06/30/2021
THE LETTER OF AN INVISIBLE GIRL
“ ….I long to be seen by others and be witnessed in my brilliance.
Instead, I feel unseen and invisible. Almost nonexistent. It looks like my body has no real substance for others to see the real me, which is very strange since I have a big body frame and a very brilliant mind. As if I have no real definition and I am only a powerful mirror to other people.
I automatically disappear in the presence of others, get absorbed in their worlds and problems. I keep my entire focus on others and their greatnesses. When a conversation starts about me, I shrink inside and start feeling uncomfortable, awkward, and somewhat unsafe. I usually respond with something general or insignificant. I then redirect the conversation to where I feel at my very best - seeing and witnessing others.
That is how I co-create one-sided relationships where one person is getting fully seen, known, and acknowledged, and another one is chronically out of the spotlight, sitting in the shade. I usually avoid presencing myself, and most of the time am not sure myself what I want, need, or desire. Very few people know what is going on inside of me.
It feels like I have invisible walls around me that keep me isolated, alienated, detached, removed, and disconnected from the world. It feels like I am not a part of it, but separate.
I have been invisible since I was a child. This adaptation strategy helped me develop certain strengths and skills while leaving me underdeveloped in another area - in my capacity to make my feelings, needs, and desires visible to myself and others. At some point, my inner world became my own very best-kept secret.
My entire focus shifted towards sensing and anticipating other people’s states. As a result, I have developed empathy, and a tremendous capacity to read between lines, see what is unseen, hear what is unspoken, and discern what is not yet known.
People usually feel very safe, seen, and heard in my presence as I reflect the beauty of who they truly are underneath all their limitations and conditioning. Ironically, nobody in my surroundings is capable of doing the same for me.
I see how people get seduced by my full attentiveness, and eventually, they become very self-centered and self-absorbed in my presence. That is my deepest pain. I deeply desire to be seen in my brilliance...”
If this letter resonates with you, please know that you were not meant to be just a mirror to others that reflects their light. You came here to be the light yourself. It is time to stop disappearing yourself, make your feelings, needs, and desires visible to yourself first, then to others, and learn how to present yourself in ways that truly highlight your value.
We all have the great need to be known for who we truly are. To be fully seen and witnessed in our greatness by another. When someone sees the potential in us and can hold this vision for us, it activates and catalyzes our transformation from the caterpillar into a unique butterfly.
No more hiding or waiting to be ‘discovered’ by others! The time has come for you to be in the spotlight of your own life, and shine YOUR light.
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