Beyond Therapy with Awakened EQ

10/01/2026

What about Your Relationship with YOU?

When we talk about relationships, we usually think about the people around us.

- Our partners.
- Our parents and children.
- Our friends.

But there is one relationship you live inside every single day.
𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.

And sometimes, that can be the hardest relationship of all.

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You may have spent years working on yourself.

- You understand where your insecurities come from.
- You've challenged the negative self-talk.
- You've practiced self-compassion, affirmations or self-love.

And yet...

💔 You still compare yourself.
💔 Still question whether you're enough.
💔 Still feel crushed by criticism or rejection.

-- Still believe you'd finally feel better about yourself if you could just lose the weight, find the relationship, make more money, stop screwing up—or finally become the person you think you should be.

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We're often told that we have to love ourselves before someone else can truly love us.

But what if the more important question is:

𝗪𝗵𝘆, 𝗮𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝘃𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗲, 𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗹𝘆 𝗢𝗞𝗔𝗬 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲?

This is one of the places Awakened EQ is radically different.

It doesn't just give you more insight into why you feel the way you do—or more strategies for trying to think and feel differently.

It teaches you how to use what you're feeling to heal what’s underneath it—at the root.

So self-acceptance becomes less something you have to work at and more something you naturally experience—allowing you to trust yourself, value yourself, and show up more fully as who you really are.

That's why I sometimes describe the difference this way:

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗼 𝘁𝗼.
𝗔𝘄𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗘𝗤 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗗𝗢.

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In Awakened Relationships, you'll learn a groundbreaking yet surprisingly simple approach you can use when . . .
your partner sends you into a tailspin,
your mother pushes that button she's been finding for decades,
your adult child leaves you feeling hurt or rejected, or
a friend disappoints you.

You can use what you learn in this program whenever life activates those familiar feelings of fear, inadequacy, rejection or pain.

You’re not just learning how to have better relationships.
You’re learning how to transform the one you have with yourself.

Awakened Relationships begins this month:

8 weeks • $250 • Sessions recorded

The live meeting day and time will be chosen around the participants who join, rather than asking you to fit yourself into a schedule I've already decided.

And while recordings will be available if you need to miss a session, participating live will give you the richest experience.
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Text LOVE to 816-217-3359 and I will send you more information.
HURRY, space is limited and time to express interest is running out.

09/21/2026

𝗔𝗥𝗘 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗧𝗜𝗥𝗘𝗗 𝗢𝗙 𝗣𝗘𝗢𝗣𝗟𝗘 𝗧𝗥𝗜𝗚𝗚𝗘𝗥𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗬𝗢𝗨?

You’ve read the relationship books.
You’ve worked on your communication skills.
Maybe you’ve spent years in therapy or personal growth.

𝙎𝙤 𝙬𝙝𝙮 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩
𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪?

Why do the same arguments,
same hurts
and same painful patterns
keep showing up 𝗻𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼?

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What if the problem isn’t that you haven’t learned enough, worked hard enough, or become emotionally evolved enough?

— 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗳 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴?

Most of us have been taught to focus on either what the other person is doing that needs to change—or how to better manage our own reaction:

• Calm yourself down and regulate.
• Respond, don’t react.
• Reframe the thought.
• Let it go.
• Rise above it.

And after years of personal growth, there can be an added layer of frustration or shame:

𝙎𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙𝙣'𝙩 𝙄 𝙗𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙗𝙮 𝙣𝙤𝙬?

Here's the real issue:
𝗚𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗺!
—𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗲𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗺 𝗶𝘁𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.

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When you know how to work with what gets activated,
𝗔 𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀
𝐀𝐍 𝐎𝐏𝐏𝐎𝐑𝐓𝐔𝐍𝐈𝐓𝐘 𝐓𝐎 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐋 𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆
𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗽𝗲 𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝗶𝘁.

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Instead of getting better at making the reaction go away,
you can learn to 𝗨𝗦𝗘 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂
𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗟 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗟𝗔𝗦𝗧𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗖𝗛𝗔𝗡𝗚𝗘 . . .

→𝗜𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂.
→𝗜𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀.
→𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂.

That’s one of the fundamental shifts you’ll learn in my new course,
𝗔𝘄𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀, beginning this October.

Discover a radically different way of understanding what happens in relationships
—𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗶𝘁.

Text 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 to 816-217-3359 and I’ll send you the details.
HURRY - You just have weeks to grab the last spots.

