08/27/2026
When a teenager brings their doubts into the room, our instinct might be to make those doubts go away.
We want to help. We want to reassure. We want to give them an answer that makes faith feel steady again. But what if, before we reach for an answer, we pull up a chair?
A few reminders for those moments:
𝐃𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.
Job never received a neat explanation for his suffering. He encountered God in the middle of his questions. Sometimes the invitation is to stay present while a young person wrestles.
𝐖𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐜𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐲.
Job’s friends had plenty to say about God. But in their rush to explain what was happening, they struggled to sit with Job in his pain.
𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩.
“I don’t know, but I’m willing to wrestle with this with you” doesn’t make you a bad youth leader. It communicates something powerful: Your questions are welcome here. And so are you.
Pulling up a chair doesn’t mean answers don’t matter. It means a teenager doesn’t have to have everything figured out before they have a place beside us.