Dr. Cindy Sholes

Dr. Cindy Sholes Dr. Cindy Sholes is a neuroscientist who assists people who really want to make a big impact on the

As a Mompreneur, I am on a mission to find and share time- and energy- saving ways to have a healthy and productive life for myself and my family. Being a mom is the most important job I have and I love what I do in the world supporting other women to have authentic and inspiring lives filled with joy and abundance. It isn't always easy to balance the two but I believe it is possible. I believe th

at in every challenge, failure, and trauma there is a blessing waiting to be discovered, an opportunity for growth, and these life lessons are easier to find and implement in community of caring and compassionate humans.

09/12/2026

I’ve spent years studying what creates real change—and there are a few things I’m no longer willing to compromise on.

The hills I’ll die on:

→ Insight is valuable. But understanding a pattern isn’t the same as changing it.

→ Being successful and high-functioning does not automatically mean you’re emotionally regulated.

→ Your past may explain your patterns. It doesn’t have to determine your future.

→ You cannot shame, criticize, or force yourself into lasting emotional change.

→ Sometimes what looks like an “overreaction” is actually your brain responding exactly as it learned to respond.

→ Healing isn’t about never getting triggered. It’s about no longer being controlled by the trigger.

→ And one of my biggest: You do not have to spend the rest of your life managing old emotional code.

We are capable of change at a much deeper level than most of us have been taught. BOOK HERE to learn more: https://rrest.drcindysholes.com/free-soul-strategy-session-page?utm_firsttouchsource=FacebookB&utm_campaign=Social&utm_offer=SoulStrategy&utm_lp=SoulStrategy&utm_content=FBvideoSept

Which hill are you standing on with me? And is there one you’d add?

09/10/2026

How much of what we call “personality” is actually old code?

We all have emotional responses that were learned somewhere along the way.

At one point, that programming may have made perfect sense. Your brain adapted to what you were experiencing and learned how to respond.

But years later, the circumstances have changed—and sometimes the code hasn’t.

So something happens today, and suddenly an old response is running the show.

What I find so hopeful about the brain is that old code doesn’t have to remain the operating system.

When we can access and reprocess the pattern at its source, we can begin creating a different response—one that better reflects who we are now, rather than what we learned then.

I talk about how we approach this with rREST in this video.

And it leaves us with an interesting question:

What “old code” might you still be running?

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08/28/2026

“Our children are our greatest teachers.”

I loved this part of my conversation with Ariel Balfour on the Feral and Free podcast because it captures something I see so often in healing work.

Our children can find the buttons we didn’t even realize were there—and press them.

But instead of seeing those moments only as frustration or conflict, what if we became curious about what they’re showing us?

Why is that particular button so easily pushed? Where did that reaction begin? And what might change if we worked with the wound or pattern underneath it?

That’s where a trigger can become an invitation to heal.

And as Ariel shares so beautifully in this clip, doing that work isn’t only about changing our own responses. It can also help us become more conscious of the patterns we pass on to our children.

🎙️ Listen to my full conversation with Ariel on the Feral and Free podcast for more of our discussion.

If you’re ready to explore what your own triggers may be trying to show you, I’d love to work with you. Book a Soul Strategy Session with me, and let’s explore it together. 🤍 Book Here: https://rrest.drcindysholes.com/free-soul-strategy-session?utm_Externalsource=Blog&utm_channel=LeadGen&utm_Offer=SoulStrategy&utm_LP=home

08/23/2026

“I’ve probably had 80 conversations about getting through this stuff…”

Sometimes insight isn’t the missing piece.

You can talk it through. Understand the pattern. Work with a coach. Know exactly what you should be thinking differently…

…and still find yourself wrestling with the same thoughts, reactions, or limiting beliefs.

What this client experienced was different.

Instead of continuing to work at the level of the conscious mind, our work helped address the deeper beliefs underneath the pattern—so change didn’t have to feel like a constant mental battle.

Her words: “It takes the work out of trying to wrestle those thoughts away.”

That’s the shift.

Not fighting yourself harder.
Getting to what’s underneath.

If you’re ready to uncover the patterns that may be keeping you from what you want, book a Soul Strategy Session: https://rrest.drcindysholes.com/free-soul-strategy-session?utm_Externalsource=Blog&utm_channel=LeadGen&utm_Offer=SoulStrategy&utm_LP=home

✨ Your breakthrough may not require more effort. It may require a different approach.

08/20/2026

What if the hardest seasons of your life weren’t signs that something had gone wrong—but invitations to become who you were always meant to be?

Aging has a way of stripping away the things we once relied on: achievement, productivity, approval, even the roles we’ve spent decades building.

And sometimes, that stripping away hurts.

But suffering can also be a threshold—a sacred signal that the old way no longer fits and something deeper is asking to emerge.

