10/15/2026
Low key, fam, I made this a long time ago, and almost deleted it because I landed myself in a pretty happy committed partnership 😅 but with Venus in retrograde, and the nature of my work with be so fr - your authentic hype woman, I’ve found the message to be actually pretty relevant anyhow.
So I updated it & I’m posting it anyway — and I was intentional about none of them have anything to do with being partnered, because I’ll be so fr: my power isn’t about that, and neither is yours.
When I watch that first clip back, I remember exactly what I was feeling. It was fall 2024, and I was completely and utterly alone, but somehow, still so in my power.
I’d finalized a divorce that year from a relationship that made me question my value and purpose in the world, doubt my capabilities and capacity to be successful, and confront my own limiting beliefs, my people pleasing behaviors, and my codependency as well as my dependency. And I say that with zero shade to my ex-husband; I’d been waking up to the reality that this was bigger than the state of my marital partnership, it was the way I’ve actually always been. I’d been at war with myself and my own potential my whole life, and by 35, my mind was so clouded with their opinions and beliefs, their patterns of behavior and my submission, and it was hard to sort out what was real — and I had to find out.
I kept a little video diary back then. I was talking to myself a lot back then, and learning how to hear my own story, my own thoughts, and my own voice.
I talked about the heartbreak and being alone, but as I sat in silence, I realized— this is what I wanted. This is my life, I had exercised my power, and I was in the reality I created. HOW POWERFUL.
And I was never going to give it away again.
Now, this is just an Instagram reel, barely a peek into the life that followed. It’s exclusively professional endeavors, but it doesn’t even scratch the surface of all the things I’ve created since then. A whole home, a career, travel, new love, education, community, and so so much more.
Breaking out of the way I did life was scary. But it was worth it. It’s scary to own your power, but it will be worth it,