07/12/2025
Women and children are getting abused but -
Not all men. Not all men. Not all men!
We know that we could leave a 5-year-old boy alone in a room full of women for a night. But we’d never risk leaving a 5-year-old girl with alone in a room full of men for even 10 minutes.
But not all men!
Yes brother, agreed - wholeheartedly! But maybe not in the way that you think I agree.
Not all men should be dating.
Not all men should be husbands.
Not all men should be fathers.
Not all men should be leading.
You see, in the Neolithic period, DNA has shown that 17 women would pass on their DNA for every 1 man. And as time progressed... it plateaued to about 4-5 women for every 1 man. In fact - in all of human history we have DOUBLE the amount of female ancestors as we do male ancestors.
But some men, not too long ago, came up with the "ALL MEN" system. Certain cultures and religions instated compulsory monogamy and the total financial dependence of women - creating a system where all men feel entitled to have their own woman. In some cultures, women no longer got to choose the father of their children since men could be assigned a wife, like property. So that ALL MEN could get a woman to carry their lineage and care for them. We're still living in that entitlement shadow.
Patriarchal systems emerged where "ALL MEN" were granted collective authority over women’s bodies. Virginity checks, secured paternity, forced childbirth, and no proper healthcare.
Patriarchy created the single family unit, where women and their children were isolated away from the village, keeping women alone and exhausted in the home, therefore increasing the man's power and privacy over his family and enabling abuse that goes unseen by other eyes - and continues to shock men when the truth about their male friend's abusive behaviors come out. But it doesn't shock women.
And so it's time that women start to remember - NOT ALL MEN ! Not all men are capable of being husbands or fathers, or even boyfriends. But which men?
There are some truly beautiful amazing men out there!
But how can you trust them - How can you tell if they won't turn on you? Because right now your life partner is the most likely to r**e you kill you or r**e your children. The one that promised to love and cherish you more than any other man is the most likely to hurt you. Next likely after that, comes your male family members.
Not all men are predators, but because enough are, that we cannot a take a risk walking home alone. So which men?
Yet people will not acknowledge that patriarchal men are the biggest threat to this planet, both human and non-humans. And the men that have patriarchally systemic power refuse to hold other men accountable. We already know that our power systems are full of pedos and rapists!
Patriarchy isn’t just a few rich bad men. It’s all people who reinforce the patriarchal fairytale of 1 man 1 women, 1 isolated family - that reinforce the idea that all men deserve to get married and have children.
We can state facts - but we can't fall into blame - it's the most useless thing we can do. Because we ALL grew up in patriarchy, and men have been victimized by it too.
I believe that we need to go back to the NOT ALL MEN system. And who needs to change the most? WOMEN.
Because we're still living in the gaslight of the patriarchy that has us believing that all men deserve a chance at a date, all men deserve to have s*x, all men deserve to start a family. And so women are giving their attention and having children with men who are totally incapable of emotional maturity, partnership financial stability, or equal responsibility - making everyone vulnerable to abuse. The bar has been desperately low for too long.
When the bar is too low, men lose their sense of purpose, their dignity, they forget that joy is only found in service and relationship to others - and they end up alone. WOMEN are not holding the bar that men used to have to aspire to and grow up into - in order to become a man with a family. WOMEN need to give men reasons to contribute to society positively. Women have to start saying Not all Men and lead the way to a better society.
Stats below:
1 in 3 women globally experiences physical/s*xual violence—usually from an intimate partner (WHO).
58% of female homicides are committed by family members or partners (UNODC).
90%+ of child s*xual abusers are male relatives or acquaintances (RAINN).