Phoenix Transformations

Phoenix Transformations Doula Services, Childbirth Education, Parent Coaching, Prenatal/Postnatal Yoga

05/08/2026

One of the most common things I hear from partners is:

“I’m not too worried. She has a really high pain tolerance.”

And every time I think…

Respectfully?
It’s actually your pain tolerance I’m thinking about 👀

Not your ability to feel labor.

Your ability to tolerate watching someone you love move through intensity without panicking, shutting down, fixing, spiraling, or accidentally making the room feel less safe.

Because birth gets REAL.

And when it does, the nervous system of the support people in the room matters too.

I’ve watched birthing people stay deeply grounded through intense labor… while their partner completely unravels beside them because no one prepared them for what they were about to witness.

This is why birth prep matters.

Not just a birth plan.
Not just knowing when to go to the hospital.

Actual preparation.

Understanding what labor looks like.
How to respond to intensity.
What support feels like in practice.
How to stay connected to each other when things get hard.

That’s what I teach inside my Birth Literacy course, Bootcamp Babymoon Couples Retreat, and what I support families through as a doula.

Because the goal isn’t a “perfect” birth.

It’s walking into birth feeling informed, connected, and supported when things get real.

✨ Comment “LITERACY” for the course
BOOTCAMP for more info on the retreat OR
🤍 DM me if you’re looking for doula support in the East Bay/Lamorinda area.

04/29/2026

There’s a version of motherhood that looks clean, calm, and put together.

And then there’s the real one.

The one with dishes in the sink, toys on the floor, and a nervous system that’s doing its best to keep up with everything being asked of it.

This isn’t failure.

This is life happening in real time.

This is love, stretched across a thousand tiny, unglamorous moments.

This is the part no one teaches you how to hold.

And still…

there is something sacred in it.

Not because it’s perfect.

But because you’re in it.

Learning. Repairing. Showing up again.

If you’re in a messy season right now, you’re not behind.

You’re becoming.

hallelujah 🤍

04/24/2026

But fr fr, wtf.


Your toddler ever pull shenanigans like this? Tell me about it in the comments!

04/23/2026

Work like this is what will really make the difference for moms. It starts with girls learning about their bodies, being supported through transitions in ways that honor our dignity and normalizing the wild ride that becoming a parent entails. I will forever be rooting for the women doing this work now with my future clients! Did you have support like this as you learned what womanhood looked like? Let me know in the comments.

04/22/2026

Not me tricking you into what you need by packing it the way you want!

Be honest- do you like this kind of trickery?

04/22/2026

Boot Camp Baby Moon couples retreat is a no brainer. You’re doing all of this anyway…. Why not do it together in a 4 day super awesome retreat?! Limited to 8 couples (4 overnight and 4 day passes) so don wait- enlisting now for the first Bootcamp in June. Link in bio!

04/21/2026

4/20 felt… appropriate for this story 😅

Yes.
I drank castor oil.

Part 1 is up and I’m telling you exactly how it went 👀

But honestly? The reason I share stories like this isn’t because birth is a series of “try this” moments…

It’s because it’s never that simple.

There’s always more context.
More nuance.
More why behind every decision.

And most of that gets lost online.

That’s why there’s a monthly space with me and where women come together to tell the full birth stories.

The real stories.
The “what I’d do again / what I wouldn’t” stories.
The kind that actually help you understand what birth can look like.

If you’ve ever gone down a rabbit hole trying to figure out what you’d do…

you’ll want to be in that room.

DM me STORY and I’ll send you the details.

Part 2 coming soon 😏

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