Miriam R Helms

A little for your day! 😆
I'm practicing something new - recognizing when I'm triggered (feeling fear, guilt, shame, anger) and DOING NOTHING.
🤷‍♀️ Like...I ate half a brownie for breakfast, y'all. Boom. Shame.
My brain immediately goes to - Quick! Fix it! Eat kale, eat protein, take vitamins, do SOMETHING!
🛑 But...that's a triggered state. I'll just keep making choices that bring shame if I keep that cycle going.
🤟 So guess what? I did nothing. I breathed. I didn't try to "make up" for it. I brought in some compassion. And I moved on.

There's so much more to this technique that I'd love to teach you, (I'm working on an e-book!) but the basics are simple - do nothing in a triggered state. Notice what comes up. (And let me know how it goes).

When we decide to heal our inner *stuff*, we aren't just helping ourselves; we're stepping away from generational patterns that affect the future.

📷 credit: unknown

I've been thinking lately...why do I value "doing" more than "being"? Why is doing laundry or washing dishes more valuable/productive than resting, napping, or reading? Where did I decide that getting something VISIBLY done meant I had succeeded for the day, and resting was nothing?
Fear wells up in me when I think of letting go of this belief in productivity, which tells me there's a wound to explore there. What would happen if I leaned in to that fear and listened?
I offer you the same...a chance to lean in. Listen to the fear. Let it be seen and heard, like a little child that just needs your presence. This is healing. ❤️

Out past 9:00 = you wild 😜🥱

Repost

🗣How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake?
📦 Today, I realized I accidentally shipped an order to my old address. As in, haven’t-lived-there-in-over-a-year-and-it’s-arriving-today. Ughhh.
🚂 As I tried to figure out how/if I could fix it, I boarded the the Blame Train and before I knew it, I was going full-speed ahead to Shame City.
🙊”You can’t fix it, this is your fault. No one is going to help you because YOU did this. You should have checked the address. Duh, Miriam!”

Thankfully, awareness kicked in and I was able to slam on the brakes. What if I believed something different? What if I looked at my mistake as just that - a mistake. Oops! 🤷🏻‍♀️

What if I unpacked my bag of shame and just let it be? What if I trusted it would all be okay?

💫 The truth is, I live in a friendly universe. All things work together for good for me. Life is on my side. Let’s see what happens. 🙌🏻

Day 4: Goodness
I didn’t post what I planned to today.
🎭 To be honest, to post it would have been a show, part of the “need” to keep adding content. That’s the hustle energy. That’s not how I want to show up here.
💫 I wanted to share about goodness, but I felt kind of “off” today. I didn’t WANT to look for goodness.
🤔 As I prepared for bed though, I decided to try my own medicine. “What can I find that reminds me of God? Where can I see goodness in this room right here?” Brushing my teeth, I looked around.

🕊 My painting: I bought it while I was healing from abusive relationships and deep depression. Birds have always been symbols of God’s presence to me, and this piece by Jo Jayson speaks such love into my heart.

📿 Gifts: Each of these necklaces was a gift. Each has meaning and love attached to it. How blessed am I, to have such tokens of friendship?

So. I found goodness after all. Even if it took me all day. ✨

Day 3: Out of time? ⏱
As a new mom, I have many opportunities to believe in lack.
“Not enough” time (for myself or for what I want to get done.) “Not enough” sleep. “Not enough” time off work…etc.
At first glance, these seem pretty legit.
↪️ But I’m going to flip the script.
Yes, I’m up feeding my son in the middle of the night. BUT what I lack in sleep, I gain in time awake. I have this dark, quiet, precious time with him. I have time to think in silence, to dream, to read, to plan for the next day…to shop online (Hello, Instacart!). 🤣💸
It actually expands me, it doesn’t contract me.
💥Experiment - where can you flip what you’ve perceived to be “not enough”? What if that experience/situation actually provides something for you?

Day 2: Reminders
I keep this dime in the cup holder on my stroller. I see it every time I take the baby out.
Why?
🌟 It reminds me that provision is everywhere - I just need to look. I found it on the ground; I could have easily overlooked it, or thought it wasn’t worth picking up. But I took it as a sign: a dime is 10x the value of the usual penny find.
🧐 What if our blessings multiplied tenfold when we looked for and acknowledged them?
👉 What can you find to remind you that your needs will be met - even if it’s one dime at a time? 😉

I’ve written poetry since high school.
Somehow, it just flows out of me
When I sit down with my journal.
But I’ve been too shy to share it with the world -
Until now.
My prayer is that it gives language
To the experience of living through abuse,
So others can name their pain
And ultimately, heal. ❤️
My gratitude to for seeing and honoring my work.

https://sheiskindred.org/2022/07/20/passing-through-by-miriam-helms/

: Day 1
📉 I think we fall into a lack mentality for several reasons: it’s culturally “normal”, we’ve been programmed by childhood experiences, and we don’t see “small”things as evidence.
👀 So today, we’re practicing the art of and - testing the principle that what we focus on will grow.
👉 Your job = Find one seemingly small thing that proves your abundance - that little “kiss” from Heaven that you might have overlooked before. (Examples could be: you have enough air to breathe, books to read, plenty of grass to sit in and enjoy, etc.)
Tell me what you find or post a pic!! I’ll put mine in the comments.