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The calm that gets us through hard rooms isn't something we're born with. Our latest post looks at staying calm during divorce mediation, and why slower is often faster when clients are making big decisions. Read more:

What we tell clients about staying calm applies to us too Email from Weber Dispute Resolution A recent post on trusting the process, plus two trainings built around the same steadiness.   How Clients Can Stay Calm During Mediation The calm that gets us throu

Still using training materials years later. That says something!

"The materials provided were thorough and extremely helpful. I use them all the time in my mediations. The hands-on approach to coaching, the different mediation scenarios we completed with other attendees, and the immediate feedback received were exceptional."
That's from Naghmeh Bashar, an attorney who went through Divorce Mediation Training with Shawn Weber and Robin Seigle a few years back.

The fall training runs September 30 through October 10, live on Zoom. Daily mock mediations, real feedback, and a handbook you'll actually keep using long after the training ends. https://weberdisputeresolution.com/divorce-mediation-training/

Early-bird registration is $2,100 through September 1.

Divorce Mediation Training – Online 40-Hour Course Gain practical mediation skills and earn your 40-hour certificate—live on Zoom with Shawn Weber, JD, CLS-F

Family mediation can get intense. Marriages end, finances come apart, kids get caught in the crossfire, and people say things they cannot take back. The mediator sits in the middle of all of it and has to stay steady enough to keep the process moving.

I think about it like the eye of a hurricane. The storm is turning at full force, and the center stays calm. That calm center is what I call the Still Center, and it is a skill you build over years of hard rooms.

My new post breaks down how mediators hold that steadiness, including a reset you can use in the middle of a difficult session.
https://weberdisputeresolution.com/mediator-self-regulation-still-center/

I am also teaching a one-day retreat on this on August 29 here in Solana Beach, if you want to work on it in person. A link to the registration page is in the comments.

When the Room Tilts: Mediator Self-Regulation and the Still Center Learn how mediator self-regulation can help you maintain control during intense sessions and complex dynamics.

Ready for a change in your family law practice? Mediation training could be the key! 🔑✨

If you have been thinking about adding mediation to your practice Email from Weber Dispute Resolution The fall 40-Hour Divorce Mediation Training is open for registration. Early-bird pricing through September 1.   If the way you practice doesn't feel right, you're n

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Most mediators have experienced it at some point.

You are in a session and slowly start leaning toward one side. One person seems more reasonable. Another starts frustrating you. Somebody reminds you of a former client, an ex-spouse, or a difficult person from your own life.

The shift is usually subtle, but it matters.

Mediator neutrality is not about pretending those reactions never happen. The skill is noticing them early enough to keep them from shaping the process.

I wrote a new article about mediator neutrality, internal bias, and the challenge of staying balanced when difficult conversations start pulling you sideways.

The Tug Away From Mediator Neutrality Even experienced mediators sometimes feel themselves leaning toward one side. The key is recognizing the pull before it starts shaping the process.

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Learn Collaborative Divorce from People Who Helped Build It Email from Weber Dispute Resolution Early registration ends May 15 for this live, in-person interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce training in San Diego.   Learn Collaborative Divorce from the People

Knowing when to interrupt in mediation can change everything. Do it wrong and you lose the process. Do it right and you move it forward.

I see a lot of mediators step in too quickly. The tension rises and they try to get control of it. That usually makes things worse. It’s the professional version of grabbing the wheel from the passenger seat.

Sometimes the better move is to sit back and let people work their way through something uncomfortable. Sometimes you need to step in and redirect before it goes sideways.

That call falls apart when it comes from reactivity. It works when it is a deliberate choice.

I wrote a short piece about when to interrupt, when to hold back, and how to do it without becoming part of the problem.

When to Interrupt in Mediation (and When to Let It Run) Knowing when to interrupt in mediation can change everything. Do it wrong and you lose the process. Do it right and you move it forward.

I see a lot of cases where one professional is trying to carry legal issues, financial questions, and emotional dynamics all at the same time.

That is a tough way to run a case. It wears people down.

It is one of the patterns behind burnout in this work.

There is a better way to structure it.

We just sent out a newsletter with two short pieces on teamwork, role clarity, and how Collaborative Practice fits into all of this.

If your cases have been feeling harder than they should, it is worth a look.

This is why your cases feel so hard Email from Weber Dispute Resolution And what changes when the structure is right.   Conflict is hard work! Handled poorly, it gets heavier over time. Cases drag. Emotions spike. Professionals end up c