Deena Cannistraci Certified Grief Recovery Method Specialist

"Will I forget the person if I heal from this?"

I have heard this from several people when I talk about grief recovery. The answer is, NO. You can not forget the memories of the person or pet you once loved. You get to keep all the LOVE and heal your heart from all the pain from the unresolved hopes, dreams and expectations you had for them.

When you're ready to expand your love for the person who passed away, look upon memories of them with joy and happiness again and let go of the PAIN that is holding you back from doing so, talk to me.

Learn about my 7-week program and what it can do for you with a 15 minute discovery call: https://forms.gle/6nyJQ4Pmf36W2dHY8

Parents who lost a child and want to feel whole again….

If I offered a program that teaches you how to heal your broken heart that:
- Is evidence based by Kent State University
- Offers a guided step-by-step action plan, not just talking about it
- Can be completed virtually in the comfort of your own space
- Doesn’t require years of therapy sessions

So you can live a life..

- without constant heartache
- without experiencing waves of grief
- without feeling that your loss is neverending

In only WEEKS, not years.
Would you be interested?

I’ve just opened up slots for 4 new clients using The Grief Recovery Method© that has helped thousands of grieving parents live a life without heartache each day in only 7 weeks.

Are you next?

We are all grieving: for the victims and their families, the loss of trust and safety, and the loss of innocence. We grieve for our children. 😢

I teach parents how to create a safe place for their children to express their feelings and learn the tools to deal with their grief.

Sign up for a discovery call ☎️with me to learn more: https://forms.gle/opa6z4uqbRxim7eE6

Helping Children: School Shootings and Grief When most people think of Nashville, TN, they think of Music City, the Grand Ole Opry, and the Country Music Hall of Fame. That changed on Monday, March 27, when three children and three adults were killed during a tragic shooting at The Covenant School.

The idea that there is a specific time table on when you can start to work on your grief is a myth.

Taking care of yourself, your heart and healing has no timeline.

If you're ready.

I'm ready to help you.

Sign up for a discovery call to learn more: https://forms.gle/9eFJDnZXsYv5cz488

This hand may look pretty normal to you. Just a plain hand with normal looking nails, nothing to see here. But for me, what I see is small glimpses into evidence of my recovery from some of my grief.

See, my entire life I've been a nail biter. Not just occasional, down to the nail bed, painful at times, nail biter. I NEVER had nails. The only way that I could have nails was if I put nail polish on them and they would grow, but as soon as the nail started to chip, or the edge of a nail had a snag, there it went. Back to my old ways, for 45.5 years. Read that again, 45.5 years my anxiety and nervousness was taken out in nail biting.

Our grief is cumulative. From little losses we collect throughout our lives. The moves as a child, starting school 🏫, not being accepted by our peers, bullied, loss of a pet 🐱, breakups, getting married 💍, having kids, laid off from our jobs 💼, loss of security/trust the list goes on and on. We don't even realize as we live our lives, how many of those losses pile up in our minds.

I've had these nails for about a month now. I've completed two relationships in my grief work so far. Just two out of all that I have in my entire lifetime. This specific positive change didn't occur with the first work, but it happened after the second grief work. About two months later.

This is a MAJOR positive change for me. 🙌. In our Grief Recovery Method© we help you identify connections between your behaviors and your grief. With this clarity you can then go onto work on the loss that will provide the most significant improvement for you in your life and over time, watch the undesired behaviors fade away.

That is what I do. I can help you grow your nails back too! Schedule a call to see if the method is right for you: https://forms.gle/RdM8atRsWYBZUhTA6

I'm very excited to share that I am now a Master Specialist with the Grief Recovery Institute and I am authorized to teach the Grief Recovery Method© Online! To sign up for a discovery call to see if this is a good fit for you, please complete this form and then you'll be taken to my link to book a call.

