08/29/2025
August 29 is Lover’s Day, Qi Xi 七夕, the seventh day of the seventh lunar month. This ancient Chinese holiday goes back to at least the Han Dynasty (206 BCE- 220 CE), though aspects of the Lover’s Day story are found in the Zhou Dynasty (1027-771 BCE) Poetry Classic (詩經).
A mortal Cowherd Boy 牛郎 and a divine Weaving Girl 織女, daughter of the Queen Mother of the West 西王母, the Goddess of the Heavens, fell so in love with each other that they neglected their duties. The cows were untended and the Weaving Girl no longer made her magical garments, which included multi-colored clouds. This so upset the Queen Mother that she sent a magpie to earth to tell the lovers that they could meet only once a month. Unfortunately, magpies are sometimes forgetful, and by the time the magpie arrived on earth, he told them. “The Goddess of the Heavens commands that from now on you will meet only once a year.” As a result, the Cowherd Boy and Weaving Girl were immediately transformed into Altair and Vega, the brightest stars in their constellations, but at opposite ends of the Milky Way.
Once every year, on the seventh day of the seventh month, all the magpies in the world, regretting their tragic error, fly up to the heavens to form a celestial bridge (鵲橋 “the Magpie Bridge”) so that the two distant lovers can travel across the bridge and reunite in the middle. It is likely to be cloudy that evening, to preserve the privacy and hide the passion that is happening in the night sky. And when it rains the next morning, it is the tears of the departing lovers.
Is there a connection between Qigong and Love? Look at this beautiful saying from perhaps the greatest author on Chinese medicine of all time, Sun Simiao, who wrote in the sixth century “People suffer illness because they do not have love in their life and are not cherished.” (Quoted in Ted Kaptchuk’s The Web That Has No Weaver)
Yet, there are relatively few Chinese references to what I believe is the most powerful energy that unifies body, mind, and spirit. There may be social and political reasons for this; strong emotions were perceived as a threat to social stability, Confucian decorum, and government control. After all, people in love may do unpredictable things that defy convention.