01/12/2015
Setting Limits With Toddlers - The Choices They Can't Make
‘Respect’ is vital to parenting, but the word can confuse us, especially when it comes to setting limits with toddlers. Children need lots of opportunities to
12/28/2014
How was the holidays for you? What special traditions did you do for your children or grandchildren?
12/17/2014
Don't Fix These Toddler Struggles
Time and time again I see toddlers benefitting from impulse control – ours, not theirs. Our natural tendencies to project and protect when our children seem
12/03/2014
Strong-willed children are a blessing not a curse
When my kids were young, I would sometimes wonder what I had done wrong when child after child was born into our family with a hefty dose of “strong will.”
12/03/2014
Smile for the camera... Or make funny faces at it!
11/23/2014
Creating Bonds: Accepting A Child's Emotions - Peaceful Parents, Confident Kids
When my children were born I was overwhelmed with love. I was full of emotion which could turn on a dime. One minute, huge feelings of gratitude and happiness, the next, anxiety and apprehension about what I was doing and what lay ahead and then feelings of frustration and helplessness as I failed t…
11/23/2014
6 Gifts That Encourage Child-Directed Play
In case you haven’t noticed, play is hot. Once taken for granted as a universal childhood right, in the last decades aggressive marketers of early learning
11/19/2014
I think we need more blocks to make a CITY!!
11/11/2014
I have a few spots available! Pass the word out to anyone nearby in Orem who needs loving care for their child in my home! We have a great time here at Shelly Bear's! ;)
11/09/2014
I advise never resisting clinginess. Yes, there are times we need (or want) to separate, and that’s a healthy and positive thing to do. Parents’ needs and limits are an integral part of the parent/child relationship. Taking care of ourselves (even when our child disagrees) and feeling confident about that is vital to our bond.
Then there are those times at the playgroup, the park, a party, or even just at home when we might expect our child to be out playing or socializing, but our child is glued to us. Release those expectations or wishes — let clinginess be. In fact, welcome it. Don’t entertain, just let the child sit with you and watch. Coaxing, redirecting, pointing out all the wonderful children and toys our child could be playing with only intensifies her desire to cling.
When we trust that our child needs to be close and give her the assurance that we don’t resist this in the least, separation anxiety eases...
Calming Your Clingy Child
It’s good to feel needed, but when we become parents, we realize we never knew “needy”. As Magda Ge**er aptly noted, parenting brings with it a “feeling of
11/07/2014
Enjoying the day together at "Shelly Bear Child Care."