Love and Other Debauchery

S*xual Life Energy is amazing 🤩

2 years ago, my world fell apart. And it took me a while to find myself again.

And who I found wasn't who I was a few years ago.

I embraced my , specifically my , and my *xuallifeenergy

And learned that no one is talking about the Wild Feminine. In fact, most don't even seem to acknowledge that it exists.

And S*xual Life Energy? Most coaches only seem to focus on heart connections, a few of them also acknowledge crown/knowledge connections. The other life energies don't seem to be on anyone's radar, at least not as far as how we connect to other humans.

So I'm excited to bring the Wild, the Wild Feminine, S*xual Life Energy, and all things me back into people's life, because you deserve to have the best in your life. 💋

When s**t happens, when people do or say things that hurt us, we have two choices:

Let that hurt bury our hearts

or

Become a person who loves themselves so deeply that other people's s**t is just a momentary stumble (or less.)

You're not obligated to be put into ruins just because of someone else's s**t. You can choose ruins, but you're not obligated to.

Mmmm, being a well-f**ked woman is an incredible state of living.

So is being a well-heard woman.

A few days ago, one of my partners and I had the most incredible evening.

Actually, it started about 26 hours before we saw each other. 😉

I sent him a picture. It wasn't even overly revealing. I would have posted it on social media. But it was fun and playful, and he responded in kind.

Our texts got more explicit. 😈

When he said goodnight, he called me his s*xy pet name for me, one that would be derogatory if it came from someone who didn't respect me.

I woke up to a s*xy text telling me he couldn't wait to see me that night.

And, of course, more explicit texts (and one very s*xy picture from me).

But it wasn't just the s*xy talk.
•There were little tidbits about things we like from each other (example: I told him I love it when he tells me what to do, and that I trust him to do what's best for us.)
•We said "I love you."
•We heard and responded to each other.

And that's one of the things that keeps most women from allowing themselves to be a well-f**ked woman: responding to their men.

Even you out there that claim to want it, and ESPECIALLY those who secretly want it but can't admit it to yourself.

To be a well-f**ked woman, you must give yourself permission to respond to him.

You must give yourself permission to respond to him. Not just to answer his texts/words or to get into bed with him, but to allow your body to be turned on, to come alive, to feel the sensuality flow through you.

Then, you can allow yourself to respond to his advances. You can flirt with him. You can kiss him back with passion. You can respond to his s*xy texts. You can tease him.

You can let him into your body. Eagerly. Passionately. Fully.

You can give in to all of your desires.

You can surrender to your desires. Surrender to the intimacy. Surrender to your joy and your aliveness. Surrender to your passion.

Surrender to him.

Surrender to yourself.

Because the second half of this is about being a well-heard woman.

How well are you hearing yourself? How well are you listening to yourself.

Being a well-heard woman starts with hearing yourself.

Hearing your desires. Your longings. Your hopes, dreams, wishes. Hearing your resistance and nervousness showing you wounds (so that you can heal them, NOT so you can use them as excuses).

And then allowing yourself to be well-heard by those around you.

After being well-f**ked, I am CHATTY as hell. And my partner listened to me talk. And not just zoned out while I rambled, but responded to me, asked me questions, and made me feel very heard.

It's an aspect of me I used to apologize to my partners for. I don't anymore. I talk, and then I express my appreciation for listening to me.

Allow yourself to be well-heard. Both by yourself and the people in your life.

It's bliss to be a well-f**ked and a well-heard woman.

It's time to allow yourself that pleasure. ❤️‍🔥💋❤️‍🔥

Are you focusing on the wrong things in your relationships?

Part one was live yesterday, part two coming live in the next couple hours and we'll be talking about 3 easy steps to identifying what you should be focusing on.

If you want IN, comment below!!

The common denominator in all your failed relationships is...you.

The common denominator in all your good relationships is you.

The good news is you can easily move more relationships into the "good" category because you have the control over the common denominator over all those relationships.

You hold the key.
You have the power.
You can make the changes.

Start your journey to better relationships and more love in your life by commenting below to pick up a free Intuitive Love Diagnosis session. 😘😘😘

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True confessions: I'm tired.

Tired of being a "good" person. Sure, there will be people happy to tell you I'm not, but that's not even what I'm talking about.

I'm tired of the society rules around what a good person, a good woman, a good friend/partner/daughter/aunt/adult/whatever is.

The list of dos and don'ts is exhaustive and exhausting.

Because there's a fu***ng HUGE gap between a "good" person and a bad person. And with few exceptions, most people would agree I'm not a bad person.

