Angela Veesenmeyer, MD Certified Life Coach

There was a time when busyness, hustle, and grind served you well. It’s ok to admit that.

You can express gratitude for the past version of yourself who developed those coping mechanisms to keep you safe.

And you can decide to use your time and energy in a different way now. Because YOU are different.

You are at your best when you can be who you truly are in the world. Your values are the compass that point you towards the life you’re meant for. If you’re afraid to live those values out loud because you fear being seen as selfish, you have two options.

You can try to convince yourself that the value isn’t your truth. You can choose a new value that feels more “acceptable”.

Or you can decide to change the definition of selfish and its connotation. You can create a meaning of the term selfish that serves you and your values.

Either way the choice is yours.

My client was offered a huge promotion at work. She said she didn’t feel overwhelming joy OR debilitating anxiety as she might have in the past.
She felt…peace, grounded, secure.

You don’t need to feel joy in your career in order to have a satisfying and successful one.

It’s possible to unhook yourself from your failures AND your accomplishments.

What’s left is an unwavering sense of self worth and self trust regardless of what’s happening around you.

I can help you find this for yourself.
If you’re a physician considering leaving medicine because it seems impossible to have the life and career you want if you stay, reach out to me.
I can help you make the decision that best serves you.

It’s easy to wallow in overwhelm.
It’s easy to talk yourself out of what you want.
It’s easy to look at what others are doing and tell yourself you should be doing that too.
It’s easy to think that what you really want is unrealistic so why bother.
It’s easy to label yourself a whiner and a malcontent and feel shame.
It’s easy to envy the person who’s doing what you want to do.
It’s easy to judge yourself for not feeling gratitude and making the best of where you are.
It’s easy to tell yourself the financially responsible thing to do is put your head down and get to work.

But it feels so hard.

I’ve done and felt all these things. And then I created the career that I wanted anyway.

I want to partner with you as your coach in this process. The process where you acknowledge what you want in your career and decide to create it.

DM me the word “create” and we’ll set up a call to talk about where you’re at and where you want to go. Don’t know where you want to go? We’ll talk about that too.

There you go again on your own.

When you push against institutional norms.
When you ask for what you want unapologetically.
When you enforce boundaries that protect your precious time even when it’s incredibly inconvenient.

Don’t expect a supportive crowd cheering your bravery.

The truth is that moving against the tide of “the way it’s always been” is lonely AF.

So spend time strengthening your own resolve before you walk towards building the life you suspect was yours all along.

Ready to get started? I’d love to walk with you. DM me and we’ll talk about your personal rebellion.

You did all the things.
You decided what you wanted. You owned that desire.
You confidently asked for it without questioning whether you deserved it or feeling obligatory gratitude.
You laid out facts and left out drama.

And you didn’t get what you asked for.

Before you convince yourself that you did it wrong or that you’re not worthy or that no one values you, consider this👉🏼 The result you wanted has happened in the future and you haven’t gotten to that point in the story yet.
Your created it. It’s there waiting for you to catch up.

Don’t quit before you get there. Keep going.

Renting your dreams looks like this:
👉🏼 waiting for permission to take action
👉🏼 talking about what you want and listing reasons you can’t have it
👉🏼 telling yourself you aren’t being realistic or responsible
👉🏼 researching strategy in the hopes of creating a fail-proof path
👉🏼 imagining how your dream might negatively impact someone else and assuming this means you’re wrong

Owning your dreams looks like this:
👉🏼 taking incremental steps towards your goal even if progress seems insignificant
👉🏼 spending as much time doing as you spend planning
👉🏼 seeing failure as a sign that you’re building self trust
👉🏼 giving yourself permission to see beyond what you’ve created in the past to map out exactly what you want for your future
👉🏼 knowing that others’ discomfort is a reflection of their dreams for you, not the validity of your dreams for you

In what ways are you renting your dreams rather than owning them?
Comment below 👇🏼

The answer to being unhappy in medicine isn’t to give up on a field you’ve worked for decades to master.

You’ve given yourself two crappy choices. It’s no wonder you feel trapped.

Build space for rest, little by little, day by day. It’s possible.

In those spaces of rest, your imagination will show you options you’ve never considered.

You can build a career that fits into your life. You are worth it.

I believed these lies for SO long! Now you don't have to....

3 Lies About Boundaries That Are Keeping You Stuck

Hi 👋🏼 I’m Angela. I coach tired physicians.

I used to think being chronically tired and busy was synonymous with being a doctor.

I used to think if I wanted to slow down, to rest, to be fully engaged in my life, I would have to leave medicine.

I figured out how to do the hard things that create time to rest. Things like
💤 holding boundaries
💤 letting go of perfectionism
💤 ditching imposter syndrome
💤 stopping people pleasing

I figured out how to create a career in medicine that works for my life.

I can show you how. Give yourself the chance to create the career you want before you decide to leave medicine.

Click the link in my bio to schedule a career creation call with me.

I have braces and I hate them. I don’t want to try to like them or work on changing my attitude.

I asked my orthodontist if we could be more aggressive in moving my teeth even if it hurt more. I’d gladly take more discomfort if it meant I could be done faster.

He said that if we’re too aggressive, if we push too hard, my body would actually fight against it and SLOW my progress.

How many times have you pushed and hustled your way into exhaustion? Or worse?

Progress takes time. Success takes time. Change takes time. Growth takes time.

Commit to be here in this moment. There is so much to learn in the space between where we are and where we want to be.

It’s the only way forward.

I’ve been in bed since 8pm.
I’m not sick. I’m not sad.

I’m just enjoying some rest.

I feel zero guilt. No urge to be productive. No need to feel like I’m contributing value by doing. No need to justify myself.

We don’t rest enough. We equate value with production. We are told not to admit wanting to do less.
We are discouraged from expressing a desire to slow down.

I’m pushing back on this for myself and for all physicians.
Feel free to join me.