Unearthed Pleasures

The Kink Bundle is disappearing soon!

Like literally tomorrow night soon, so if you’ve been waiting, today is definitely the day to grab this amazing offer!

Don’t miss this chance to get your hands on all the resources to take your exploration to the next level. Seriously there are phenomenal classes in this Bundle — on everything from psychological pain play to D/s protocols to choking how tos to navigating relationship convos and more! My class bundle is in there too, plus all of these great people, over $2000+ in courses, workshops, trainings, app access…. All for just $97.

Featuring teachings from:




*xsmith






bug505
hedonist






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lupine
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**rsxcoach

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But remember — you only have until tomorrow night!!

The Kink Bundle is disappearing soon!

Don’t miss this chance to get your hands on all the necessary resources to finally take your k!nk journey to the next level!!

These are 15 expert k!nk and s3x educators (besides me!), all of us offering are most popular courses / trainings / workbooks / and more! I'm not joking when I tell you this Bundle is worth over $1000 --- and I'm definitely not joking when I tell you this incredible 91% off deal is ending tomorrow!

Deal like this don't happen very often. After tomorrow all these courses are going back to their regular prices, and won't be offered as a package deal at all.

The Kink Bundle is all you'll need to fully explore B**M, kink, and the Dom/sub lifestyle. Grab it before it's gone!!

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I know you don't need more reasons to see this is an offer that you don’t want to miss. If you’ve ever thought about investing in knowledge to help start or grow your kink lifestyle, this is an amazing opportunity that will seriously not be around for long! Don’t miss this chance to get your hands on all the necessary resources to finally take your s*xuality, relationships, and happiness to the next level.

This is the chance to get 16 amazing B**M, kink, and Dom/sub products for 91% off!

But maybe you've got questions. I get it, this is a serious deal and so you're bound to be questioning a bit. So let's talk.

Q. What’s the catch?
There’s absolutely no catch! Those of us in the bundle believe in the power of collaboration, and realized that together we can reach so many more people than we could on our own. And we believe in sharing this knowledge to help others tap into their kinky dreams. It is an investment for us, while you get a sweet 91% discount. But we also accepted this deal because it only lasts for a week, so hurry!

Q. How does this work exactly?
Our bundle is a well curated pack of digital products. After the purchase, you will receive an email with a link to your private landing page explaining how to access each of the products for free. It’s really easy and you’ll be able to do this straight away!

Q. I’m super busy. What if I don’t have time for all 16 offers?
I get it! Once you buy the bundle, you have 3 months to enroll into the different offers. However, once this step is completed, you'll be able to access them indefinitely -- on your own time, whenever you want, at your own pace!

Q. What if I’m new to B**M, kink, or Dom/sub relationships?
What a great way to start! So many of us spend the first few years of living the lifestyle taking shots in the dark and hoping something will magically work out.
By starting your journey with the Kink Bundle, you’re likely to hit the ground running faster than the average ki****er, because you will have all of the resources you need. Plus, there are plenty of newbies joining too -- you're not alone!

Head here to learn more and sign up:
https://quinnunearthed--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/

(Hurry! Ends Tuesday)

Did you catch the announcement on my IG stories? The K!nk Bundle is BACK (🎵 and it's better than everrrr🎵) from DomSubLiving --- and this year I've joined in on all the fun!

Overwhelmed with everything to learn about the kink lifestyle? Listen, we've been there too. But we're here to help you take your relationships and s*xuality to the next level! I teamed up with 15 other amazing creators and we put together an incredible bundle of online products at a magically low price.

Enter our Bundle:
🖤16 trainings, courses, ebooks, and memberships
🖤 Over $1,000 in value
🖤 You get it at a 91% discount

Want to see if this is too good to be true?
(I mean, to be honest, this is an insane deal. But as educators we're all dedicated to helping y'all get access to this knowledge so you can live your best kinky lives, so we came together and agreed to do this huge bundle sale for one week!)

Head here to learn more and sign up:
https://quinnunearthed--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/

(Hurry! Ends Tuesday!)

So excited to be joining PFY for this amazing event again!! Back in the virtual sphere, next Saturday 2/26, join us for a FREE event focused on inclusion, education, and of course, kink!

These are some great workshops and a really great organization! And did I mention it’s free? making knowledge accessible and celebrating all us kinky qu**rs too!

Check out the details below ⬇️

Posted • You kinky? You q***r? Don't miss this!

