Everyay Confidance llc

This is a site that I created years ago to share The Wisdom of why choosing to learn the vocabulary and skills of love matters. I did not make up out of nothing these ideas of What - why - and how the creative process is - the steps and stages of how life works -This knowledge is as old as Adam and Eve. It is hard-wired into our instinct and self-awareness.
It is every individual's responsibility to learn the skills of calm, caring, competent compassionate use of this Power to create Heaven or Hell on Earth.
I believe this is a time of choice: of transcendence to greater clarity, joy, and wisdom or stay stuck in eternal suffering. A time of choosing what you believe - Love is the purpose and power of Life or the BIG LIE.

I feel compelled to create sacred (intentional) space for the DIY learning and teaching of Do to Be in Love skills. Under the guidance and oversight of Elders sharing stories and memories of what works and what can and does go wrong. Stories of how other people solved problems of safety, body comfort and healthy function, and relationship dynamics.

This is not an economic purpose. I am 70, I am retired from the economic rat race. Actually, I never entered it in the first place. My mission for the last 1/3 of my life is provide a protected place and trustworthy horse and human DIY learning partners who can share a process for testing ideas of how the Golden Rule works. Health - safety - autonomy - honest communication - and Love in relationship all part of a definable - measurable skill set. the same goes for War games. Step one is choose: Love or Fight until you are the last one alive? The World in flames like an Ayn Rand novel.

Line Dancing every Thursday at 7:00pm at the Oroville Grange. Come learn some new Dance Steps and have a FUN time.

I am going to begin using this post site to talk about the DIY creative process and experiential learning together. PLAY is natural learning process.

The medicine I do is self-love. The medicine the horses do is herd love. With self-love and herd love practiced mindfully and simultaneously, the co-creative process is empowered.
Free from all the fussing and fighting and shame and blame gaslighting that is meaningless, cruel, and dysfunctional.
Because TRUST is given and justified by an accountability process of authentic communication, WE are all at liberty to pursue health, autonomy, and pursuit of being in activities that are meaningful for OUR well-being.
When the boundaries of space and time are defined and dedicated to the intention of play to learn manners and vocabulary of herd relationships, magic happens. One must experience it in person for the instant feel of bonding and well-being to be believed.
The magic is the ability to tune in on Mother Nature's WiFi for free and on demand - no upload or download restrictions. The magic is the ability to generate power of creativity and have confidance you will do no harm if you use your power with the honor - of mutual purpose: mutual safety, comfort, fun, and shelter.
One of the most meaningful activities a person can engage in is give back (role model) -contribute to the health and happiness of the herd. Even if it is just a herd of two.

The FEEL of Health
One thing horses and people have in common is We are both grazers. Our digestive systems are designed to be in continuous operation. When We get spooked the process stops. This creates a FEEL of discomfort in the Gut. Discomfort distracts the Mind and attracts conscious focus.
Some people are taught to smother, ignore, numb that feeling of discomfort. Some learn how to pretend they are not afraid, stressed, vulnerable. Horses learn how to respond to the intuition of danger. They know proximity is the measurement of safety in public spaces. (Assuming no one has a gun) 6’ between individuals is room for each to have an independent personal space. Closer than that and the FEEL of pressure to pay attention increases. It is the Heart brain that decides if that proximity is TRUSTworthy, because, if it is not, the Heart and Lungs need to speed up in preparation to
DO SOMETHING
FEEL is the vocabulary of Body Language. Posture, balance, and muscle tension, awareness of proximity and trajectory and intensity are the words. Conscious determination of Purpose is how I Will power is generated. The story is true no matter which way you spin it. The proof is how you FEEL in your Gut, what your Heart and Lungs DO, and what your Mind focuses on.
A person’s mind – and a horse’s mind - craves puzzle solving, craves healthy function and loves the thrill of new experience – that ends well. Both a human and a horse are consciously aware of being in relationship. We are all aware of the feelings in our bodies in context to the situation WE are in, our proximity to each other, and the physical conditions WE are dealing with. Only People are aware of story that didn’t even happen to them. Only people are aware of story that never happened anywhere except in someone else’s imagination.
Only people project their own thoughts and motivations on the behavior of others. Humans all have a conscience where they have conversations with themselves about how to respond in relationship. What is “Good” behavior, and what is “Bad” behavior in this situation? We chew on (in our imagination) the last encounter we have, then make the same damn mistake the next go-round. Or, that situation/opportunity never shows up again. Horses have conversations with themselves about if they are comfortable, confidant, and in connection/communication with the Herd; or spooked and isolated from the Herd.
Only a human can imagine that they have the “right” to be the controller of other peoples’ or animals’ decision-making process. In the Catholic Faith that is called a Mortal Sin. The One sin that causes you to skip purgatory and go straight to Eternal Damnation.
Autonomy of conscience – based on the inalienable knowledge of right and wrong – the relationship between a soul and source is sacred. Every person has the right and responsibility to make decisions about why and how they respond in relationship. A person’s body is theirs, period.
The Science of how to control your own body and the technology for controlling others have both grown exponentially. That is why conscious Unity of Purpose and collective (herd) communication is so important to our survival right here and now.
Jesus said: “Heal yourself.” He did not say you are on your own. He said believe in what I have demonstrated for you. Believe that love is the purpose and process that creates health. Love is not about control, obedience, and monopoly of power. Love is quite the opposite of all that disfunction and pretend and appease the bully behavior.