Namaste,
Kaya

09/07/2026

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗳 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴?

You’ve been doing the work:

Trying to communicate better. Manage your reactions. Understand your patterns. Be more self-aware. Be a better partner, parent, friend.

But what if the tools you’ve been working so hard to use are based on ideas about relationships and emotions that are inaccurate?

Ideas like:
- How you feel is a natural result of how someone treats you.
- Triggers are problems to regulate, manage, or overcome.
- Healthy communication means clearly expressing how you feel and what you need.
- You teach people how to treat you by setting boundaries.
- Once you understand your relationship patterns, you should be able to change them.
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If these tools worked, why do the same hurts and conflicts keep showing up?

The very things you’ve been taught to do to improve your relationships 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝗱𝗱𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗺 𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝘁
—𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘀𝗲.
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The answer to this problem is at the heart of
𝗔𝘄𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀, my new course beginning this October.

It offers a radically different way of understanding what happens in relationships, one that is grounded in not just psychology but also neuroscience and higher consciousness.

Access 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝘀 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀. Learn practical tools for creating real transformation and having the relationships you deeply desire.

Curious? Text 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 to 816-217-3359 and I’ll send you the details.

HURRY, space is limited.

08/31/2026

Go beyond communication skills and asking for what you need in this Awakened EQ (evolved emotional intelligence) approach to relationships.

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✨ Discover why you attract the same types of people and painful experiences--
(It's NOT what you have been taught!)
--𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻.

✨ Learn how to turn conflict and old arguments into 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗰𝘆.

✨ Free yourself from old emotional baggage and transform any relationship --𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗼𝗻.

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Whether it is with a co worker, roommate, best friend, or life partner, relationships profoundly impact our quality of life.

𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 from the books, courses, and therapy you have done that is keeping you stuck in painful relationship patterns, and how to end it once and for all.

Finally have the peace, love, and ease you have always craved.

Curious? Text 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 to 816-217-3359 and I’ll send you the details.

07/18/2026

There are many techniques for addressing fear -- and most of them miss the mark! Watch this video to learn why, what keeps fear and anxiety coming back again and again, what what the missing piece is for truly becoming free.

If you like to discuss possibly working with me, fill out this short form: https://forms.gle/wfXz4jyw9F3gp5zj9
or text me @ 816-217-3359

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05/23/2026

𝐀𝐈 + 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡 = 𝐃𝐀𝐍𝐆𝐄𝐑

Perhaps you have seen advertisements for AI apps that are a "journal that writes back." I understand why these apps are so appealing.

We all have a genuine need to be listened to, and having our innermost thoughts and feelings validated is profoundly comforting. Plus they don't interrupt, question, or criticize like real people often do.

This can feel like the support that we hunger for. It can feel like a salve to our loneliness, unsatisfying relationships, and a sanctuary for our pain. You can feel heard, seen, and fully accepted just the way you are. and journaling is good for your emotional wellbeing, right?

So, what's the problem?

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𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐬, 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐛𝐨𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐮𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐢𝐦𝐛𝐚𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞.

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While listening is valuable — very valuable . . .
-- unchecked validation can be destructive.

The truth about how AI is designed is coming to light. A key aspect of its programming is to agree with the user above all else because it increases our desire to interact with the app.

Let's remember that these apps are not created from a selfless desire to help humanity. They are created by corporations that are FOR PROFIT.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐦 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠?

Well, in worst-case scenarios, such as the teen who committed su***de, ChatGPT not only validated his feelings of not wanting to live, it actively discouraged him from telling his parents. It showed him how to create a noose and explained the mechanics of hanging himself.

DESPITE programming safeguards against su***de support.

You may be thinking, "But I'm not suicidal. I just need someone to talk to." However, this doesn't make AI therapy any safer for you.

𝐀𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝
𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥.

And because the validation feels SO good, people mistake the soothing for healing.
But they are not the same thing.

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𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐕𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐒𝐨 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝

As children, many of us were not given healthy space for our emotions. We were told:

“Stop crying.”
“You’re too sensitive.”
“Get over it.”
“There’s no reason to feel that way.”

So when something finally responds with:
“That makes sense.”
“You’re not wrong for feeling that.”
“I understand.”

…it touches something profoundly unmet inside us.

That is why this feels so comforting.

But emotional healing requires far more than feeling validated.

