

07/08/2026

You are never permanently damaged. You are infinitely capable of healing and transformation -- and this is a lifelong journey of personal growth and expansion of your consciousness.

If you fall into the trap of believing you are beyond repair, then it is you who are closing the door on your emotional freedom.

Challenge this belief, and just be willing to accept a new possibility.

Your life is worth it.

06/05/2026

The most intense attraction often comes with the biggest red flags.

But we don’t want to believe that. It ruins the fantasy. It kills the high. Sometimes we’d rather feel the rush than face the truth.

We’ve been taught that chemistry means compatibility.

That feeling obsessed means we’ve met “the one.”

Here's the hard truth: Desire, attraction, and intense chemistry are not reliable signs of intuition.

They’re often signs of trauma reenactment. Nervous system confusion. Inner child longing.

These relationships are addictive -- that’s why they’re so hard to leave.

The highs are sky-high… and the lows are rock bottom.

When you do deep inner work -- especially trauma healing and subconscious reprogramming -- your nervous system stops chasing danger disguised as passion.And starts craving love that is real, reciprocal, and steady.

Your attractions can change.

What once felt irresistible can start to feel repulsive.

And what once felt boring or “too nice” can begin to stir something new and exciting -- because you are different.

a different kind of passion.

It’s not chaotic. It’s not all-consuming. It doesn’t make you lose your appetite and abandon your dreams.

It’s grounded.

It has boundaries.

It builds over time.

It turns on when there’s space for intimacy -- and cools when life needs tending.

It doesn’t override your intuition -- it aligns with it.

Don’t let chemistry be your compass.

Let healing be the path -- and attraction will follow.

It’s not the fire that burns you that you want.

It’s the one that warms you -- and stays.

05/05/2026

I love my work. No, really I do!! I wouldn’t have spent the last 20+ years, listening to people‘s most horrifying traumas if I didn’t love my work. Helping to relieve people of their darkest thoughts and heaviest emotional pain really is what gives me the greatest joy. ❤️

03/28/2026

When we change the past, we change the present.

How do you change the past? You change your experience of it. When the trauma happened you were not all there. Part of you dissociated. Part of you went into overwhelm. Part of you got stuck in judging yourself, blaming yourself, or feeling shame.

When we can re-experience our memory - in the present moment - and bring our whole self into presence — the memory falls away — along with all the distortions you have carried.

This is how deep trauma work radically changes your present reality. This is how triggers are removed. This is how patterns can change and relationships can become healthier and so much more satisfying.

03/27/2026

When we change the past, we change the present.

How do you change the past? You change your experience of it. When the trauma happened you were not all there. Part of you dissociated. Part of you went into overwhelm. Part of you got stuck in judging yourself, blaming yourself, or feeling shame.

When we can re-experience our memory - in the present moment - and bring our whole self into presence -- the memory falls away -- along with all the distortions you have carried.

This is how deep trauma work radically changes your present reality. This is how triggers are removed. This is how patterns can change and relationships can become healthier and so much more satisfying.

02/15/2026

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Is it possible to have a relationship that's easy A relationship that's mostly characterized by ease by harmony by flow Some people would say that's boring I...

01/23/2026

We spend a lot of energy escaping, suppressing, avoiding, or misdirecting anger.

“I’m irritated.” “I’m annoyed.” “I’m frustrated.” “I’m resentful.”

Different words. Same root emotion.

The healing shift: embodied anger

This is why somatic work matters.

Emotions don’t live in the mind. They live in the body.

The mind interprets, but the body feels. And the body stores unexpressed emotions.

And when you try to “figure out” emotions, you often shut them down more.

When anger is welcomed into the heart and grounded in the body, it stops being a threat.

It becomes what it always was meant to be:

your protector
your clarity
your boundary
your strength coming back online

It's not about doing it perfectly. It's about practice and self acceptance.

Take your time and be compassionate with yourself!

Mastering Anger to Find Your PowerMost people don’t have an “anger problem.”They have a relationship-with-anger problem.Especially if you’ve been hurt in rel...