And that gap, that wide space between, gigantic play place, that's where I belong. There's so much freedom there, free of people's expectations and beliefs but still in integrity with myself.

I want to play and tease and speak my mind and put my feet up on the goddamn table because they barely reach the floor...without labeling myself a terrible person.

I want to laugh at all the inappropriate things, and be sarcastic and cuss up a storm without feeling like I'm not being girly or soft enough.

I want to be bold in my stance that I'm not fu***ng responsible for anyone's thoughts, feelings, insecurities, trauma, healing, or struggles that might be exposed or unearthed while in connection with me. I'm not responsible to or for anyone, except the occasional small child under my watch. I'm here to illuminate the bridge between where people are at and where they want to be, but I'm not here to drag them across it.

I want to let my full confidence and love and delight in myself come out without feeling guilty that others don't think that highly of themselves.

I want to let my magic out, my spell-weaving, my intuition, my brilliance, my empathic abilities, and my life-changing power without feeling like I think I'm better than those without those gifts.

I want to speak honestly, not dancing around topics or words.

I want to love myself. I want to live. I want to shine. And none of those are possible in the "good girl" realm.

That place is full of chains and cages and muzzles, overflowing with guilt trips and shame, my brain screaming at my in other people's voices all the awful things I might be if I just be myself. It's a neverending pinball game, bouncing from one fear to another.

And I'm so done with it. Fu***ng over it. It's a s**tty, terrible place, and I can't believe I allowed myself to stay there so long. (Self, please forgive me!)

It's not how I was created

It's not how you were created.

So if you're tired of living in that s**tty place in your head and you're ready to burst out, come join my free group. Drop a comment below for your personal invitation.

It's gonna be fire🔥💫🔥

We have this fantasy that someone is going to come save us from our heartache and hurts.

We want someone else to save us because we're desperate from someone to prove to us that we're worth it. That if they fix us, if they heal us, if they make us feel loved, it's proof that we're worthy.

Except it doesn't work that way.

No one else can heal our self worth issues.

No amount of friends, love, s*x, alcohol, popularity, control or submission, or anything external will fix us.

We've gotta face our s**t.

It's hella weird to be trying to talk yourself out of being so cocky...

Ya know, because you were told that it's not ok, that others won't like it, that you'll make others uncomfortable, that you need to be humble, that you aren't really as great as you think you are, because you don't really have the skills or talents you believe you do...

Because only jerks think that highly of themselves...

And should you be thinking of others?

Our programming runs deep. And it's exhausting to keep fighting with yourself, too keep convincing yourself to dislike yourself.

Just stop. Accept your your awesomeness, your magic, your utter greatness.

I take "masculine" teachings and apply what feels good to my own internal masculine, to come into more unity with my divine aspects, to provide my divine feminine with support from my divine masculine.

Which makes those men operating in their lower masculine cringe and react poorly.

It's hard for them to be in contact with a woman who has more integrity, more steadfastness, more knowledge of herself than they do.

The lower masculine is counting on a lack of masculine in the females around him, counting on them to be looking for external masculine validation, counting on their emotions to be unprotected and malleable, counting on them not to stand up for themselves, counting on her beautiful chaos to give him an in, to allow him to be the authority and structure she lacks, to submit to his abuse masked as "helping" her, to be the prey for him to prove his predator under the guise of being what she lacks.

True leadership, high masculinity isn't looking for lack. A king doesn't seek to be the missing piece in his kingdom. A business CEO isn't looking for employees who would from his leadership. The high masculine isn't looking to find your weak spots so he can manipulate your emotions into doing what he wants.

The high masculine isn't threatened by other masculinity, even in women, when it comes in integrity. In women it comes with femininity that submits to his leadership, while still having self-respect, control of herself, power, and following her higher calling. He's not looking for women he needs to watch constantly so she doesn't misstep, or women he needs to save. He's looking for women to relate to in his unique being, women to inspire him and to co-create with. He's looking for the feminine that will bring his vision into reality, who he can provide support and help to, while both parties stay into integrity.

And the high masculine does not just have one template, one state of being. He is as he was created, which might differ from the other divine masculine he comes into contact with. His skills, strengths, needs, desires, all of him are uniquely his, and work in conjunction with all other high masculine to guide, lead, support, serve, and love his family, friends, and community.

And for you, you divine men, I am so grateful for you. I'm grateful for the times I get to release control to you, where you support and lead me.

And when we are apart, my divine masculine will hold and carry me until you return. 💕

If you could be anything, embody any traits, act any way, do anything, all without hurting anyone, causing any misunderstandings, or negativity affecting anyone...who/what would you be?

Me, I'd be a merciless tease. S*xually and joking both. 😁