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The Psychiatrist’s Case for Downsizing a Friendship A new book on attachment theory proposes a radical solution for the anxious among us.

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"Life is a journey full of pleasures and pains. To live it well and fully means learning from every bit of it, including the mistakes, and moving forward."

The Problem With ‘No Regrets’ If you never pine for a different past, you’ll stay trapped in a cycle of mistakes.

"We feel the things that happen to us viscerally and physically. What happens to others, however, functions more like an instructive tale, because the pain of failure isn’t our own and the distance gives us perspective. We all understand in theory that bad things happen. But we also feel really bad when they happen to us, and condemn ourselves."

The Japanese Art Principle That Teaches How to Work With Failure Your cracks and flaws make you more amazing—if handled artfully.

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If, instead, we understand how to manage uncertainty rather than trying to avoid it, we can get out from under the sword.

The Secret to Thinking Your Way Out of Anxiety To live with uncertainty, see it as opportunity instead.

"It’s long been deeply unsettling to me how many behaviors associated with psychopathy Mr. Trump exemplifies. There are seven characteristics associated with “antisocial personality disorder,” according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders: deceitfulness, impulsivity, failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors, irritability and aggressiveness, reckless disregard for the safety of self or others, consistent irresponsibility and lack of remorse. I’ve observed all seven in Mr. Trump over the years, and watched them get progressively worse. It’s the last one — lack of remorse — that gives him license to freely exercise the other six."

Opinion | I Was Trump’s Ghostwriter. A New Biopic Gets the Most Important Thing Right. (Gift Article) Critics may argue about specific factual details, but a new account of Trump’s ascent jibes with everything I saw with my own eyes.

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Important signs to look out for...

Memory Loss Isn’t the Only Sign of Dementia (Gift Article) Here are five other common red flags to look out for.

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For most healthy people, the glutes should fire on their own when moving. Set an alarm and stand up every 30 to 50 minutes and gently tap your butt cheeks with your fingertips, Dr. Konidis said. “That little bit of stimulation reminds the brain that those muscles are there,” she added.

Even better, march in place or do some hip circles or squats, making sure to tighten your butt cheeks each rep.

Sitting All Day Can Cause Dead Butt Syndrome (Gift Article) The name might make you snicker, but addressing “gluteal amnesia” can help you avoid chronic pain.

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If your partner or another member of your family is the kinkeeper, be mindful that this can be “thankless work,” Dr. Braithwaite said.

Simply expressing gratitude for that care — and acknowledging how much work it involves — can help prevent kinkeeper burnout.

The Constant Work to Keep a Family Connected Has a Name (Gift Article) “Kinkeeping” plays a crucial role in a family’s health and well-being, and it’s still predominantly done by women.

"But the subtler truth seems to be that finances, family, and social fitness are three prongs in a happiness trinity. They rise together and fall together. Low-income Americans have seen the largest declines in marriage and experience the most loneliness. High-income Americans marry more and have not only richer investment accounts but also richer social lives. In this light, the philosophical question of what contributes most to happiness is just the beginning. The deeper question is why the trinity of happiness is so stratified by income—and whether well-being in America is in danger of becoming a luxury good."

The Happiness Trinity Why it’s so hard to answer the question What makes us happiest?

For example, the ardently religious Russian novelist Leo Tolstoy wrote in his book of daily pensées, A Calendar of Wisdom, that in times of trouble, “you have to embrace what the wisdom of humanity, your intellect, and your heart tell you: that the meaning of life is to serve the force that sent you into the world.”

How to Find Your Faith The key to transcendence starts with a practice, not your feelings.