Holding Hands Childcare

Wonderful ways to help them learn the social-emotional skills they need.❤️

👉Co-regulation: https://www.theottoolbox.com/co-regulation/

👉Co-regulation is the ability to regulate emotions and behaviors to soothe and manage stressing internal sensory input or external situations, with the support and direction of a connecting individual.

👉Co-regulation is nurturing connection of another individual that supports regulation needs through the use of strategies, tools, and calming techniques in order to self-soothe or respond in times of stress.

👉Co-regulation and self-regulation are part of the developmental process.

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Child-led Christmas crafts are the best.🎄🎅❤️

Childcare openings! Starting in May or September, openings for children 24 months and older.

4 Star rated through Parent Aware

High quality, licensed care

Home space is completely dedicated to quality early childhood care. Two floors of educational fun. Plus a full privacy fenced yard for daily outdoor play.

Your child will thrive!

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Life is big and hard and scary sometimes. Even for us as adults.
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We don’t always know what ‘the next right thing’ is. We don’t always know what to say or how to act or even how to sort out our own jumbled thoughts and emotions at times.
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Those unsettled feelings can make us anxious or prickly or timid or grumpy or teary or short-tempered or sad or overwhelmed or scared or withdrawn.
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Our children are no different. They are just as human as we are. Their feelings are just as valid as ours. Their experiences are just as valid as ours. And their reactions are just as valid as ours.
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As adults we have to keep in mind that our children’s perceptions of their feelings and experiences may be very different from ours because they don’t have the maturity and wisdom to see and feel and remember things with our adult judgement or perspective.
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Something that may mean little to us may have a powerful impact on our children. Something that may trigger huge feelings in us may have little to no impact on our children. Projecting our feelings and reactions onto our children can lead us to minimize their big feelings or to unload our own big feelings onto them or even trigger big feelings in them ourselves.
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Recognizing that our children are individuals, dependent on us but distinct from us, helps us to see them and hear them and understand them, to see things from their perspective, and to meet their needs right where they are instead of where we think they should be.
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Trust is tapestry woven day in and day out with threads of loving and listening and helping and encouraging and supporting and guiding. It’s threaded throughout with mistakes and misunderstandings and missteps and mended with hugs and apologies and “I love you’s.” It’s washed and worn to velveteen softeness with years of tears and laughter. And it’s wrapped around our children’s hearts to keep them warm and safe when life feels too big and hard and scary to handle alone. -L.R.Knost

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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

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Words matter.💞 L.R.

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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

Our children watch what we do far more than they hear what we say. Our choices often become their choices. Our actions, their actions. Treating them as valuable humans teaches them to value other humans. Treating them with respect teaches them to respect others. But it doesn’t end there. Treating others as valuable humans ourselves, with respect, empathy, acceptance, and compassion, is a vital part of growing children into the world citizens and leaders of tomorrow that we cannot overlook. Our children are watching how we treat the world around us. They’re learning — every moment, every choice, every action, every inaction — they’re learning. Our children are in our care for a short time, and then the world will be in their care. Let’s teach them acceptance. Let’s equip them with wisdom. Let’s arm them with kindness. Let’s fill them with compassion. Let’s strengthen them with gentleness. Let’s change the world, one little heart at a time. -L.R.Knost
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Anger is often a way to avoid showing vulnerability when it doesn't feel safe to reveal or express the softer emotions. Turning to anger is usually an automatic, unconscious process, but it can become conscious.

Anger can also fuel the courage we need to overcome fear & protect boundaries that uphold our values. It can also prevent us from thinking clearly. This’s why learning how to manage it in a conscious way is vital.

When children feel heard & understood they feel safer & braver experiencing & expressing all emotions.

The ability to regulate through the comfort of another is called coregulation. This on repeat wires the brain for self-regulation, emotional intelligence, empathetic responses, rational thinking & problem-solving.

By listening, truly listening, without judgment, parents learn the real reason behind the behavior, AND children feel safe enough to release those uncomfortable, daunting emotions.

Adults have a significant role in modeling nonviolent communication & behavior.

Being a safe space for children to mention & manage their emotions & replace aggressive behavior with nonviolent expression through empathetic guidance is emotional coaching.*

We can be that for our child/ren so they learn to be that for themselves & others.
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*Walking your child through anger:

LISTEN -What is my child really saying/feeling/struggling with?

IDENTIFY -Ask questions gently and sparingly to identify the real issue/s.

STAY PRESENT -Stay with your child in their storm. Don’t default to anger and start your own.

TAKE A BREATH -Mentally acknowledge and manage your inner reactions so you don’t inadvertently dump your own uncomfortable emotions on your child.

ENCOURAGE COMMUNICATION -Keep your expression open and your voice soft.

NOTICE NONVERBAL CUES -Look for shaking hands, trembling chin, anything that shows the anger is fading as the underlying emotions move to the surface.

When the underlying struggle surfaces, stay with your child through the scary emotions, problem solve with them when they’re ready, then guide them back to peace. Later, when emotions are settled, you can offer better ways of expressing themselves in the future.💞
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12 Life Lessons I Teach My Children:

1. It’s not all about you.
2. Sometimes it is about you. Don’t forget to take care of your own needs.
3. Say “I’m sorry” when you’re wrong and make it right if you can.
4. Leave everyone and everything better than you found them.
5. Ask questions instead of jumping to conclusions.
6. Listen more than you talk.
7. If you can’t respond kindly, don’t respond.
8. Stand up for yourself, but don’t step on anyone.
9. Be a problem-solver, not a problem-joiner.
10. Don’t assume you’re right. Educate yourself and keep an open mind.
11. Don’t assume anyone else is, either. Do your own research.
12. Injustice is everyone’s problem. Don’t ignore it just because it doesn’t affect you.
-L.R.Knost

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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

We love Nancy Loewen here at Holding Hands Childcare. She was one of the most amazing Reading Corp members. She's also an author and a wonderful person. I'm so proud of her.❤

It's here! At long last! THE EVERYBODY CLUB, a collaboration with my friend Linda Hayen, illustrated by Yana Zybina. It honors Linda's late daughter, Carissa, with its message of inclusion, cooperation, and joy. Now aren't those things we all need in our lives, no matter what our age?

Please check out my website for printable activities, the story of making the book, and more!
https://www.nancyloewen.net/everybodyclub.html

This is so important. ❤

GOOD VISUAL AND EXPLANATION WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO KEEP A CHILD'S EMOTIONAL CUP FULL

How parents might recognize signs that a child might be experiencing emotional difficulties and how to help.