Erin E Schaden Divorce Coaching & Mediation

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One of the most talked-about reels right now says:

“Divorce isn’t good for children but staying in a chronically bad marriage is worse.”

As a divorce attorney with 29 years of experience, I agree — with important nuance.

Children aren’t damaged by divorce alone.

They’re damaged by:
• chronic tension
• emotional withdrawal
• unresolved conflict
• modeling unhealthy relationships

Kids learn what love looks like by watching it.

A high-conflict home teaches survival.

A well-managed separation can teach boundaries, respect, and peace.

Let’s break down the why.

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discusses whether men care less when pursuing aggressive financial strategies in divorce.

Going for the jugular financially typically stems from fear or personality disorders rather than cruelty, affecting both men and women.

People feel cornered when losing time, identity, or financial stability, triggering defensive responses.

Men sometimes fail to recognize when they’re being targeted as adversaries, and aggressive tactics are often about self-preservation rather than punishment.

What are your thoughts?

Stay tuned for part four.

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talks about the misconceptions surrounding men’s fears during divorce.

While many assume men fear paying alimony or child support, the reality is different. She explains that most men she works with are willing to provide and aren’t afraid of financial responsibility.

What truly breaks them is the fear of financial paralysis—the worry that they’ll never get ahead again, can’t buy a house, take their kids on vacation, or retire.

The real issue is how the system rewards stagnation and penalizes forward movement, often locking men into temporary support arrangements that become permanent.

Men fear being forever tied to a system and to someone they no longer get along with, not the act of supporting their families.

What are your thoughts? Let us know below.

The most shocking thing I see with men in divorce… 😳

They don’t collapse when the marriage ends..

They collapse when the structure does 🏚️.

Routine 📅.

Purpose 🎯.

Daily access to their kids 👨‍👦‍👦.

Many men tell me:

“I don’t even know who I’m supposed to be now.”

Divorce doesn’t just break relationships.

It fractures identity.

Part 1 - more coming…

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- 30 year Divorce Attorney & Coach talks about why a viral reel about someone bailing out a sinking rowboat resonated with over a million viewers. 👀

She explains how both partners typically share responsibility in a failing marriage, and how recognizing even a small percentage of fault gives you the power to create change.

She talks about the relatable feeling of futility when you’re the only one putting in effort to save a marriage while your spouse remains uninvested, and why so many people connect with this emotional reality today.

Did it connect with you & why?

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