Liz Keifer Coaching

Helping people to claim and step into their power during the uncertainty of life transitions. Life coaching. Self- belief.

Self leadership
http://www.lizkeifer.com

02/09/2024

The Power of Not Yet

08/21/2023

03/12/2023

I love my blanket fort 😎 and I am grateful for the ones who love it too

01/20/2022

Self trust is a key ingredient for feeling worthy. 💕🥰

Start suuuuuuuper doable, small, easy (resistance = too much, too soon).

Every time you keep your promise, thank and appreciate yourself (it feels awkward the first few times).

When you inevitably have a setback, or get sidetracked, or just forget: apologise to yourself and restart (also awkward).

Every time you keep a promise you are building integrity with yourself.

You can trust you.

You’ve got you ❤️

09/22/2021

Part of me feels like a clown: My love for all of the parts of me!

It’s funny because it took me a while to realize that I intuited “parts work” through my acting work years ago.

What do I mean by parts?

Let’s say you have a party to go to, and you have a part of you that wants to stay home and watch Netflix but also a part of you that wants to dress up and actually see people. These are parts, and they have opinions and needs, kind of like family members.

You are not your parts, you have parts, and they each have their own agenda and hint: it’s always to keep you safe.

You are your Self. Self is what’s underneath all the mental chatter.
Self doesn’t grow. It’s already complete. Parts can get big and small depending on the circumstance.

Parts are like tiny seeds; they step forward and grow when called upon. Ask any mother who is protecting her child, and you can see the “mama bear” part emerge with ferocity. That part is doing its job!

I was able to stay relatively sane and healthy going to the places I needed to go to as an actor because I understood that certain characters were just parts of me that had permission to step forward and take over to tell the story. I thought of it as giving them the chance to show off! This was especially delicious for a girl raised to be “good” and not rock the boat.
I had a ritual of coming back to my Self when I took off my costume; it became a signal that it was time to let go of “the part” and get back to my real-life business.

Honestly, I had been training to be an actor my whole life because I got really comfortable at presenting only certain parts of me to others in order to keep myself safe from conflict, or the fear of being judged.
The part of me that was determined to manage how others perceived me grabbed the microphone most of the time!

I got into hot water especially during my twenties when I became the identity of the parts I presented and lost track of my deeper Self.
After the good fortune of some supportive coaches and teachers, I realized these overdeveloped “parts” of me took over as a form of protection; I then began a whole different relationship towards them; one of compassion, curiosity, and downright respect for their ingenuity and sophistication.
My "parts" became resources I could rely on instead of hijackers who shut me down.

Once again, everything I needed to learn about my true self I learned through acting.

This is why actors take on parts! Because ALL parts are welcome!
xo - Liz

06/22/2021

A humorous look at self-doubt on rollerblades 😎

While I was inappropriately trying out my daughter's rollerblades in her apartment, I couldn't stop laughing at myself for constantly being pulled back just as I was about to reach my goal of reaching her hands. It was automatic; the floor had its own idea of physics and pulled me back to the start each time.
I laughed and exclaimed, "This is like self-doubt on rollerblades!"

Has this ever happened to you? ( not the rollerblading in an apartment, although that was great fun!)

As soon as you start moving or even thinking about moving towards what you want, another part of you gets triggered and activates self-doubt, which tells you it's not safe to take action.

It doesn't care how much you want to go where you want to go; its only job is to make sure you are safe by pulling you back or not letting you take action at all. Herein lies the conflict.

We are often told that this is self-sabotage, and we focus on changing the behaviors of procrastination, paralysis, or any number of P words that cause us to not take action.

I prefer to reframe self-doubt as my inner protector. Self-doubt shows up to protect us from what it perceives to be a psychological risk. It's been with us a long time and does a damn good job. It's perfectly understandable and, quite frankly, highly sophisticated and creative!

This is one of the many mind-blowing concepts I have learned while training at the Self Belief Coaching Academy.
It's been a game-changer in how I show up not only for my clients but in my life.

And anytime I can laugh at myself with nonjudgmental joy, it is a good day.😎