08/20/2026
“The Poor Die Too Young.”
One of my cousins died yesterday. Jeff was still a young man.
I have lost too many family members over the years, and I have come to understand something about growing up poor that is difficult to explain unless you have lived it: Poverty follows you.
We grew up in survival mode.
Health. Nutrition. Preventive medical care. Regular checkups. Understanding what your body needs.
Those things can feel like luxuries when the priority is simply getting through the day.
I got lucky. Athletics entered my life and taught me much of what I know about exercise, nutrition, discipline, and taking care of my body. Without sports, I don’t know that I would have learned those lessons either.
It is easy to look at someone struggling with their health and say: “They made bad choices.”
Sometimes they did. But there is another truth we don’t talk about enough: You cannot practice what you were never taught.
Many people who grow up in poverty aren’t choosing between a healthy life and an unhealthy one. They’re surviving.
When survival consumes your childhood, sometimes it follows you for the rest of your life.
We need a little less judgment and a little more understanding.
Rest easy, cousin.
Enjoy the ride, Jeff.
— John
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