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I know that what you’re experiencing is more than likely not all fun and games. That your children may in fact be abusing you by proxy. That your children may come back to you completely dysregulated- in fight, flight, freeze or fawn. I know that some, if not most of your parenting time, may be centered around regulating them back down to a parasympathetic state. That transitions between homes may require you to first brace yourself for impact and then deal with the aftermath of toxicity that needs to pour out of them first, before they can be calm and feel like your children. And that feels utterly, completely unfair, as these same children do not behave this way with their other parent, at all, ever. You may even feel like a failure as a parent, and your ex will definitely try to paint you as one. But here’s the truth: yes this is all completely unfair- to you and for your children. But, they are this way with you because they trust you. They know that you love them unconditionally and unconditional love means showing up for people even when it’s hard. You are their safe space, the only place they can actually say all the things they need to say, get all the poison out of their body, because you love them. They do not have that luxury with their other parent. They have to shove their needs, wants, beliefs, opinions and passions down, to go along with their abuser to get by. They have to silence themselves to get by while being subjected to various forms of abuse, including messaging about you that hurts their child hearts. So, your parenting is in fact a very powerful force, even when it feels like it’s not, even if your children seem completely disconnected from you, even if they no longer see you because of their other parent. You are exactly what your children need even in all of your messy, imperfect glory. But to show up for them, you need to first prioritize yourself. You will not be able to sustain this ultra marathon without first investing in yourself- in your healing, in your knowledge, in your support. It all starts with you. We’ll be talking about that this morning, inside of The Collective, in our weekly Office Hours. ❤️

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The Wait Waiting is hard.

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How do we give our kids clarity — without putting them in the middle? Dr. C explains how to teach boundaries, name patterns, and guide children toward emotional safety without directly blaming the other parent. It’s not about saying, “Your dad didn’t show up again.” It’s about helping them notice for themselves: “That’s the third time you weren’t picked up on time. That’s a pattern.” When kids learn to recognize what’s unhealthy, they build resilience — and truth becomes their protection. Watch the full episode on Dr. C’s youtube channel. #coercivecontrol #itsallcoercivecontrol #framedbook #institutionalbetrayal #domesticabusesurvivor #domesticabuseawarenessmonth #domesticabuseawarness #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #abuse #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #parentalalienationawareness #parentalalienation #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #parentalalienationawareness #parentalalienation #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #childrensrights #childabuseawareness #childabusesurvivor #childabuse #therapy #trauma #therapist #abuse

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Mini Vacation One of my favorite things is enjoying a cup of coffee in the early morning quiet.

My thoughts are with every parent dealing with holiday chaos .. high conflict individuals thrive in these times.

Don’t let the behavior of others steal your joy’