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Coaching Christian Women in Emotionally Abusive Relationships Who Have Had An Affair
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07/22/2025

If you’ve been feeling more tired than usual lately.
If your body is asking for slowness, stillness, or space.
That doesn’t mean you’re lazy.
It might mean you’re finally safe enough to rest.

Coming out of a toxic or emotionally harmful relationship often leaves us depleted. Physically. Mentally. Spiritually.
For years, we’ve lived in survival mode.
Hypervigilant. Overfunctioning. Running on fumes.

And now?
Our bodies are catching up.
Our nervous systems are asking for something different.

Not more pushing.
Not more pretending.

But rest.
Gentle rhythms.
Compassion instead of self-criticism.

That’s what I’m learning too. And I wrote about it this week in my latest newsletter.

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07/19/2025

We were taught to look for the good.
To believe the best.
To focus on their strengths, not their flaws.

And maybe that worked—for a while.

But in emotionally abusive relationships, that kind of thinking keeps us stuck.
Because harm doesn’t disappear when we ignore it.
We just start gaslighting ourselves into thinking it’s not real.

You’re not “too sensitive” for noticing what hurts.
You’re not a nag for recognizing patterns.
You’re honoring the truth of what’s really happening.

You’re not the problem—you’re the one waking up.
Save this post if you’re starting to trust what you see.

07/15/2025

Feelings aren’t the problem. Ignoring them is.

Most of us were never taught what to do with anger, sadness, fear, or even joy.
We learned to push them down, brush them off, or apologize for having them at all.

Even the messy emotions are valid.
They’re not signs of failure—they’re signals.
They show up when something matters, when something hurts, or when something needs attention.

Shame tells us to silence them.
Healing says: listen in.

If your feelings have felt like too much, that makes sense.
You’ve been carrying a lot for a long time.

It’s okay to stop pretending everything’s fine.
It’s okay to start being honest about what hurts.

07/12/2025

At first, that might feel harsh.
Especially when life has handed us so many invisible barriers including expectations, obligations, and rules we never agreed to but followed anyway.

But some of the limits we live by now?
They're old. Outdated. Built in survival mode.
Maybe they helped us feel safe once. Maybe they kept the peace.

But what if they’re not serving us anymore?

What if we’re allowed to change our mind about what’s possible?

Not overnight. Not all at once.
But gently, with curiosity.
With the kind of love we’ve always given everyone else—but now offer to ourselves, too.

We can loosen the grip of old limits with one honest step at a time.

07/10/2025

Some truths aren’t easy to swallow—especially for those of us who spent years trying to keep the peace, fix the problems, or earn love by being good enough.

But part of healing is seeing what we couldn’t (or wouldn’t) before.

That not everyone is safe.
That wanting someone to change doesn’t make them willing.
That being kind doesn’t mean people will treat us well in return.
That we don’t have to keep betraying ourselves to belong.

These truths hurt, but they also hold freedom.
They help us stop trying to carry what was never ours to fix.
They show us where we end and others begin.
And they open the door to a different kind of peace, the kind that doesn’t depend on anyone else.

07/08/2025

Radical acceptance doesn’t mean we like what’s happening. It means we stop pretending things aren’t what they are.

When we stop fighting reality and stop blaming ourselves for things we couldn’t control, we make space for change.
And that space?

That’s where we come back to ourselves.

That’s where self-compassion begins to soften the shame we’ve carried.

That’s when we start to believe a different kind of life might actually be possible.

Not perfect. But peaceful.

Not easy. But honest.

Not for everyone else. But finally for us.

We don’t have to keep disappearing to keep the peace.

We’re allowed to show up with truth, tenderness, and the courage to heal.

If something inside you whispered “yes” while reading this, trust that.

You’re waking up, not falling apart.

You’re beginning to name what’s been hurting you and that’s how healing starts.