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Not all grief is caused by death. Grief can be experienced by both tangible and intangible losses. Here are a few examples:
💔 Divorce
💔 Job Loss
💔 Moving
💔 Loss of Trust
💔 Loss of Security
💔 Major health changes

Even several that typically would be seen as positive experiences can product conflicting feelings of joy and grief such as:
💔 Marriage
💔 Having a Baby
💔 Empty Nest
💔 Retirement
💔 Graduation
💔 Starting School
💔 Holidays

Remember, grief is the normal and natural response to a CHANGE in familiar pattern of behavior. We often don't recognize that we are impacted by these often not talked about types of grief. We collect them throughout our lives and carry them, unresolved and compound, until one day a very large event happens and we break down.

I can help you with all types of loss and unresolved grief. Without judgement, criticism or comparison. Let's talk about if the Grief Recovery Method© is right for you.
My calendar is open to you: https://calendar.app.google/bKMLpvyr3QPrMmaT8

With love,
Deena

❓What does recovery from grief actually mean? ❓

In the Grief Recovery Method© we define Recovery as:

Acquiring the skills we should have been taught as a child. These skills allow us to deal with loss directly.

We do that through working together to teach you the helpful skills and a specific action plan to get you to completion.

Want to know if The Grief Recovery Method© is right for you? Schedule a private 15 minute call with me to learn more: https://calendar.app.google/bKMLpvyr3QPrMmaT8

With Love,
Deena

Who else does this? Any Academy Award Winning Grievers 🏆 out there? We all experience loss and grief of different types.
We were taught all the wrong things:
🚫 Be Strong
🚫 Grieve Alone
🚫 It just takes time

But underneath we're hurting. We may look okay on the outside but inside we experience:
🔵 Reduced Concentration
🔵 Insomnia or excessive sleep
🔵 Disrupted eating patterns
🔵 Emotional rollercoasters

Ignoring your pain, acting 'OK', or thinking that the longer it's been will provide relief only further adds to your pain and confusion. WHY AM I NOT BETTER? SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH ME.

Nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Do this instead:
✅ Be honest when people ask how you feel, ALWAYS
✅ Don't hide your tears, let them flow no matter where you are (I've cried in the drive thru at Chick Fil A in front of the worker)
✅ Learn the skills necessary to COMPLETE your grief

We're not taught the correct tools and skills needed to complete our grief. I can help. I teach you the correct action steps needed to feel complete.

Wondering if the Grief Recovery Method is right for you? Schedule a 15 minute call with me to learn if I can help. https://calendar.app.google/bKMLpvyr3QPrMmaT8

With Love,
Deena

The TRUTH about grief!

⛔️ Time heals all wounds
⛔ Keep busy
⛔ She/he is in a better place now

I have been seeing this everywhere and I can't stay silent about it any longer!

Please do not listen or take this to heart, because this information is not 100% true.

Yes, saying or doing these things may work every once in a while, but for the majority of the time, they are just a "quick fix" and doesn't work long term.

✅ Time does NOT heal all wounds! It only separates us from the newness of the trauma/loss. Talking with many grievers, some are 20 years into their pain, still waiting for the 'healing' to come!
👉🏾 Instead, what works is dealing with the incompleteness of the loss, completing the process and taking steps to heal your broken heart.

✅ Keeping busy only helps to bury the pain of loss. It's temporary and distracting and just helps each day pass by, without any progress towards healing the pain of loss.
👉🏾 Recognizing that you have to be an active participant in your own journey to healing is crucial. Take time for self care, create a peaceful place where you can relax without distraction, and focus on action steps that help you complete the pain of your loss.

✅ While I recognize that saying or thinking your loved one is no longer suffering is a true and accurate statement, repeating that or hearing others tell you that, does not help you process the extreme pain from losing the physical connection with your loved one here with you.
👉🏾 Acknowledge the fact that they are no longer in pain or suffering, or that they are in a better place. But next go beyond that by identifying the relationship you had with them, the good and the not so good (meaning realistic) time in their lives. Help others who say that understand that while yes this is true, let them know that you are still hurting.

I just had to share this because I couldn't stay silent any longer! 🥰