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Happy ❤️🏳️‍🌈❤️Today we celebrate the strength of people of all ages to live their lives in ways that are true to their ...
10/11/2026

Happy
❤️🏳️‍🌈❤️
Today we celebrate the strength of people of all ages to live their lives in ways that are true to their hearts. This is a day to show your love and support for the people in your life who are willing to be courageous and vulnerable.
At a time when the very basic rights and humanity of LGBTQIA+ people are being debated on a national scale, it’s important to recognize how coming out is indeed a powerful, and, dare I say, revolutionary act.
Coming out takes courage and is much easier with the love and support of family and community. Take a moment today to express your unconditional love and support for the Le***an, Gay, Bis*xual, Transgender, Q***r, Questioning, Inters*x, As*xual, Aromantic, and Pans*xual people in your life.
🎨 Keith Haring ‘88

10/06/2026

No matter what you call it, If your goal is to change someone’s “no” to a “yes”, that’s a problem.

Coercion is NOT consent!
10/03/2026

Coercion is NOT consent!

How do you “do” consent?!Consent is both simple and complex. At its core, consent is about ensuring that everyone has a ...
10/01/2026

How do you “do” consent?!
Consent is both simple and complex. At its core, consent is about ensuring that everyone has a good experience. That all intimate or s*xual interactions are mutually wanted. That all participants feel safe, respected and know that their feelings, pleasure and boundaries matter.
Though the concept of making sure that everyone is in agreement seems simple enough, the practice of communicating with others to co-create this experience can feel anything but simple.
People often express frustration with the idea of communicating about consent. Many fear it will “ruin the mood,” or that it’s an unnecessary formality. Some people even believe that having to ask for consent somehow suggests that they are predatory.
You know what makes people feel comfortable and excited about having s*x? Having a partner who cares about their feelings, desires, comfort and boundaries!
There are many different ways to ask for consent; the questions above offer different possible ways of getting the conversation started, but the conversation shouldn’t end until the touching does. Let me be very clear - one singular question is never enough communication to establish consent for an entire s*xual encounter. Because consent is ongoing, we must continually check in with our partner(s) to ensure that everyone’s consent continues.
We all deserve respect and pleasure; consent is a powerful tool that can help us achieve both.

It’s not consent unless it’s a YES - for each new activity, every time.We’ve been misled to believe that certain cues li...
09/30/2026

It’s not consent unless it’s a YES - for each new activity, every time.
We’ve been misled to believe that certain cues like behavior or dress indicate a willingness or desire to be s€xual. While they might coincide with such desires, they definitely aren’t a safe indication of consent. The only way to know for sure is to ask.
The above lists are in no way exhaustive or complete - the list of what doesn’t indicate consent is infinite.
It’s important to remember that agreeing to make out or engage in one act isn’t consent for whatever might come later, and that any person can change their mind and revoke consent at any time and for any reason.
At the end of the day, communication is essential for ensuring safety and pleasure.
Everyone deserves to have their boundaries respected and honored. If you don’t know where those boundaries lie, ask. Never assume.
Consent matters because your physical, emotional and psychological well-being matters.

You can always change your mind!When we say consent is revocable, we mean it: at any time and for any reason.Really.Chan...
09/29/2026

You can always change your mind!
When we say consent is revocable, we mean it: at any time and for any reason.
Really.
Changing your mind is a normal, valid, and respectable thing to do. Changing your mind means that you aren’t beholden to any preconceived notion of how your experience “should” be. Changing your mind is being honest, in the moment, and advocating for your pleasure and your authentic needs.
Also, consent is specific. That means that getting down to your un**es doesn’t mean you’re consenting to anything beyond exactly that - showing your cute un**es! Want to see what’s under those un**es? Ask! Talk about what you want, and practice the skills to make those conversations feel normal and expected.
You deserve pleasurable, safe, respectful relationships. Relationships in which consent isn’t a hoop to jump though, but a powerful and effective tool to facilitate connection, safety, and pleasure.

Let’s take a minute to talk about communicating NO.When it comes to consent, there really are two options: yes and no. A...
09/28/2026

Let’s take a minute to talk about communicating NO.
When it comes to consent, there really are two options: yes and no. Any time a person is uncertain of how they feel, it’s probably in their best interest to say “no” - at least until they can figure out why they don’t feel confident about saying YES.
There are lots of different ways people communicate NO. Language is complex. Sometimes we use words and at other times we use body language to express what we have trouble verbalizing.
Look, listen and communicate! Ask for consent and respect your partner’s answer. Continually check in to gauge comfort, desires and boundaries. At the end of the day, we want our s*xual partners to be enthusiastic and excited - if they’re not, stop!

We need to learn how to take “no” for an answer - and respond with compassion.Finding ways to respectfully respond to a ...
09/28/2026

We need to learn how to take “no” for an answer - and respond with compassion.
Finding ways to respectfully respond to a “no” helps deepen and strengthen our relationships. It’s during these high-stakes moments, when our partners are vulnerable enough to risk disappointing us, that we can show them that their comfort and happiness (and not our own ego) is our priority.
It’s okay to feel disappointed when things don’t go as you had hoped, but don’t view receiving a “no” as defeat - this is how trust and safety in relationships are built.
Strive be the type of person to whom others feel comfortable saying “no”.

Happy You don’t have to pick a side 🩷💜💙 *xuality
09/24/2026

Happy
You don’t have to pick a side 🩷💜💙
*xuality

09/18/2026

What do 12th graders really want to know?


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