07/05/2025

Trauma teaches us to hold on tight.
Even when it hurts. Even when we felt confused, overwhelmed, and exhausted.
Because the idea of losing them felt scarier than losing ourselves.

But healing teaches us something different.
It shows us that our worth isn’t tied to someone else's approval or behavior.
It reminds us that disappearing to make others comfortable isn’t love—it’s living in survival mode.
And we don’t have to live in survival anymore.

We are allowed to let go.
To choose ourselves.
To stop shrinking in order to keep the peace.

You deserve a life where you don’t have to disappear to be loved.

If you're tired of losing yourself in relationships that drain you, this is your sign to try something different.

07/04/2025

This Fourth of July, let’s talk about a different kind of freedom.

Not the fireworks and flags kind—
The quiet, courageous kind.

The freedom to stop pretending everything is fine.
The freedom to say, “This is not okay,” and mean it.
The freedom to walk away from emotional harm, even if others don’t understand.

For many of us, the hardest battle isn’t outside, it’s the one inside.
The tug-of-war between what we were taught to endure and what we’re finally learning we deserve.

God doesn’t call us to stay trapped in pain to protect an image.
He calls us to truth. To healing. To peace.

So if today feels complicated, if you’re celebrating and grieving, you're not alone.
There’s a different kind of independence worth fighting for.
And you’re allowed to pursue it.

If you’re ready to stop disappearing in your own life, I’d love to support you. Free next step strategy sessions available at calledtohelpothers.com.

07/03/2025

“You’re too sensitive.”
“That never happened.”
“I never said that.”
“You always twist my words.”
“You’re overreacting.”
"You're the problem.:
"if you'd loved me, you'd..."

These phrases aren’t just frustrating—they’re manipulative.

They’re meant to make you question your memory, your feelings, your reality.
This is called gaslighting—a form of emotional abuse that slowly wears away your confidence and trust in yourself.

At first, we defend ourselves.
Then we start doubting ourselves.
And eventually… we wonder if we are the problem.

But you’re not imagining it.
And you’re not too sensitive.
You’re being messed with. And naming it is the first step to getting free.

Have you heard any of these? What impact did it have on you?

07/01/2025

Growth often means getting uncomfortable on purpose.
And that can feel… scary.

We’ve spent so long avoiding conflict, staying small, and keeping others happy,
that stepping into something new feels like danger.

But discomfort isn’t always a warning sign.
Sometimes it’s a welcome mat to transformation.

Change stretches us—
Not to break us, but to rebuild us.

If it feels hard right now, that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It might mean you're finally doing something different.

What kind of discomfort are you facing that might actually be a sign of growth?

06/28/2025

What would it look like to live in peace—
not just keep the peace?

So many of us were taught that peace means staying quiet.
Smiling through the tension.
Avoiding the hard conversations.
Swallowing our needs to keep things calm on the surface.

But that’s not peace.
That’s self-abandonment dressed up as harmony.

Real peace feels different.
It feels like safety in your own body.
It sounds like saying no without guilt.
It looks like being honest, even if it rocks the boat.

We don’t have to spend our whole lives managing everyone else’s emotions just to avoid conflict.

What’s one small way we could move toward living in peace this week?

06/26/2025

What if the way he thinks... isn’t normal?
It’s not a difference in personality.
It’s a difference in entitlement.

Swipe through to see what the narcissist mindset often sounds like👇
🔸 “You owe me loyalty—no matter how I treat you.”
🔸 “You exist to meet my needs.”
🔸 “I’m the victim here—you’re too sensitive.”
🔸 “If you really loved me, you’d forgive and forget.”
🔸 “I wouldn’t act this way if you didn’t push me.”

These aren’t just unhealthy patterns.
They are control tactics—designed to confuse you, guilt you, and keep you stuck.

Naming them is the first step toward breaking free.
You’re not difficult. You’re not overreacting.
You’re waking up.

Have you heard any of these before?

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