Persist Behavioral Management, inc.

07/14/2022

A fact for consideration: most people who are unable to ‘take a compliment’ do not simply have low self-esteem; they have been conditioned by their life‘s experience to use complements as an early warning system for abuse.

Often a manipulative abuser will set up a complement so that they can turn it into a joke.

Often it will be used to fuel later abuse i.e.
“I don’t don’t get it, you’re usually so ___, what’s wrong with you?“

So the next time a person shrinks from a complement, instead of encouraging a thank you or referencing self-esteem, strive to tune your own communication to their needs. Assure them in sincerity that your complement is genuine in the least ambiguous terms possible.

05/18/2022

https://fb.watch/d4MWMd8IQo/

04/20/2022

Being forced to comply through fear and manipulation is not respect. Kids learn whatever we model. If we want then to be respectful and grateful then we need to model respect and gratitude.

More information on my blog:
https://www.thetherapistparent.com/post/teaching-kids-gratitude

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03/23/2022

02/03/2022

12/22/2021

Choose communication!
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12/13/2021

12/11/2021

Important strategies.

Check out the full list here: https://www.thepathway2success.com/strategies-for-oppositional-kids/

12/06/2021

1 Schedule time for you.
Don’t let the business of the season make you put yourself even further down your list.

2 Stop comparing yourself.
If you are doing what you can, and if you and your family are happy, healthy, and together, then you are succeeding.

3 Don’t set unrealistic expectations on others.
Let go of your expectations and allow things to just happen. Don’t put pressure on others to make everything “perfect”.

4 Set boundaries on your time.
Practice saying no to things you don’t really want to do or just don’t have the time or energy for.

5 Ask for help.
Anxiety tells you people don’t want to help, or makes you embarrassed to ask for help but neither of those hold substance. Most often people do want to help - they just need to be asked. Everyone needs help from time to time, and what better season to reach out to each other and connect?

12/06/2021

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