04/04/2024
Finding a topic that works for a student, that rings true to them, that encapsulates what they want to convey about their thoughts on finding a college that allows them to have fun (yes, fun!), meet life-long friends and be inspired to work hard at their studies in an area that suits their interests and abilities — that may take a bit of wrestling with ideas and revising the admissions essay. After 15 years of helping students find what they want to say, in their voice, I can report that the "aha" moment is typically evident in their face and in their voice when we're discussing topics. You know when you've got IT!
This NYT opinion author too has seen the stultifying effects of "branding" on kids. Sure, they get into colleges, even some of the more elite colleges. It's just an extra stressful journey. My job, as I see it, is in part to try to take the stress out of writing the essay. It's one of my favorite parts of this job because I know what a satisfying essay looks like, for the student, their parents and colleges.
In the words of Sarah Bernstein, "In some ways, the college essay is a microcosm of modern adolescence. Depending on how you look at it, it’s either a forum for self-discovery or a high-stakes test you need to ace. I try to assure my students that it is the former. I tell them that it’s a chance to take stock of everything you’ve experienced and learned over the past 18 years and everything you have to offer as a result."
Teenagers should not have to commoditize themselves for the sake of getting into an elite school.