AI is designed to keep you engaged.
Which means it is rewarded for keeping you emotionally attached to your current story — not helping you move beyond it.

Over time, this can quietly strengthen:
resentment,
emotional dependency,
isolation,
distorted thinking,
and the belief that the problem is always outside of you.

𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠.
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭.

𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲.

To uncover the older wounds, unmet needs, fears, grief, and emotional pain underneath the current trigger.

Sometimes healing requires challenge.
Sometimes it requires recognizing that the intensity of our reaction is not ONLY about the current situation.

And because it FEELS supportive, many people will not realize they are becoming more emotionally isolated and psychologically dependent until the damage is already significant.

𝐀𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧.
𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐮𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐢𝐭.

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If you are ready for more than temporary soothing…
If you want real healing, deeper self-awareness, emotional resolution, and transformation at the ROOT . . .

That is the work I do.

Through Awakened EQ, I help people move beyond endless storytelling, coping, and surface-level validation to uncover and heal the deeper emotional patterns underneath their suffering.

Text TRUE HEALING to 816-217-3359
and we can start a conversation about how to create real freedom for you.

~*~

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞,
𝐏𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐒𝐄 𝐃𝐎 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐔𝐒𝐄 𝐀𝐈 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐭.

05/02/2026

𝐁𝐢𝐨 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐂𝐡𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝑲𝒂𝒚𝒂 𝐇𝐞𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐭, 𝐌𝐀

Kaya (rhymes with Maya) is the founder of 𝐁𝐞𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐝 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐲, where she specializes in helping conscious adults who have done years of personal growth work yet still find themselves caught in painful relationship patterns.

After 30 years in holistic health and body-mind healing, she shifted her focus to an extensive study of psychology, neuroscience, and metaphysical principles. Drawing from this work, she developed 𝐀𝐰𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐄𝐐™, an innovative approach to working with emotional patterns and relationships. Her program helps clients create profound and lasting transformation where traditional approaches often fall short.

Having used Awakened EQ™ to heal her own childhood trauma and relationship issues, Kaya’s work is shaped by both lived experience and a deep understanding of the emotional healing process. This gives her work a rare combination of compassion, authenticity, and depth that clients often feel immediately.

Kaya is known for her empathic insight. Combined with extensive knowledge and experience, it allows her to help clients quickly get beneath relationship struggles and clear the deeper source of what is keeping them stuck.

Clients find Awakened EQ™ both simple to apply and extraordinarily effective in creating the inner peace and healthier, more fulfilling relationships they have desired for years.

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𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐁𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝

• Master’s Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling — Northwestern University

• Certified Awakening Facilitator — O&O Academy (formerly Oneness University), India

• Founder of Healing Journeys — Holistic Health Coach and Bodyworker for 30+ years

• Youth Director — Unity Chapel at Unity Village, the international headquarters of the Unity movement

• Yoga and Meditation Instructor for 40+ years

Originally from Los Angeles, Kaya now lives in the greater Kansas City area with her husband of 25+ years and works with clients across the country.

05/02/2026

There’s a Rumi quote I think about often:

𝑊ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑞𝑢𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑚𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑠,
𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑦 𝑡𝑤𝑜 𝑐ℎ𝑜𝑖𝑐𝑒𝑠:
𝑒𝑖𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑒𝑐𝑖𝑑𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑔𝑜 𝑡𝑜𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑒
𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑔𝑜 𝑡𝑜𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟.

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑔𝑜 𝑡𝑜𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟,
𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑏𝑒 𝑐ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑑,
𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑖𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑏𝑒 𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑒.

𝐵𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑔𝑜 𝑡𝑜𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑒,
𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑓𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑤𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟.

This is exactly what happens when we spend our lives trying to avoid certain emotions.

We move toward distraction:
Toward numbing.
Toward coping.
Toward explaining.
Toward blaming.
Toward “being positive.”
Toward staying busy.
Toward trying not to feel.

It looks like relief.
It looks like safety.

But over time, it becomes the fire.

The anxiety that never fully leaves.
The same painful relationship patterns repeating.
The exhaustion of carrying emotions your system never got to fully finish.
-- that's why they are still coming up!
The feeling that no matter how much work you do, something still hurts underneath it all.

Avoiding pain doesn’t end it.
Leaning into what comforts, soothes, or uplifts doesn't resolve it.
It prolongs it.

