10/18/2026
This is the most common question I get: my 4 year old cries every time I ask them to write, how can I get them to write?
I ask that you please listen to their cry for help and to stop forcing them to write. They aren’t being defiant. They’re telling you that they are developmentally not ready for this. The worst thing you can do is start too soon and possibly kill the love of writing for creative kids.
Instead, look at writing as a skill that requires prerequisite skills. Some of these include fine motor skills, storytelling, imagination, character development, and so much more! Focus on each of these prerequisites without the act of holding a pencil and you will be surprised how eager a child will want to write when they are ready.
In your opinion, should 4 year olds be expected to write? Parents and teachers of older kids, please chime in. Did you notice any change in your child’s interest in writing once they got older?
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With love, Katharine ✏️