07/07/2026
If you’ve had to cancel a summer trip, shorten an outing, or let a "perfect summer plan" completely melt away this month to support your autistic child's nervous system... please stop and read this. 🤍👇
Over the past few weeks, I’ve seen so many parents in our community share stories about shifting summer plans to support their autistic child: canceled trips, shortened outings, reimagined vacations, or simply choosing a slower rhythm than originally hoped for.
What stands out to me is not the change in plans, but the mindset behind those choices. There’s a strength in deciding, “I can be okay with this, and I can even choose happiness inside it.”
That decision—to accept what is, rather than resist what isn’t—is one of the most powerful gifts we can offer our children and ourselves.
🌦 A Camping Trip, a Thunderstorm, and a Mindset
Last week, my family (Kat here!) went camping. We had packed for sunshine, swimming, and long warm evenings. Instead, Minnesota gave us thunderstorms—big ones, rolling in with the kind of dramatic flair only July heat can produce. ⛈️
We could have let the storms define the trip. We could have spent the whole time wishing the weather were different, wishing our plans had worked out exactly as imagined. But instead, we made a different choice:
We prepared.
We adjusted.
We stayed flexible.
And we chose happiness anyway.
We played games in the tent while the rain hammered overhead. We listened to thunder rumble like distant drums. We ate snacks, told stories, and kept the umbrella nearby. It wasn’t the trip we would have planned, but it was still ours—still meaningful, still connected, still awesome.
🌱 Parenting an autistic child often feels like this.
We prepare. We imagine. We hope. And then life gives us a different kind of weather.
Maybe your child needs more downtime than expected. Maybe the sensory load of an outdoor party is too much. Maybe the trip you planned turns into a quiet day at home. Maybe the “perfect summer memory” becomes something simpler, softer, and more real.
The storms aren’t the problem. It’s our relationship to them that shapes the experience.
When we choose flexibility, when we decide ahead of time that we can be okay with whatever unfolds, we create spaciousness. We create emotional safety. We create connection. And we model for our children that life doesn’t have to go according to plan to be meaningful.
And when we go one step further and choose happiness anyway—not forced positivity, but grounded, adult openness—we show our children that joy is something we can generate, not something we have to wait for.
🌻 A reminder for this season:
Your child’s needs are not interruptions.
They are invitations: to slow down, to listen, to adapt, to discover a different kind of joy. It is possible to create a summer that looks different from the one you originally imagined, and still call it beautiful.
💬 Let’s talk in the comments: What is one summer plan or expectation you have proudly "pruned away" or adjusted recently to give your family more breathing room? Drop a comment below and let us validate you! 👇
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*photo - A pink sky in the background of a camping site with tents. In early morning the skies turn pink before a big storm.
