10/10/2026
From one of our Sister FBEAP Facilitators.
1. They demand unquestioning submission.
Any disagreement is labeled as rebellion, disrespect, or a lack of faith.
2. They weaponize forgiveness.
They pressure others to forgive quickly while refusing to acknowledge or change their own harmful behavior.
3. They believe they are spiritually superior.
They act as though they are closer to God than everyone else.
4. They use Scripture to control people.
Bible verses become tools for manipulation instead of love, wisdom, and truth.
5. They appear holy but lack humility.
They focus on looking righteous while resisting correction and accountability.
6. They lack genuine compassion.
They may speak about love and grace but show little empathy when others are hurting.
7. They seek admiration through ministry.
Serving God becomes a way to gain praise, influence, or status rather than to glorify God.
8. They refuse to take responsibility.
Mistakes are blamed on others, spiritual attacks, or misunderstandings instead of being honestly confessed.
9. They maintain a polished public image.
People at church see kindness and generosity, while family members experience control, intimidation, or emotional abuse.
10. They use God to justify abusive behavior.
They claim divine authority to silence, shame, or dominate others rather than reflecting Christ's character.
A person can be deeply involved in church and still display narcissistic traits. Faith should never be used to excuse manipulation or abuse. Healthy Christian leadership reflects humility, accountability, compassion, and genuine love for others.
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