Karin Calde - Wildwood Coaching and Consulting

Working with Amy was such a joy!
Are you ready to feel confident and fulfilled in your relationships? Send me a DM!

🍄 I’ve been having lots of conversations with people about psilocybin now that I’m a licensed facilitator. Most of them have been women in midlife who are ready to look at what happened to them when they were children.

🤔 They want to know how that event might be shaping their experiences today, holding them back, making it hard to be in a satisfying relationship, leaving them feeling disconnected from themselves, or feeling disconnected from something beyond themselves.

💃 It’s not that there’s anything wrong with these women. We’ve all had events that have shaped us in one way or another. Understanding those events, their impact, and what we might do about them can be transformative.

💪🏻 I admire their courage and determination to take a bold step in creating a life for themselves that they really want.

Reach out to me if you’d like to learn more!

🥸Years ago I worked at Stanford as a research assistant for Dr. David Spiegel, researching the role of social support in rates of survival in women with metastatic breast cancer. That work and the lessons I learned stuck with me. I even got to meet Bessel van der Kolk at a lab meeting.

You don’t have to have cancer or a serious illness to benefit from your relationships. The amount of stress in the world today is hard enough for anyone, and good research tells us that not only will we live longer if we have healthy relationships, but also we’ll enjoy our lives much more. 💞

Don’t put your relationships on hold. They will help you in more ways than you can imagine.

Reach out if you need support or have any questions.

Setting boundaries is one of the most powerful forms of self-care that simultaneously benefits your relationships

When you realize you want:
🔥a happy, loving relationship
🔥to be seen and heard and appreciated
🔥peace in your relationship
🔥to live the life you know you’re meant for…

…you want it NOW. That realization is a wake-up call that you’ve been settling for a long time.

It’s uncomfortable and even painful to be in this wanting place. It makes a lot of sense that you’d want immediate change.

While there are some things that can give you immediate relief, real change happens in small increments.

Remember, it took a long time for you to get to where you are now. It’s going to take some time to make meaningful, lasting change. Self-compassion and self-care is vital during this process, but you can do it. Keep at it…I have faith in you. With work and support, things will get better! 💕

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Is it getting warm in here? Or am I just getting a hot flash?
Cue Careless Whisper, please!

It is September, after all...and when you put the word "Wexy" (except, swap the W for an S) and put it in front of the word "September," then you know what my podcast is focused on this month!

For this first episode, I give you a primer on desire, which is an area of conflict for many intimate relationships. After listening, you'll have a better understanding of how desire works and why your partner's experience is probably different from yours. This is an important step for your relationship if you want to reduce conflict and increase closeness with your partner.

Next week, I talk with Hannah Spanke (yes, her real name). We talk about the broader topic of physical intimacy and how you can open up to it so you can enjoy its many benefits. I especially love the end of this episode, when we talk about the possibilities for those of us experiencing menopause.

I hope you'll listen and share!

I have a vision as a relationship coach – and it’s a big one 👀

🔥 I want to create a world where everyone feels seen, heard, and loved for who they really are. No one is afraid to be themselves, ask for what they want, and explore what’s important to them. They’re compassionate toward others, love themselves, AND hold themselves accountable.

💞 They trust that when they’re open-hearted with others, they’ll be met with acceptance and validation. They approach themselves and the world with curiosity, confidence, patience, and compassion. Because their relationships are healthy, so are they – mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. They ARE love ❤️

🏋️‍♂️ How am I going to do this? While I believe everyone would like to see a more connected, trauma-free world, most women are already on the path. They get it. This is why I work with women over the age of 40.

💃 Women of this age have some life experience, know what it feels like to have their hearts broken, and want more for themselves. They understand that we get one chance at this life. They want to make the most of it. These women just need some guidance to get unstuck and make their life what they want it to be.

I work with women who:
✨Are on the fence about whether or not they want to remain in their current relationship
✨ Are on the verge of leaving their partner
✨ Might be committed to staying, but don’t know how to make things better
✨ Are over 40, have been in a committed relationship in the past, and are dating; they want to “get it right” this time around

These women also:
✅ Want something more for themselves and their relationships
✅ Understand that growth and healing starts with them
✅ Are ready to do the work and invest in themselves

I’m not a match for those who:
❌ Believe that they can only be happy if their partner changes
❌ Want a quick fix
❌ Aren't ready to change their lives

As s coach, I'm also not a good match for those who have significant, unhealed trauma or other significant mental health issues, or who are currently in an abusive relationship.

What do you think of this vision? Do you want to live in a world with more love? If so, follow me and send me a DM!

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