I hold sacred space for healing through play with the horses.

I haven't been here for awhile. I am trying to figure out who my audience is. The answer is the people who choose to be in a conscious, DIY healing process.
My process began as I started my transition from adulthood to Elder. This is the role I have chosen for myself in my Elder years.
BEAR WITNESS
Rhackett 11/3/2021

The role of Elders is to Bear Witness
Job description:
Role Model
Holder of Sacred Space
Healer

Teach by example how to BE trustworthy;
How to belong – be trusted- in an equal-us community
Giving:
mental weight/spiritual awareness/physical credibility
to the purpose of Taking: Responsibility of Stewardship
Take the time it takes to
Take Care of the conditions WE are living in
Right Here, Right Now – in existential crisis
Generate the power, focus it with purpose:
The Conservation and Circulation of LOVE power.
Learn how by doing your share of the daily chores,
Under the guidance of an Elder.

Teach social manners: how to respect each other’s dignity,
and value your own.
Learn why by experiencing hunger, cold, pain, isolation, death.
Be inspired to learn how by experiencing authentic resonance
In the FEEL of healthy function and communal communication.

The skill of the Elder is the ability to BEAR WITNESS to pain and dysfunction without joining in it. The responsibility of a healer is to create energetic boundaries of intention; create and defend a field of Sacred Space around the wounded – so they can be at liberty to focus on their own healing process. A healer supports the efforts of a soul and a body to re-integrate into healthy function. A healer can’t do the healing –
only be the conduit of Universal Love power.

Trust is the foundation of healthy relationship. It is not a given, it is co-created. Trust can only be created with authentic, experiential practice. Got to give your word - then follow through.

The Road Less Traveled Is a circle poem. It is intended to be printed out double sided, folded into a fan and read all the way around. One will start and end the poem at the same place. Hopefully curious. This poem is about the DIY learning process.

Safety, trust, consent, a sense of comfort, a shared understanding of a task that needs doing, is an on-going conversation between a horse and a human - a horse and a horse - a human and a human.

It may not be a conscious process but, it is real. 85% of human to human conversation takes place wordlessly. Whether you are aware of it or not, believe it or not.

Horsemanship is the Art of using body language to communicate with a horse about mutual trust, consent, manners, comfort, athletic excellence and mutual understanding of a task that needs doing.

Horsemanship is an identity and a lifestyle. One reward is access and agency for learning the art of riding. One does not learn how to ride in one session. Like happiness, self-improvement as a rider is a life long pursuit. Riding is a relationship - it takes a horse and a human in consensual co-operation.

How does one learn the vocabulary of trust, credibility, consent, and co-operation in an Equal Us relationship? Mostly you just got to show up and care. Try and observe what happens. Play is how horses and humans learn relationship skills.

Got to believe in it, free will choose that form of relationship.
Got to be present - be within sensory proximity with a native speaker. Like a horse. Got to make eye contact and communicate your authentic intentions.

Got to be consciously responsive - that is how trust is established.
Telepathy of emotion is the vocabulary of body language. WE are all hard-wired with mirror neurons that resonate (ring true) with the feel of the thought being sent. Smile is a mirrored thought. So is disapproval and fear and anger and so are humor, trust, poise, and confidance.

Pretending never creates trust. It only creates disrespect.
Situational awareness is about how to stand up for yourself in dignity - defend your personal space and autonomy of movement and respect the personal space and autonomy of movement of the horse.

Visual aids and physical boundaries are helpful. Learn how to slow down your thought process to the speed of the learning process. There are some things that can only be learned through a guided experiential process. Like how to use your authority over a horse with honor.

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