Teacher Lauren

You don't tell the sink to turn itself off when it's running. You help it.
Children aren't sinks, sure.
But children need co-regulation in order to learn HOW to process their feelings in healthy ways rather than just "shut down."
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A really helpful question to ask is often this: "To whom is this most important right now?" It is HEALTHY to respect our children's wishes as long as everyone knows their needs matter (and we live accordingly). Nothing about this is "permissive" - it's simply respectful and kind. ✨

Many people know about the power of practicing the pause, but a lot of us get stuck there. Pause and do WHAT? This is one idea that can be supportive and give us an opportunity to explore whether the approach we want to take would "land" as intended. To be clear, there's nothing wrong with being mad sometimes. AND, we can practice huge self-compassion along the way. 🙏

Just can't (and have no desire to) wrap my head around this one. We SUPPORT those we love, not "toughen them up" by leaving them to figure out their big feelings on their own. That doesn't even result in "toughness" - it results in mistrust and kids who feel alone. Let's show up for them. ❤️

Fair is fair...and we're ALL human. ✨
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