Your kid’s coach might spend more time with them each week than you do.
But are they helping your kid grow—or just helping them win? 🏀
In this episode, I sit down with Nolan Recker, founder of Hey Coach, to talk about:
• Why sports may be the best place for identity growth
• Why most coaches want to mentor kids but don’t know how
• How reflection (yes, even by text) helps kids build confidence and self-awareness
• What parents wish coaches knew—but rarely say
This conversation is for parents, coaches, and anyone who cares about kids becoming healthy adults, not just better athletes.
🎧 Watch the full episode now on YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts The YouSchool Podcast
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Taking the mystery out of preparing kids for a meaningful life. A life that's rooted in individual passion, drive, skills and preferences.
We exist to unlock the full potential of every high school and college student by giving them the tools and help to plan a life made for them. A path that's uniquely theirs–never somebody else's–and a plan that allows them to achieve their own individual goals. And we do this by helping students find out who they are, what they want and what they need to do to make their dreams a reality.
When your kid asks, “What should I do?” That’s not the moment to freeze—or take over.
That’s your moment to guide.
In this episode, Scott Schimmel breaks down what it looks like to show up with clarity when your kid actually wants your input. Not to script their life—but to help them see clearly so they can choose wisely.
If you’ve ever felt stuck between saying too much or not enough, this one’s for you.
🎧 Watch the full episode now → Guiding Your Kids to THEIR Good Life on YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts.
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08/06/2025
Parenting Prompt of the Week
Want to build deeper trust with your kid? Start here:
“Did I ever tell you about the time I totally failed at something important?”
Sharing a story of your own failure—and what you learned from it—shows your kid that struggling is part of growing. That they’re not alone. That even you are still learning.
Kids don’t need perfect parents—they need real ones. Start small. Share a 2-minute story during a car ride or over dinner tonight.
07/18/2025
You can’t be the only voice your kid hears.
They need other adults—outside your home—who see them, invest in them, and echo the same values you care about.
Research says every kid needs five trusted adults in their life. Without them, they’re more likely to drift, shut down, or turn to the loudest voice in the room (often their peers).
This week’s episode is about how to help your kid build a support team—so they don’t feel like they’re doing life alone.
07/11/2025
According to self-complexity theory (Linville, 1985), kids who have more ways to describe themselves—roles and traits like “friend,” “helper,” “musician,” “math whiz,” or “big brother”—bounce back from stress better. They don’t fall apart when one part of life goes wrong.
When we help kids see themselves in many lights, they build emotional resilience.
Practical tip: Try asking your kid, “What are five words you’d use to describe yourself—without using school, grades, or sports?”
Let them know: they’re allowed to be more than one thing. And that might be the best emotional buffer they’ll ever have.
Cited: Linville, P. W. (1985). Self-complexity and affective extremity: Don’t put all of your eggs in one cognitive basket. Social Cognition, 3(1), 94–120.
Most kids are never taught how to repair a relationship.
But conflict resolution isn’t optional—it’s essential.
When your kid learns how to name what happened, take ownership, and seek to understand, they don’t just become better friends—they become the kind of people others trust, follow, and rely on.
Because life is full of hard conversations.
Let’s raise kids who can handle them.
🎧 Watch or listen to the full episode:
“How Do You Repair Relationships?”
Available now on YouTube + wherever you get your podcasts.
07/07/2025
Most don’t—because conflict resolution isn’t automatic. It’s a skill that has to be taught, modeled, and practiced. And when it’s missing, relationships stay shallow, resentment builds, and kids either avoid the hard stuff—or explode.
Empathy isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill. And most kids haven’t been taught.
In a world of distractions and constant notifications, kids are losing the ability to listen with presence.
They might care—but without intentional guidance, they won’t know how to show it.
Empathetic listening is one of the most important skills your kid will ever learn—and it starts at home.
This week’s episode breaks down:
👉 Why empathy isn’t automatic
👉 What’s happening in your kid’s brain when they tune out
👉 How to help them become the kind of friend everyone needs
🎧 Watch the full episode now.
If your kid doesn’t learn how to connect, the cost is bigger than awkward small talk.
Kids who don’t practice real connection drift toward loneliness, shallow friendships, people-pleasing, and feeling invisible—no matter how many followers they have.
Connection isn’t just a nice-to-have. It’s the backbone of a thriving life: friendships, trust, teamwork, love, and community.
This week’s episode breaks down why connection is a skill—and how you can help your kid build it now, before they build walls instead of bridges.
🎧 Watch the full episode on YouTube and start the conversation with your kids.
Your kid’s grades matter.
Their talents matter.
But their ability to build real connection? That’s what shapes a healthy, meaningful life.
Connection is a skill—one that today’s kids don’t get enough practice with.
When they know how to ask good questions, listen well, and show up for people, they don’t just make friends… they build trust, teams, and a sense of belonging that lasts.
Our upcoming episode breaks it down:
> Why connection is a core human need
> What happens when kids don’t learn it
> How to help your kid practice it every day
Belonging isn’t just nice—it’s essential.
Research shows that feeling connected and valued is one of your kid’s deepest psychological needs.
When kids know they truly belong—to a family, a team, or a trusted group—they’re more resilient, less anxious, and more grounded in who they really are.
But when they feel disconnected?
They become more likely to chase likes, followers, and approval—at any cost.
This week’s episode breaks down why real belonging matters more than ever—and how you can help your kid find it.
🎧 Watch the full episode now on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcasts.
06/16/2025
Most kids spend so much energy trying to fit in—
shaping themselves to match a crowd, chasing approval, hiding the parts that feel “too much.”
But fitting in isn’t the same as belonging.
Your kid needs to know they have a place they can’t lose—where they’re fully seen and fully loved, exactly as they are.
This week’s episode is all about how to anchor your kid in real belonging—at home, at school, and within themselves.
🎧 Listen now and help your kid trade fitting in for true connection.
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