Paul Babin, Professional Life Coach

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Do you ever ask yourself…

· Why is our relationship such a struggle?
· Can my partner and I have a conversation that doesn’t turn into an argument?
· Am I ever going to feel appreciated by her/him?
· Will my partner ever be able to just listen to me without judging, correcting or criticizing me?

If so, you're not alone. In our first marriages, Vickie and I asked these questions…often.

Paul: “It felt like whenever my ex-wife and I tried to talk about something important, we’d end up in a fight. My solution was to back off, withdraw, and just avoid asking for what I needed. My wife would react to my withdrawal by attacking and getting in my face. It was a destructive dance.
VICKIE: “In my first marriage, I frequently blamed and criticized my husband. I withheld my feelings and did not know how to listen without going on the defensive. Then I wondered why I didn’t have the closeness I wanted.”

Nearly all of us enter into the most important relationships of our lives with absolutely no training, skills, or understanding about what it takes to make those relationships work, let alone thrive.
Our parents didn’t prepare us and our education system, even at the highest levels, neglected to teach the skills for healthy relating. So--through no fault of our own--we find ourselves as adults unable to create the connections we so deeply long for.
No wonder we feel frustrated, misunderstood and disconnected.
No wonder we feel lost, helpless, and defeated.
The good news?
You can change.

Paul and I both:
…came from alcoholic homes where we learned to abandon ourselves early in life.
…came from first marriages where we did not understand what it took to create real intimacy with our partner.
But eventually, we did the work to heal our wounds and create a deeply connected and fulfilling relationship. We learned how to communicate with each other in a way that creates real intimacy. We learned how to stop abandoning ourselves and stop criticizing each other. We learned how to let the other person be who they are without penalty. The best part: We’re both having an experience of love that we didn’t even know existed. And it continues to grow.

If you want to learn the skills that lead to real connection, join us for our upcoming LIVE webinar: How to Feel More Heard, Understood and Appreciated in Your Relationship. We will share with you the most important thing you can do to create more closeness with your partner (or future partner!). FOLLOW THE LINK BELOW TO LEARN MORE AND REGISTER.

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