Get your FREE ticket for the Q***r Kink Convention here: Q***rKinkCon.EventBrite.com

Mark your calendar for Saturday, February 26th at 12 pm for a full day of speakers and workshops on all things q***r and kinky. This is an 18+ event open to LGBTQ folks and allies.

Contact Maria at [email protected] for more information.

PrEP screenings will be available throughout the event! Call(516) 679-9000 for more information.

Place your FREE condom/lube delivery order at tinyurl.com/condomdelivery

PFY offers FREE in-person and at-home HIV Testing! Call (516) 679-9000 for more information.

Learn how to plan an amazing kinky date night with me & this Thursday! 📝 This workshop is usually only available in my Beginnings Bundle Course, but in honor of Cupid’s little holiday I’m doing it live!💘

Banish those date night nerves with a toolbox for crafting s*xy, fun, consensual scenes. 🧰 We'll cover topics like scheduling, negotiating & creating scenes, prepping for the scene (and the aftercare!), post-play follow ups, navigating future play, and more. Bringing a partner? There’ll be time to plan future date nights with some instructor guidance! 😘

Link in bio for virtual and in-person tickets! 🖤

You want your kink to feel in-the-moment and "real". You want it to be safe and well-prepared. You know what it takes to make both those things true?
🌠communication!🌠

I hear folks talk about not wanting to coordinate every single detail of their scenes, not wanting to ruin "surprises" or feelings in the moment, or wanting to feel truly at someone's whim. But we also all talk about negotiation, in-depth consent, and preparing for scenes with knowledge & skills. But none of these things are mutually exclusive!! And they all involve talking about things!!

Part of negotiating a scene is talking generally about things you both like and want to explore, as well as generally about things you both want to avoid. You can negotiate details via a "anything but these things" or a "only something within this list" if you want the specifics to be less laid out but still ensure consent. Learn a variety of skills that could apply to play you're interested in. Flow in the moment by establishing a variety of safe words/signals that help you read your partner's physical & emotional state without pausing the scene completely. These are just some ways to build a great kink scene, with planning & preparation AND creativity & reading the moment, and they all involve good ol' fashioned communication.

Artful scenes don't require the most expensive toys, a million tips & tricks, or being the world's best/most experienced dom/sub/top/bottom.
Artful scenes require communication.

What does it mean to explore your kink authentically?⠀
How do you find what speaks to you in your kink or make your kink play your own?⠀
We've talked about setting intentions for your play, and another part of that is finding your own why's for what you desire. One of my favorite things about playing with kink is that while it can be as simple as enjoying a spanking scene, it can also be as complex as exploring the nature of fear.⠀
Some of us use our kink play to explore identities that we have (we can embody them more deeply, explore their opposites, or confront aspects that make us uncomfortable).⠀
Or maybe we explore roles or archetypes (that scare us, that we wish we were like, that have impacted our lives).⠀
Or we play out scenarios, events, or tasks that loom in our life (to their worst outcome, or their best, or just to see how we might react).⠀
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So here's a whole lot of ideas and reflections that might help you think about this deeper!⠀
Check out the blog for the full slide texts, or consider scheduling a coaching session if you'd prefer to reflect with a guide! (Sometimes it's easier to answer questions and process concepts with help, and if that sounds like you, I'm here!)⠀
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Would you be interested in a full workshop on this topic? Let me know down below! ⬇

Sometimes we all need a reminder.

You can ask for help. Reach out to your kinky friends, ask your kink community, you can ever post on your kinky social accounts! But don't be afraid to reach out and ask for more information, for help navigating a tough situation, or for some support.

You should pause and check in — with yourself and with your partners! Sometimes we all need a pause to think about how we're feeling, how we're physically doing, and where our desires are aligning with our boundaries in that moment.

It's also okay to have feelings! Whether you're able to communicate them clearly yet or not, it's okay to have feelings come up in our kink play & partnerships. And sometimes packaging those feelings into neat little words or descriptions or negotiations is tough. Sometimes we need to let ourselves just feel and flow with those emotions for a bit. Kink plays with emotional stuff, emotions are going to be a part of it.

It is ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS okay to say "No"! Not interested in a type of kinky play? Not interested in doing that right now? Said yes before but now you're not feeling it? Didn't turn out to be the sensations you thought? Please say "no", please advocated for yourself, please accept when other's say "no".

I've talked a little about peaks & valleys in your kink play before, and I'll say it here again: it is okay to take time away from your kink. Sometimes you'll be too busy, or too stressed, or just not feeling the dynamic because of life stuff, or it'll just lessen in your relationship. Whatever the reason, you are not less kinky for taking time away.

