Love Thinks

02/15/2025

02/15/2025

02/15/2025

Morgan and I had the terrific opportunity to present to over 3500 at the XO conference in Grapevine TX this past Valentines Day. What an honor to be included in their top-notch conference!!

08/24/2023

I had a good time with Abby and Amy talking about keeping a relationship strong when raising young kids.

HERself · Episode

08/04/2023

As many of you know, I have been providing evidence-based relationship courses based around my Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) to military, community non-profits, educational and social agencies for past 25 years. But in the last five years, Morgan and I made video-based versions and I developed a churchwide healthy relationship series built around the RAM--you can get a quick overview video (below) from five pastors who conducted this series--also see www.RAMseries.com and can read more about it from my latest book, Endgame: The church's strategic move to save faith and family in America (www.Endgamebook.org). I just wanted to provide this update and please feel free to share 🙂

07/27/2023

This is Dr Morgan Cutlip’s Interview about her new book on GMA3 from this afternoon— she did AMAZING and it is already #1 in newly released motherhood books on Amazon! Get your copy today or give a copy to a mom you love!! Morgan, you rocked it!

Psychotherapist and author Dr. Morgan Cutlip discusses “How to Love Yourself Without Losing Yourself,” her new book with parenting solutions to avoid burnout or “Mom guilt.”

07/26/2023

Very excited that our oldest, Dr Morgan Cutlip, will be on Good Morning America (GMA3) today at 1:00 EST to discuss her new book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself published by Thomas Nelson publishing. You can preordered now and hope all can tune in to see her be interviewed!!!!

10/22/2022

Save these for the next time your partner shuts down.

I find that when we encounter difficult conversations, it can be powerful to shift out of the specifics and talk more about HOW you communicate together.

Many of these scripts are addressing the “process” of how you and your partner talk vs. the “content” of what you’re really talking about.

The process or HOW you communicate is often the most important. Get good at this and you can tackle almost anything!

I hope you found this helpful. Please like, save, share, or comment if you did.

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

 

10/19/2022

What can you say instead of shutting down?

Shutting down during an argument happens. It’s normal…sometimes.

However shutting down is something that should be an exception to your communication style and not the norm.

There are times when shutting down is protective and productive, anyone remember …”when you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all?” Or when it is to “cool off”.

However, usually shutting down makes it nearly impossible to have a productive conversation that ever leads to any type of change.

So, look through the reasons you may shut down and see which one resonates with you.

Next time you are in an argument, instead of shutting down,

try stating the reason in a respectful way.

✅Like, “I feel like you’re not hearing what I’m saying” or “I would like to work this out, but I feel really emotionally overwhelmed.”

This can help to further the conversation and hopefully work on HOW you talk vs just what you talk about.

❤️Please like, save, or share this post!

10/13/2022

Criticism can be constructive or destructive.

Even if the criticism is constructive, it can be incredibly hard to hear. And destructive criticism will rapidly erode the closeness of your relationship.

For years, Chad told me I was sensitive. For years, I was deeply offended because I didn’t believe that I was. In some ways we both were right but I had to be willing to really hear what he was saying to me.

I am sensitive in that I feel every minor shift in mood and tone, sometimes I notice it in him before he is aware of it. I had to turn down my sensitivity to these cues because it was annoying for me to always be checking in “what’s going on, are you ok?”. I had to receive his constructive criticism and I’m better for it.

However, destructive criticism is different. This feels abusive, or invalidating, and overall harsh.

There is a range of options for responding to these criticisms that involve:

-Depersonalizing it and affirming what is true. This can help to diffuse the situation and help you to feel these digs less.

-Responding with curiosity and determining whether or not there is merit to the criticism.

-Challenging the criticism.

-Making a request for more grace and less harshness.

Please note that criticism that enters into abusive territory should not be tolerated and I highly recommend seeking professional support.

Please save this post for the next you encounter criticism in your relationships.