In my latest blog, The Sacred Gifts of Aging, I explore how pain, dissatisfaction, and transition can become catalysts for awakening, truth, and transformation—at any age.

🕊 Read the full blog: https://www.drcindysholes.com/blog/%f0%9f%8c%bf-the-sacred-gifts-of-aging/

And if you’re ready to explore what this season is asking of you, book a Soul Strategy Session with me: https://rrest.drcindysholes.com/free-soul-strategy-session?utm_Externalsource=Blog&utm_channel=LeadGen&utm_Offer=SoulStrategy&utm_LP=home

08/13/2026

I loved this moment from my conversation with Ariel Balfour on the Feral and Free podcast.

During our conversation, Ariel shared her personal experience with rREST and why it has become one of her favorite healing modalities. She described her first experience as a “full circle” moment—an evolution of healing.

Hearing her put it into those words was incredibly meaningful to me because it speaks to why I designed rREST the way I did.

Sometimes the reaction we’re experiencing today is connected to something much deeper—a wound or pattern that continues to create reactivity in the nervous system.

The intention of rREST isn’t simply to manage that reaction. It’s to identify what may be underneath it, work with it at its source, and create the opportunity for a different response.

🎙️ If this conversation has you curious about rREST, I invite you to listen to my full episode with Ariel on the Feral and Free podcast.

And if you’re interested in exploring this work for yourself, book a Soul Strategy Session with me. I’d love to learn more about what you’re experiencing and explore how I may be able to help. 🤍 https://rrest.drcindysholes.com/free-soul-strategy-session?utm_Externalsource=Blog&utm_channel=LeadGen&utm_Offer=SoulStrategy&utm_LP=home

08/11/2026

Hypnosis probably isn’t what you think it is.

It’s not about losing control or having someone “take over” your mind.

In fact, your brain already knows how to enter this kind of focused state—you’ve likely experienced it many times without realizing it.

And that’s where things get interesting.

Because when we learn how to work intentionally with the subconscious mind, we can begin to uncover the patterns behind reactions, behaviors, and beliefs that willpower alone hasn’t been able to change.

Watch the reel and see if hypnosis suddenly feels a lot less mysterious. 🎥

Ready to explore what may be happening beneath the surface?

✨ Book a Soul Strategy Session with Dr. Cindy:
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06/14/2026

If your father was distant, critical, or emotionally unavailable, you may still be paying the price today.

The effect of your relationship with your dad isn't just about what happened in childhood.

It's about how those experiences continue to shape your relationships, confidence, and emotional reactions as an adult.

A father who was cold, abusive, controlling, or absent often leaves more than painful memories.

He leaves patterns.

You may find yourself seeking approval, overachieving, fearing rejection, struggling to trust, or feeling emotionally triggered in ways that don't make sense.

These aren't flaws.

They're survival strategies your nervous system learned long ago.
But what was learned can be changed.

When you understand the root of your triggers, you can stop repeating old patterns and begin creating healthier relationships—with others and with yourself.

Healing isn't about blaming your father.

It's about reclaiming your power.

Ready to understand what's really driving your reactions and create lasting change?

Schedule a Free Strategy Session: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/soul-strategy-session

Let's get started.

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06/10/2026

You've read the books.

You've tried harder.

You've had the conversations.

And yet, somehow, you keep finding yourself in the same relationship patterns.

Here's why:

Most relationship struggles aren't caused by what you're doing wrong today. They're rooted in subconscious patterns, emotional conditioning, and nervous system responses that were formed long before this relationship ever began.

That's why more effort often doesn't create lasting change.

Real transformation happens when you uncover the root.

When you understand what's driving the reaction, you can finally create a different response—and a different result.

If you're ready to stop managing symptoms and start addressing the source, book a Soul Strategy Session and discover what's really keeping you stuck.

Book your session today: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/soul-strategy-session

GRAB YOURS NOW ✨The paperback edition of Triggered: From Reaction to Resilience is officially here.Yesterday’s release c...
05/21/2026

GRAB YOURS NOW ✨

The paperback edition of Triggered: From Reaction to Resilience is officially here.

Yesterday’s release celebration and panel discussion brought together powerful conversations around emotional triggers, nervous system responses, healing patterns, relationships, resilience, and personal transformation.

We explored why so many high-achieving people stay stuck in cycles of overwhelm, reactivity, burnout, and disconnection — and what it actually takes to create lasting change from the inside out.

Thank you to everyone who joined us live!

🎥 The recording is now available if you missed it or want to watch again.

📘 Paperback now available
🔗 Recording: https://www.youtube.com/live/ljg6Fx-xAIo?si=Gbith0dWxRYu-z-0
Book Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1971349992

This book was written to help people move beyond survival patterns and reconnect with clarity, self-awareness, emotional resilience, and fulfillment.

Your triggers are not the problem.
They are the doorway to healing.

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