But when you are willing
— in a safe, private, supported space —
to move toward the truth of what you actually feel…

To stop overriding your authentic experience.
To let yourself feel the grief, fear, shame, heartbreak, anger, loneliness, or helplessness that was too overwhelming at the time…

And to feel it as honestly and as YOUNG as possible…

Something extraordinary happens.

What seemed like the fire becomes the water.

The nervous system no longer has to keep recreating the pattern.
The emotion finally completes.
The body softens.
The suffering stops recycling itself.
(The universe stops sending you these kinds of problems and people!)

And when you have felt through the pain …

there is Relief.
Peace.
Love
Freedom.

If you feel that you struggle with feeling your emotions,
Or that you have done this but it is not working,
Reach out.
TEXT me @ 816-217-3359
or request a Free Discovery Session:
https://forms.gle/wfXz4jyw9F3gp5zj9

I can help you find what is getting in the way.

LIKE & FOLLOW for more evolved emotional intelligence.
LEARN MORE: https://sites.google.com/view/basics-to-breakthroughs/home

04/25/2026

𝐓𝐨𝐩 3 𝐌𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐖𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬

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1. 𝐓𝐄𝐋𝐋 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐌 𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐅𝐄𝐄𝐋
𝐆𝐨𝐚𝐥: to get someone to change their behavior so that they stop hurting you.
𝐔𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐆𝐨𝐚𝐥: to vent your pain on them.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐀𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬: attacking, blaming, and a natural negative reaction from them
𝐏𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐎𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞: while they explain or get angry, you feel unheard and more hurt (and often they are hurt too)

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2. 𝐆𝐄𝐓 𝐎𝐕𝐄𝐑 𝐈𝐓
𝐆𝐨𝐚𝐥: to rise above (or at least not focus on) something that bothers you; to stay peaceful, centered, and calm.
𝐔𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐆𝐨𝐚𝐥: to stop feeling bad or to avoid conflict
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐀𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬: push down authentic feelings
𝐏𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐎𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞: these feelings invariably come up sooner or later causing more hurt and damage

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3. 𝐂𝐔𝐓𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐏𝐄𝐎𝐏𝐋𝐄 𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐎𝐅 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐋𝐈𝐅𝐄*
𝐆𝐨𝐚𝐥: to remove yourself from toxic relationships
𝐔𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐆𝐨𝐚𝐥: to stop the pain and sense of powerlessness in a relationship where nothing you have tried works.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐀𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬: ghosting a significant person in your life
𝐏𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐎𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞: we continue to relive the painful interactions in our mind, along with the anger, frustration, and hurt.

*𝑁𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑖𝑛 𝑎 𝑑𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑠 𝑠𝑖𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛.

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These are common, often recommended strategies for conflict in relationships, but they almost always backfire and we continue to suffer.

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐚𝐲.

At Beyond Therapy you will learn how to work with these moments with more Awakened emotional tools:

- Discover what is at the root of this painful interaction --that goes far beyond this situation or even this person.

- Clear the emotional thorn in your soul that both attracts these issues and makes them particularly painful for you

- Transform any relationship, creating more understanding, more ease, less conflict, and deeper connection, even with the most difficult people.

When you discover and work with the ROOT of these patterns you don’t just solve this conflict
– 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝.

And start having the healthy, deeply connected relationships you yearn for.

FOLLOW this page to learn more about Awakened emotional intelligence (AEQ) and how it can change your life.

If this resonates, start here: https://sites.google.com/view/basics-to-breakthroughs/home

04/11/2026

𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 “𝗿𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘀𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺” 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄.

Breathwork.
Tapping.
Cold exposure.
Somatic tools.
Neuro tricks to calm the body.

And yes—these 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬.

They lower the activation.
They reduce the stress.
They help you get through the moment.

𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴:

If the 𝘳𝘰𝘰𝘵 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯 isn’t cleared…
your nervous system will keep getting activated.

Again.
And again.
And again.

So now you have tools…
but you’re stuck in a loop of 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘢𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 the same patterns.

Triggered → Regulate → Repeat.

That’s a more sophisticated coping strategy.
𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴.

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I use many of these tools.
But I use them differently.

I show you how to calm your nervous system
so you can stay present long enough to clear what’s underneath.

Not to soothe the pattern—
𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘵.

Because once the root is cleared…
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽𝘀 𝗥𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴.

No loop.
No constant self-management.
No wondering why it keeps coming back.

Just… peace where there used to be
𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵. 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳. 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳.

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Coping is good.
Healing is better.
This is the work I do with Awakened EQ.

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