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You are being reorganized from the inside. I help people remember they have an inner life wiser than their thoughts.

10/09/2026

You decided without them.

Not out loud and not on any particular day. But you stopped waiting, and you stopped telling them things, and somewhere in there you started answering how many with a number that doesn't include them.

They never went anywhere. They're at the table. Some days they surface, and they're funny again, and they ask about your week and mean it. You've seen this before. So you stay where you are. You hold something back on purpose and you'd call it being smart.

They can tell. They don't say so. Neither do you.

Pauline Boss called this boundary ambiguity. Who's in and who's out, when the person won't stay on one side of it.

The mind is trained to sort. Here or gone. It picks. In private. Fast.

The work is to stop picking.

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10/05/2026

The hard part isn't the hanging. It's what people do to you while you hang.

They want a date. They want to know what you're doing about it. They keep asking whether there's news, and then at some point they stop asking, which is worse.

The card doesn't ask you to get down. It asks for something else. Give up the answer. Give up the version of this that ends. Give up the idea that if you searched harder, called more people, read one more thing, it would resolve.

That's a real loss and it's the only one here you get to choose.

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10/01/2026

There's a name for it. Ambiguous loss. Pauline Boss named it in the seventies, working with the families of men who never came home from Vietnam.

Loss with no body. No date. Nobody to tell.

Sometimes they're gone and still here. Dementia. Addiction. The illness that took who they were and left the rest of them at the table. Sometimes they're here and gone. The estrangement. The divorce. The one who stopped calling and never said why.

Either way the grief has nowhere to go. There's no funeral for somebody who is still alive. So you carry it by yourself, and after a while you start to think something is wrong with you for carrying it at all.

It's grief. It just never got a day.

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09/27/2026

Eight cups, upright, nothing spilled. This is not the card of the thing gone wrong. He arranged them. They held what he wanted them to hold and they still do.
Grief that does not lessen, and the pull, and no argument between them that ends. Most people wait for one to win. He is moving with both of them at full strength.
He has no destination in the frame. There is no light on the ridge. Whatever is out there, the card declines to show it. If it showed you something better, the leaving would be easy and the man would be following orders.

Nothing drove him out.

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09/23/2026

Nothing broke. The people involved went on with their week and would tell you, accurately, that nothing changed.
My phone reminded me on Monday. It will go on reminding me until I turn it off, and turning it off is a separate thing I have to do.
No one will confirm it.

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09/19/2026

Some things end on their own. The marriage that had already gone. The job that ran out. The friendship that stopped without either of us noticing.
You were present for them.
The other kind doesn't arrive. It waits. It will go on exactly as long as one person keeps putting it back, it will never once ask anyone to stop, and there is no year in which it ends by itself.
Only one of those is a decision.

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09/15/2026

Most of this work is built for the thing that already went wrong. You bring the wreckage, you set it down, everyone agrees it had to go. Nobody has to be the one who ended it.

This is the other kind.

Don't bring me the thing that failed you. Bring the one that didn't. The thing you grew on purpose and tended all year and would keep if the season were longer. It isn't. After the 22nd the dark takes the majority and holds it until December.

Sorting the Harvest. Sunday, September 20, 4:30.

We open the directions and sit with ceremonial cacao. Then a shamanic journey to the land at the end of the day, where the animals are putting things away for the winter. You'll hold what you grew in your own two hands. One hand keeps. One hand sets down.

Whoever meets you there is whoever meets you. I don't choose that part.

No experience needed. My voice and the drum do the carrying. Wear what you can lie down in.

707 Arnold Avenue, Suite H. Eight seats. Link in bio.

09/11/2026

First Thursday. Same restaurant. Six-thirty, booked a month out.
It has run for eleven years. Everyone comes. Nobody has ever missed it for a reason that wasn't real.
Go into the account and look at who holds the reservation. It's one name. The table exists because on the first Monday of every month somebody opens a laptop and puts it there again.
Stop opening the laptop and it stops. Not that month. It would take three or four before anyone said anything, and what they would say is that we should really get that going again.

Nobody would be wrong.

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09/07/2026

It ran its course.
I've said it. The season turned, the thing got tired, it stopped being what it was.
The sentence has no hands in it.

That's the work it does. It reports an ending the way you'd report weather, and it can be said about almost anything, and it can be held in reserve for years before it's needed. On the day it gets used it will already be true. Something will have gone a little tired by then. Something always does.
It only fails on a thing that's still producing.

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