Chaos2Calm Coaching

03/27/2024

So good!

If you want to see your neurodivergent kids do those things, put accommodations in place to help bring their processing systems back down to safety.

It makes no sense writing goals for our kids without putting the appropriate sensory supports in place. Your goals are unrealistic if those kids are existing in the red zone.

Dysregulation and distress are major hurdles to us accessing our executive functioning skills.

If you want to see our skills, remove the stressors.
Make us feel safe and valued.
Teach us that our comfort and happiness are important.
Make sure we are heard.

You’ll see what we can achieve then.

Yes?

Em 🌈

07/07/2023

Own your stuff, Lovely Soul!

This was inspiring to read today.

06/19/2023

Calm Down Fun Activities

CALM DOWN TOOLS FOR KIDS

How to help kids with brain breaks, proprioception and calming techniques.

https://www.andnextcomesl.com/2016/12/calm-down-kit-for-older-kids.html

06/18/2023

Substitute melatonin for console or Lavender DT essential oil and this is how I calm the chaos in our home for a peaceful nignt sleep. Sprinkle in some Reiki with plenty of snuggle and time bed time is a breeze.

We forget one thing or don't get enough exercise, quiet time, snuggle time or connection and bedtime and/or sleep is not so great.

HOW TO HELP A CHILD WITH ADHD SLEEP BETTER

If your child struggles with sleeping at night, here are some strategies that may help calm their bodies.

Child Development Clinic

06/17/2023

Be the anchor...love that!

06/16/2023

So many great suggestions!

GREAT CALM DOWN STRATEGIES FOR CHILDREN

These ideas are particularly good for children who feel overloaded with sensory input or who struggle with meltdowns.

06/13/2023

Beautiful!

There's nothing wrong with studying the footprints of your past,
as long as you don’t confuse them with your future.
There's nothing wrong with revisiting the past pages of your life,
as long as you don't forget to write the next chapter.
There's nothing wrong with acknowledging your past struggles,
as long as you don't let them define your future victories.
There's nothing wrong with understanding your previous conditioning,
as long as you don't let it confine your potential.
And there's nothing wrong with seeking clarity from your past,
as long as you don't mistake it for your present reality.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

My eBooks are available on Amazon and my website.

Artwork by Lucy Campbell

06/09/2023

I AM ALLOWED

I am allowed to receive conscious love.

I am allowed to have needs.

I am allowed to express my emotions.

I am allowed to trust the universe.

I am allowed to desire.

I am allowed to break open and heal.

I am allowed to call in a conscious man.

I am allowed to try something new.

I am allowed to claim my value.

I am allowed to do things that make me happy.

I am allowed to take care of myself.

I am allowed to want more.

I am allowed to take up space.

I am allowed to be powerful.

I am allowed to speak my truth.

I am allowed to love myself.

I am allowed to walk away.

I am allowed to clear space.

I am allowed to open my heart.

I am allowed to be authentic.

I am allowed to be vulnerable.

I am allowed to be soft.

I am allowed to be strong.

I am allowed to outgrow people.

I am allowed to outgrow my old self.

I am allowed to be the Goddess, the queen, the mother, the daughter, the wife, the partner, the lover, the woman I was always created to be.

Author: Jenn

Artist:
Cary Wyninger of Art N' Soul....and the name of this piece is "Wild Pixie"

05/29/2023

Co-regulation is an everyday need when calming the chaos at home.

05/21/2023

Well...maybe I have done that before but atleast we talked through the feelings afterwards.

05/16/2023

Our children's behavior is always a coverup for something they really need...an unmet need.

The same applies to us, as their nurturer and how our mom triggers get activated. Intuitive parenting and inner child work helps us meet all of their needs for them and for us.

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The Order of Things - Need • Feeling • Behaviour
Working backwards:
• The BEHAVIOUR is communication, it's the child 'telling you something'.
• Something doesn't FEEL well-right for the child, and they can't put it into words
• There's a physiological NEED that requires addressing so that the child can feel safe, connected and calm.
Once we know this, we know that the child isn't 'just having us on'. And once we know THAT we shift our view of the child, which makes all the difference in the quality of our connection with the child. As Dr. Stuart Shanker reminds us: "See a child differently. See a different child". So they are not being 'manipulative' 'having you on' 'trying to outwit you' - they have a need for your heart energy in that moment. That's the energy with which to approach unmet needs.

05/16/2023

Calming the Nervous System is a must when finding calm for your child.