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The weather has changed in my corner of the world, jumping from winter to summer temps in a matter of a few short weeks. I do love to see the vibrant color changes outside. The grass is a vibrant green, the tree buds are flowering, and the flower bulbs that were planted deep under the cold, brown soil are now bursting upward showing off colors in purples, whites, and yellows. This time of year always makes me smile a little wider, my "to do" lists seem manageable, and to linger outside longer in the evening.

I discovered some new things about color and how it affects people in the article below. Definitely worth the read.

Color Psychology: Does It Affect How You Feel?
How Colors Impact Moods, Feelings, and Behaviors
By Kendra Cherry

Updated on May 28, 2020

A Word From Verywell
Color can play an important role in conveying information, creating certain moods, and even influencing the decisions people make. Color preferences also exert an influence on the objects people choose to purchase, the clothes they wear, and the way they adorn their environments.

People often select objects in colors that evoke certain moods or feelings, such as selecting a car color that seems sporty, futuristic, sleek, or trustworthy. Room colors can also be used to evoke specific moods, such as painting a bedroom a soft green to create a peaceful mood.

So what's the bottom line? Experts have found that while color can have an influence on how we feel and act, these effects are subject to personal, cultural, and situational factors. More scientific research is needed to gain a better understanding of color psychology.

Do you recognize in yourself how color impacts your life?

I am guilty of doing this when it comes to my family. You too? Let’s be more intentional by practicing
active-listening skills.

1. Let the one sharing finish what they are saying before jumping in with your reply.

2. Practice a 10 second pause before replying. This gives you time to form an intelligent response.

3. Ask questions. Make certain you understand what the speaker’s message is about. Our own experiences can influence how we interpret what we hear.

When someone feels “heard” and “understood” that is a wonderful gift to give them. 💛

This little action step will have a BIG impact on your life.

Hello Again!

It has been some time since I last posted. My mind was literally immersed into learning phonics rules, word division, theory and practicum with the Orton-Gillingham approach. I was challenged in ways I had not anticipated. This is my last week of the 12-week course and my mental energy is celebrating!

A friend and I had coffee and conversation recently. We both agreed the time frame of late summer 2021 until now has had been the most difficult for us since COVID became a household name. Maybe we are tired of the unknown, the politics surrounding it nationally and locally, or wondering what the new normal will be? We just know we are feeling it.

You can probably relate to changes, negative and positive, in your life since March 2020.

This diagram shows the range of emotion me and my family have experienced, many times in one day!

A reminder we are not alone. If you feel like you are, please send me a message to connect. It will be kept confidential.

A small percentage of people complete or reach a goal exactly how they planned. This is a personality trait. It doesn’t make them better than others.

Reach your goals or not in your own way. No judgement.

Goals are personal.

It has been a joy to share with you all this year! This community has become a warm, more personal space for me to connect with you.

My hope is for more connection to occur with you in 2022. 🥰

I am borrowing this as the message is so important!

Many people I know have had a loved one die this year. The holidays can be the most difficult time of year for them.

Send a note, a card, pick up the phone, or meet in person to let them know you are thinking about them.
Say something you remember about their loved one-positive words please.

As a person who has had a child, both parents, and a nephew who have died in the last 19 years, it doesn’t make me more sad when they are mentioned.

It makes it “normal” (whatever that is)
to talk about them. They did have lives before they passed and to stop talking about them is like they are now less important.

Of course if the person asks you not to mention them, please respect that too.

Let me add it doesn’t have to be a death. It may be a job loss, poor health, mental health, or finance problems.

Remember that saying nothing may make you feel better; we need to put aside our own feelings and think how kind it is to give to others. 🎁

Which kind words (have you spoken to or received from) would you add to this?

This hit home!

I am a 2nd generation female who has learned to be the “helper” but thinks it is weird to ask for help in return.

When someone offers to help me, like a friend or close acquaintance, my knee jerk response is “ No thank you. I got it.”

Over the years I have improved by being vulnerable with professionals and asking for help for me or my family.

Maybe it is because if I pay for it and I don’t think I am “bothering them” with my problems.

My kids, though, are being encouraged by me to reach out to friends and family for help. I see the benefit of having the skill to be comfortable with reaching out and not always inward.

At 52 years old I am still learning and am willing to change.
Like the saying, “ old dogs can learn new tricks. 😊

This is timely information as Minnesota is one of the States who still practices Daylight Savings Time. The time change always affects my sleep patterns for two weeks afterwards. Then I begin experiencing the "winter blues" shortly after that. Do you experience this as well? Dr. Sawchuk's article helps explain more about it and how to treat the symptoms. My hope is to get the information out there to help you or provide a resource for you to share with another who suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Mayo Clinic Minute: Lift your mood with light therapy Added stress of the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, coupled with the cold, dark days of winter, can do a number on [...]

We all have been affected in a personal way by the world changes since 2020.

Some of the changes began as negative with a glimmer of positivity and others have become more negative.

Ultimately it is up to ourselves to adjust our views and that can be helped with talking to a person you trust. It might be a person with like minded faith, friends or family, a counselor, or therapist.

Each person in my immediate family have chose what works best for them.

Myself, I have been quiet on posting here in the last month. As more of the world opened up, I have discovered I am feeling overwhelmed with how fast paced my life feels. There didn’t appear to be a transition for my everyday life going from rather quiet to opening up with resumed activity and noise.

What are your experiences?

I know sharing them can be helpful to others, especially now going forward into the holiday season.