Jenny Rain • Therapist Trainee

🧭 Your Body is Your Relational Compass.

The problem is that you likely were not taught how to listen to its wisdom.

👉🏻 Instead, you learned to override:

Your tight chest
Your swirling stomach
Your nervous system whispers
Your unease that quietly said, “this isn’t safe.”

You learned to PERFORM for connection.
To SHRINK for safety.
To ABANDON yourself to hold onto the illusion of love.

But true safety doesn’t live in your partner’s words.
Or in your brain’s rationalizations.
It lives in your BODY’S TRUTH.

🕊 When your nervous system is regulated…
🕊 When your voice is reclaimed…
🕊 When safety is sacred…

Your body starts speaking again…

“Yes.”
“No.”
“Wait.”
“Not yet.”
“More.”
“Enough.”

✨ Sacred healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning to trust the embodied compass you’ve had all along.

Your body knows.

It always has.

💗 If this resonates, save this post for those moments when your head wants to override your body again. 🌿

🧭 I help my clients return to their body as their compass, so they stop abandoning themselves in relationships & start honoring what’s true.

You don’t have to outsource your truth anymore.
The map is already within you.
My role is to help you learn how to read it again.

Welcome to the relationship style I call “Swoop & P**p.” 💩

This week, DJT & the Muskrat (aka Elon) took their digital tantrum public—and the world watched two grown men perform what I lovingly refer to as:

➡️ S**t & Split
➡️ Dump & Dash
➡️ Swoop & P**p

🥴 It was passive-aggressive.
🧠 Possibly ketamine-induced.
🎭 100% emotionally irresponsible.

When someone lobs a hot emotional gr***de and bounces? That’s not leadership. That’s a toddler in a grownup suit.

This is not how conflict gets repaired.
This is not how trust is built.
This is exactly what I help my clients avoid.

🛑 So what do you do when you’re on the receiving end of a Dump & Dash?

✨ Don’t take the bait. If it’s intense, it’s theirs.
✨ Name the dynamic. “That was a digital tantrum.” Period.
✨ Unenroll. Their chaos is not your curriculum.

👉🏽 Want to stop the emotional landmines in your relationship?

Check out my work below 👇🏻
Let’s build relational repair that doesn’t require a hazmat suit.

Entanglement is not intimacy.
It’s fusion. Enmeshment. Over-identification.

It’s love distorted through the lens of legacy wounds, unspoken family loyalties, & unconscious agreements that say:

🖤“I’ll stay small if you’ll stay safe.”

But love—real, differentiated love—requires space.

🤍The space to breathe.
🤍To have your own nervous system.
🤍To stand on your own ground and say:

“THIS is mine, and THAT is yours.”

In my work—whether it’s through Constellation Healing or relationship coaching—this is the heart of the process:

🔹 Untangling from what isn’t yours.
🔹 Reclaiming the voice that was silenced.
🔹 Creating space between you and what shaped you, so you can finally choose how to love… rather than just repeat how love was modeled.

If your relationships feel like a LOOP instead of a SANCTUARY, you might be entangled—not connected.

The good news?
Healing is possible.
And love—clean, clear, sacred love—awaits you on the other side of the tangle.

🧭 Let’s find your VOICE.
Let’s reclaim your POWER.
Let’s UNTANGLE, so you can love & be loved in return.

Grief is not laundry 🧺

You can’t just gather up all of its parts, throw it in a basket, run it through a cycle, and expect it to be cleaned out.

🌀It is often an unending, looping process, without a name that torrents through your heart in sacred spirals that reclaim your agency, voice, and purpose.

Grief is a redirector.

It seeps into your being. It screams for attention at the most inconvenient times.

Like the negative space in a photograph, grief is a representation of what is no longer, yet it demands visibility, pulls your focus, and does not let go until you acknowledge that it is the completion of a picture, it’s genesis as well as its evolution, its penultimate goal…

🫟Grief is messy. It can’t be categorized into neat little boxes.

🔥Grief is laborious. Exhausting. All consuming.

🍎Grief is an archetype central to our fully-lived and embodied existence. If you are alive, you will experience grief.

Grief is non-linear existence in two planes of being… the normal, everyday self on one plane, and the grieving self on the other. Both always moving forward, at times intersecting, but neither having the language for the other.

Grief is central to having healthy relationships… with partners, family, children, friends, and colleagues.

If you have ever loved, you have grieved.

And if you’ve grieved in isolation, you know how hard it is to carry that weight alone.

🦋 This is part of the sacred work I do—supporting clients as they navigate grief’s impact on their relationships, identity, and sense of belonging. We don’t rush it. We don’t fold it neatly. We honor it.

Because healing doesn’t mean “getting over” grief. It means finding a way to carry it with more grace, more meaning, and more capacity for connection.

🌀 If you’re moving through something tender, relational, or undefined, I invite you into this work with me.

Shrinking was NEVER your destiny.

You don’t heal by accident.

You heal because somewhere deep inside, a part of you refuses to live life half-alive.

Every boundary you set,
every need you name,
every part of yourself you reclaim…

🦋 ALL ARE ACTS OF SACRED RELATIONAL REBELLION 🦋

Not loud, not messy, not even always visible.
But real.
Sacred.
Undeniable.

Because you were never meant to live shrunk down to what someone else could handle.

You were never meant to love halfway, dream halfway, or SURVIVE INSIDE CAGES BUILT BY FEAR.

Healing isn’t a RETURN to who you used to be.

It’s a REVOLUTION into who you were always becoming.

✨ Your healing cracks ceilings.
✨ Your healing undoes generations of silence.
✨ Your healing rebuilds the world from the inside out.

It is messy. It is holy. It is necessary.
And it is yours.

🦋 This is the work I do…standing with you in the sacred middle, where survival ends & becoming begins.

If you’re ready to turn your healing into your rebellion, let’s talk.

Healing your mind, body, & emotions is — at times — an overwhelming process.

🌸 I know this because I have walked these healing steps… since 2001.

🌸 At times they have been painful, others joyful, & there have been times I did not think I would make it.

When I began my healing journey I wish someone had reminded me of just a few of these truths.

Wherever you find yourself today… may my words bring your soul solace & comfort

🌸 Know that if you have chosen the healing path, it may not be easy right now, it may feel excruciating… but if you keep at it, it WILL be good eventually.

Sending love & care to you & all your parts today 🧩

Xoxo 💗🦋🤍

Tiptoe. Smile. Don’t cause a scene. Clutch the fan of emotional restraint…

I see you over there, walking on eggshells in your relationship like you’re a prima ballerina 🩰

But REAL TALK…

How long are you gonna tiptoe around…

🩰Your needs
🩰Your peace
🩰Your boundaries
🩰Your FULL-ON HUMANITY

…like YOU ARE the problem for just existing?

Because if you’ve become the unpaid emotional air-traffic controller for someone else’s ego, it might be time to ask:

How fragile is your partner’s ego that they can’t handle…

👏🏻Your voice
👏🏻Your vibe
👏🏻Your “too-muchness” (which is actually your power)
👏🏻Your completely valid human feelings?

Listen, you weren’t made to be the prima ballerina of emotional suppression.

Walking on eggshells is not a relationship skill. It’s a trauma response dressed in pointe shoes 🩰

Let’s talk about what’s really behind the eggshells.

I’ve got one individual spot and one couples spot left, & this is the kind of thing we untangle together.

Bring your fan if you must, but you can leave the eggshells behind.

Walking on eggshells is not a relationship skill. It’s a trauma response dressed in pointe shoes 🩰