And perhaps the reminder I want you all to truly take to heart: be yourself. Your kinks are yours, your kink journey is yours, and they may look different than other people's! Kink is an embracing of alternate desires, there is no place for pressure to conform to what kink looks like for someone else. Be your own kinky self!

Sending you all kinky love and acceptance 🖤

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Begin the journey into kink. Begin -your- journey. Begin. Spilling and sultry and messy and magnificent and dark and delicious and exquisite and explorative and and and ... there's so much waiting in that "begin".

Beginning isn't easy and it isn't without mistakes, but there's a liberation in that first step. There's an unfolding of possibility. There's an -unearthing- of something within you. Persephone was Kore when she first discovered the Underworld, but then she dared to break open the pomegranate and unearth everything within herself -- power and darkness and blossoming.

What do you need to break open within yourself?

Beginning is about saying "yes" to something that you may have put off before.
Beginning is about letting yourself dive into desires that you may have ignored.
Beginning is about equipping yourself for the paths ahead as best you can.

There's so much waiting for you in this mini-course, and I don't just mean the videos and guides, I also mean the opportunity. The knowledge. The door that opens at the end.

What questions do you have? What could await?

Are you curious about starting your kink adventure? You love the quick info posts but you're craving something more? Send me a message, let's chat. Together let's discuss what my mini-course could open up for you.

Your pomegranate is waiting.

What's in my beginner toy bag? Honestly, some of my favorite toys still!
The biggest reason why I recommend these toys to folks just getting started is that they allow you to play with lots of styles & sensations, but don't require a huge learning curve. Because floggers can be fun, but learning to swing them properly is a true skill. 😂
These are also easier toys to get access to without spending a ton! You can of course get beautiful leather versions of all of these, but you can also grab ones made from upcycled materials on etsy or just stop by your local s*xy store. Heck, half of these you probably have already by using things around the house!

But let's break it down....

My Beginner Kink Toy Checklist:

🏇🏼 crop -- long with a little flat piece (typically leather) on the end; considered a stingy impact toy; you swing it short distances to make contact with the flat piece

🥽 blindfold -- bandannas, sleep masks, fancy leather blindfolds, they all count; a classic for creating some sensory deprivation; many also find it calming to take the pressure of eye contact away or that it allows them to focus more

🙌🏼 hands -- yes, hands! great for spanking impact play, scratching sensations, and even some grabby grips on thighs/sides/bi(cep)s for a rough body play sensations; add gloves to increase the sensations!

📌 pinwheel -- aka a wartenburg pinwheel, a wheel with little spikes around it for sharp/scratchy sensation play; can be light as a shiver or sharp as its spikes

🙊 gag -- bit and ball gags are most common, but a bandanna with a knot in it can substitute too; fun for some bottoms to bite on during a scene or to create the feeling of not being able to shout out; make sure to set a non-verbal safeword!

🏏 paddle -- wooden, leather, resin, rubber, a slappy impact toy that can also be more thuddy or stingy depending on the material; short swings on the fleshy part of the butt is best for just getting started

Looking for more beginner kink info? Check out my Kink Beginnings Bundle for all the info you need to get started!

Which of these toys do you have already? What's next on your list?

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What does it mean to know ourselves in a kink context? Is it to know all our fav kinks? To know the why behind them? To always know what we want and how and when? To have our top kinks always be the same? (okay, it's not that one, but more on that another day)

I think Albert here had the right idea: to know ourselves is really to assert ourselves. Aka some good negotiation, boundary setting, asking for what we want and telling what we don't, advocating for ourselves, in general leaning into ourselves to say "hmm, I want to try this, I want to feel this, I want to know this part of myself" and then --saying those words out loud to our partners--.

Because you may not always know every aspect of yourself and your kinks 100% for sure. But what you can do is share your desires and your feelings and your thoughts. You can assert yourself if you want to try a new kink. You can assert yourself if you don't like a kink or how the play is going. You can assert yourself if you need something -- in a dynamic, in your s*x, in your play.

You can assert yourself, and in doing so, get to know yourself. Plus, bonus part? When you assert yourself you let your partners know you too. And I'll tell you right now, knowing each other, seeing each other's vulnerability and desires and boundaries and all of this? That's some of the most beautiful moments in all of this.

Next time you and a partner are struggling a bit through negotiations, boundary setting, or even just asking for your desires, try this: say, "I want to know you, I want to hear you. I want you to know yourself, I want you to feel heard. And the best way to know you is to hear you assert yourself."

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