06/18/2026
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So much can be said on the vast, deep idea of covenant. For now, consider: why did God choose to design marriage as a covenantal relationship and not otherwise? And what does this covenantal design tell us about how we should value our marriage and view one another?
To answer those questions, we must understand that covenant is also God's chosen framework for his own relationship with his people.
1) God loves covenantally.
Our God is a God of promises as much as he's a God of keeping his promises. It's truly profound! God could have remained far away, aloof, or even authoritarian. Instead, he *enters into a covenantal relationship with his chosen people*. What grace.
2) God designed marriage as a covenant.
Covenants in the Bible are uniquely binding. They're unlike contracts, which rely on mutual benefit, advantage, and exchange to be upheld. They're unlike friendships in that they aren't dependent on circumstance or coincidence. We can have friends for a time, and friendships can fade in healthy ways or as a result of conflict. Covenants are an active commitment to pursue the other, even when distance and offence would drive you apart.
3) Covenants allow flourishing.
In the Bible, relationships outside of covenantal commitment almost never flourish. (I'd say never but I haven't studied that in-depth!) People in obedient covenant with God flourish and experience direct relationship with and blessing from him. The same is true for how God allows families, churches, and nation-state relations to flourish.
If you are a follower of Christ, your most important relational category will always be the category of covenant. It's how you experience the grace of God in Christ, it's how you love those in your life, and in a special way, it is the framework that fuels your love for your spouse in marriage.
Stay fierce,
Ryan (and Selena)